The family was obviously posing for a picture so I doubt they are upset at the "invasion of their privacy". Sorry, but I consider all cast members of reality shows famewhores, except for the talent show type. All those housewives & Jersey whores, I mean Shores, & Paris Hilton, & all the Kardashians...ugh.
I heard cousin Amy posted the pics on her Facebook page and one of her "friends" posted them elsewhere on the Internet.
And so is the healthy baby girl who's leaving an LA area hospital shortly (maybe today), ~three months after being born prematurely ... weighing 9 ounces.
The baby in LA was born alive Jubilee was miscarried, or still born if you want to look at it that way. IMO she was a fetus, not a baby.
And while the Duggars can say the photos were released without their permission if they use them for campaigns (yet to be seen) IMO they will be exploiting yet another of their children (since obviously they classify her as such. Oddly, we never hear about Caleb.)
Everything they do is for show.
Why is writing a letter to your baby disgusting and awful? They are probably trying to rectify the situation with the pictures and obviously, they are heartbroken. This is their 20th child, no matter what.
For the record, I was born at barely 26 weeks. My parents were counseled to abort me instead. Thank God I am alive--and I was born relatively healthy, too. Shocked the doctors who told my parents that I would die anyway.
I'd like to know if we were not discussing the Duggars, but another family who:
1. didn't have 19 kids and had a infant loss
2. didn't have a reality show
3. did take pictures of their baby in a casket
4. did post pictures of the baby on their facebook page for family and friends to see
5. did write and recorded a poem/reading dedicated to their infant and posted on their facebook page for family and friends to see/hear
would we still have the type of reaction these action? I don't agree with the Duggars having 19 or 20 kids, the choices that they have made to exploit those kids/lifestyle, but that doesn't negate the depth of infant loss that someone feels. I don't claim to know what their motives are or who the target audience is of displaying the pictures or poem reading, but I do believe that they are grieving parents/siblings of a baby who died.
But we aren't discussing that fictional family who follows those 5 things you listed. That changes things.
If it were a different family, yeah, maybe that audio letter would be considered sweet. But it's not a different family.
Everyone feels these sorts of losses at different levels, including the Duggars. They may feel the loss of this child more, or less, than you would have. But a family that has put their entire lives on display and done (what many consider to be) outlandish things to gain fame and attention is going to be treated differently when it comes to these things than a typical family would.
And, IMO, well they should be.
I also agree that it is hypocritical to ask for privacy and then post that audio poem. That's the opposite of being private about this.
My best friend had a stillbirth in her sixth month. She joined an online support group for women who lost infants during pregnancy or within the first year. I don't know if they are still there, but she was shown how to make a memorial website for her baby complete with letters, poems and for those possible, photos of footprints or the baby itself. This was in the days before facebook and maybe before myspace as well. The family may ask for privacy but they also have the need to grieve. My friend's way of grieving was to create the website, the Duggars chose facebook.