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    High School Reunions

    I know people have brought this up before but I couldn't find the threads.

    My 10 year High School Reunion is in a week and a half. I have been back and forth about whether or not to attend but I finally decided I would go. It is a 3 hour trip but I still have family there so I have a place to stay and get to see family as an added bonus.

    Sometimes I feel embarrassed to go because it has been 10 years and I am just now in my final semester of college and I currently have no job. I don't think that is what I feel like telling people when they ask what I have been up to. I know there is more to it than just that but I don't feel like telling everyone every detail from the last 10 years, haha.

    For those that have been: Was it fun? Did it feel like a competition of who has become the most successful since HS or was everyone just happy to see each other and catch up?

    I was also scared to go because I wasn't sure who of my closest friends would be there. Now I got in contact and found out most of them are going so the people I mainly want to see will be there after all, some of them I haven't seen but once since HS!

    I am excited and nervous at the same time but I miss my old friends so I don't want to regret missing this chance to see them.
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    I've been lucky that the reunions I've attended (I've been to the 5, 10, 15 and 20) have never ended up as a "I'm doing better than you" competition. Even the 5 year was more about catching up with people. That being said, I know some people who have had miserable time at their reunions.

    Go with the mind set that you are seeing people you want to see and visit with--that is the whole purpose of the trip. You can ignore the others.
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    My 10 year reunion put a lot of things in perspective for me. Those that always tried to impress, either had given up, or their opinions didn't matter to me any more. A few tried to sell me insurance, and one really nice, but shy classmate, told me she always liked me. She just didn't have the nerve to tell me.

    I learned how unimportant status was to me. We remembered those who had passed (we lost 2 classmates over that 10 years), with fond memories. The guy who always bullied me, tried to apologize, without REALLY apologizing, if you can understand that. I saw my favorite teacher,,,the one who always encouraged me. I saw the one who I never liked, and swore never liked me. We made no peace, but I had a little better perspective of from where all her anger came. And amazingly, to another couple of students, she was their favorite teacher!
    To sum it up, it helped me to let go of a lot of what happened to me then, and what didn't.

    It all didn't change, but I did.

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    I went to my 5-year and 10-year and they were great. People mixed well outside of their high school groups and I had a great time.

    My 20th was not as good. I don't know if there was a different group of people there or what, but it was very clique-y.

    There's talk of doing a 30th on facebook or maybe a combined one with the class of 1981 since they didn't have one this year. If they do, I hope they do it like 1980 did theirs last year - in a great big barn with a band and casual clothes. I don't want to have to get all dressed up
    Last edited by purple skates; 08-19-2011 at 12:07 AM. Reason: It would have been quite interesting to have a reunion in a great big bard but alas, poor Yorick, it was a barn instead.

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    I went to my ten year reunion and it was pretty fun. But I did mostly hang out with my friends, although I did talk for a short time to a girl who had been my best friend in 8th and 9th grade and then we had a giant fight (I'm sure over something totally important ) and we had a nice chat.

    I admit that I was very disappointed that my friend that I thought was going to be the first woman president was a stay at home mom with three kids. I know everyone should do what they love, but, damn, she would've been a great politician.

    But go and have fun. The kid who told my friend to "get the hell out of America" if she didn't like it when he bullied her? Beer gut, divorced and unemployed. Oh yeah.

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    My ten year would be in 2014, but I doubt I would go even if they have one. I've kept in close contact with my closest friends and Facebook pretty much does the rest for anyone else. I would go and have fun, especially if you know you'll see some people you really want to see

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    My ten year was a lot of fun. We all had our bff's of course but the cliques evaporated once the party started. Maturity is undervalued in my book as it sure made a difference at the reunion.

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    I went to my five year and my ten year reunions. Not been back since, this summer was the 40th year.
    five year was fun basically because my friends were there but then there were also the guys by the portapotties (it was at a private parklike area) doing coke and the wife of an old boyfriend who came screaming at him and me and my husband because Dan said hi.
    Ten year was difficult for a number of personal reasons, including a good friend of mine dropping off the face of the earth - she had two children who died and one with significant brain injury due to premature birth. I have searched for her for years and still can't find her.
    I say go if you want to, don't stress out over what people will say. If they ask what you are doing, just simply say I am completing college courses and expect to graduate in ____. Those who matter will say great, those who don't well, they don't.

    I think it depends on the size of the class as to whether or not people remember much about anything. My class had 500+ graduates. At the 40th reunion I heard that somewhere around 120 attended and that included people from two years before and two years after my class. Granted we have had about 50 or 60 people in my class die, but still not a lot of interest.

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    My 10th was interesting seeing the people who had changed and those who hadn't. There was a group of former BMOC's who stayed in town and worked at places like machine shops who still thought they ruled the roost. Some many of us had gotten college degrees and had good success at age 28, yet we somehow were still viewed as losers by these guys. Frankly it was quite pathetic.

    Then you always had the fat kid that lost a lot of weight that nobody recognized, and it was great fun being fooled by him.

    At our 20th there was the strangest situation. A guy who went to school with most of us from middle school through sophomore year before he moved away and didn't graduate with us, came to the reunion. We all liked the guy, so no one minded. But it turned out that he came back specifically to apologize to a number of people because all through middle school and his two years of high school he'd been stealing stuff and money from a lot of the kids and he came back to apologize. Anyone who knew him knew he had a horrible home life, and evidently this was how he worked out his anxiety at home by stealing from people. He'd grown up, gotten some therapy, and part of the healing process was owning up to what he did.

    Something strange seems to always happen at our reunions...

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    I will never go to my reunion because the people I want to see will never show up and the people I could care less about will. One of my friends will never go because of the way they forced her dad, who was a teacher at the school, into retirement. Another won't go after she sent an alumni update about her marriage and the editors deleted her spouse's name because she happened to marry another woman. And then there's the fact that the organizers always try to hit people up for money. If I knew that the money was going to providing less fortunate kids scholarships, I'd donate. But they only seem to give it to the athletes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KHenry14 View Post
    At our 20th there was the strangest situation. A guy who went to school with most of us from middle school through sophomore year before he moved away and didn't graduate with us, came to the reunion. We all liked the guy, so no one minded. But it turned out that he came back specifically to apologize to a number of people because all through middle school and his two years of high school he'd been stealing stuff and money from a lot of the kids and he came back to apologize. Anyone who knew him knew he had a horrible home life, and evidently this was how he worked out his anxiety at home by stealing from people. He'd grown up, gotten some therapy, and part of the healing process was owning up to what he did.

    Something strange seems to always happen at our reunions...
    It also sounds like he could have been in a 12 step program.

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    I thought that too.

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    I've never been and probably would never go, but I wish you a really great time, BigB08822

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    Oh yes--our 15th--I really thought I'd wandered into an official meeting of the Hair Club for Men--never have seen so many balding guys in one place before.
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    I went to my 10 year reunion and it was horrid. All the b*tches I went to school with had become even worse b*tches. And for some reason the majority of my graduating class either became physical therapists or car mechanics. To add insult to injury, someone had the brilliant idea to play all the hit songs from our year. I should not admit this, but I graduated in 1978. Can you say BeeGees, anyone?

    Once was enough and I never went to another reunion.

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    I will be attending my first reunion on Oct 1. Believe it or not, it will be the 50th!

    I have been living too far away to attend earlier reunions, but now am only 3 hours away so figure I should attend. It might be the last one for my class!

    Needless to say I have not kept in touch with many of my class, only one, in fact. And I have almost no memory of high school.

    There shouldn't be too much competition because most people will be happily retired by now. We will all just be happy to be able to attend.

    In anticipation of this reunion, I have done what everyone else does. Lose weight, work out, etc. I look better than I did 6 months ago, but nothing like I did in 1961. I wonder why that is?

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    Quote Originally Posted by KHenry14 View Post
    My 10th was interesting seeing the people who had changed and those who hadn't.
    Indeed. Some people put on weight. But many didn't. My reunions were always fun.

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    Even though I haven't been to a High School reunion, it promoted me to do a search on my old schools and I found this website which I think is an international one. My old schools were on there and some people I used to know.

    http://www.schoolfriends.com.au/
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    Quote Originally Posted by Yehudi View Post
    I will never go to my reunion because the people I want to see will never show up and the people I could care less about will.
    This is very, very true, especially regarding people you had crushes on in HS. After neither of mine showed for either the 5th or 10th I lost interest in going.
    "In no way do I think I stopped commanding a spotlight. I think I travel with one." -- Johnny Weir

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    I've only been to one, I think it was my 25th & it was ok but I haven't been back even though it's only about 2 hrs away. Very few of my classmates ever got out of that little town & we didn't have much in common anymore although they were nice enough.

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