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    How would you react?

    As I raced to get a lift at a shopping centre, some guy who was already in there made a comment about how I looked like a woman on mission to spend up big on my credit card. I was actually in a rush because I was grabbing a bite to eat before I had to go somewhere else.

    Anyway my response was reply quite indignantly "Sorry but I am not your stereotypical woman". He was kind of taken aback because he thought he was being funny and made some comment about his assumption which I said was pretty bad one.

    Would you react the same way? Should I have taken it with good humour or and give him the benefit of the doubt? Or should he be called to account for making a statement that is not true of all people of a certain gender?
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    I would've laughed it off, though to be fair, if there was a good sale, I may have been in rush to buy something.

    You could've just said something like, "Not all women are like that, you know," without getting indignant.

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    I hate people who make asinine comments because they think they're being funny. I probably would have said something far more rude to him.
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    It depends on few other factors…..

    I would make a mental note that he is stereotyping. Although when there are big sales at Malls or Department stores, as we see it on TV, it is mostly women who rush the doors…

    Depending on his age, appearance, facial expression, tone of voice and perhaps body language, I might have also thought he is either flirting or just being a wise arse…

    If a guy in a shopping centre would say to me that I looked like a woman on a mission to spend up big on my credit card, I would say “yes, very much in a hurry to buy a new tie and cufflinks for my new handsome secretary”.

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    Wouldn't have bothered me at all - I probably would have just given him a genuinely quizzical smile.
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    I like your response. Clever. I always wonder why people say stuff like he did. So strange, makes an odd first impression.

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    I would probably be instantly paranoid (I hate elevators, and being in one with some strange man wouldn't help) and say something about not having any money to spend, just meeting a friend who's treating for lunch. And hope he doesn't rob or kill me.

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    I'm one to respond, although my on the spot ones very rarely match the one liners I come up with later. With benefit of thought "No, just racing to get the jaws of life to extricate your foot from your mouth."
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    Quote Originally Posted by milanessa View Post
    Wouldn't have bothered me at all - I probably would have just given him a genuinely quizzical smile.
    What if he is cute and will be good for an hour of entertainment and flirting?... never hurts to say "I'll start spending now by buying you lunch... "...

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    You can generally tell by a person's demeanor and tone of voice if he was joking or not. If the guy was clearly going for a light-hearted moment then I think it's unnecessary to "put him in his place", so to speak, with some smart-alecky reply; It just make you look like you need to take a chill pill But again, it depends also on what mood the recipient of the intended joke was in at the moment. Everyone has his/her moment.

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    I would have ignored him. I don't talk to crazy people.
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    I'd have probably just laughed.

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    I would have said "yes! There's a huge sale at the porn shop and today is grandma's birthday!"
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    I'd probably have just said thanks for holding the elevator and otherwise ignored him. If he were trying to make a joke, no matter how lame, I'd probably have just smiled. Generally I try not to get too worked up over what strangers think when it will have no impact on my life.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tinami Amori View Post
    What if he is cute and will be good for an hour of entertainment and flirting?... never hurts to say "I'll start spending now by buying you lunch... "...
    Better make sure first that he either (1) isn't married or (2) that his girlfriend/boyfriend isn't standing a few inches behind him

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    I'd have told him I was rushing because I had to pass gas really badly, and figured the lift was where it would be the most contained, sparing everyone else in the mall.

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    Quote Originally Posted by orbitz View Post
    You can generally tell by a person's demeanor and tone of voice if he was joking or not. If the guy was clearly going for a light-hearted moment then I think it's unnecessary to "put him in his place", so to speak, with some smart-alecky reply; It just make you look like you need to take a chill pill But again, it depends also on what mood the recipient of the intended joke was in at the moment. Everyone has his/her moment.
    I wouldn't care if he was joking or not. I don't like when total strangers think they have the right to joke with me, plus his comment was not funny in the least. I think Aussie Willy reacted like I would except I wouldn't have thought of as good a comeback as she did.

    Quote Originally Posted by Cyn View Post
    I'd have told him I was rushing because I had to pass gas really badly, and figured the lift was where it would be the most contained, sparing everyone else in the mall.
    Or this.

    ETA: while we're on the subject, I can't stand to be called little lady, youngun', honey, darling, or the like. These are also demeaning, just like assuming all women are gaga for sales & shopping is. I despise shopping & I have to be forced into a mall. If I was rushing into an elevator it would probably be because I was rushing to get out of there.

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    I would have given him the "Southern Lady Freeze." This consists of stopping, looking at him like he was something you found on the bottom of your shoe, putting your nose slightly upwind, and with a slight shake of your head gone on your way as if he was of too little consequence to acknowledge. No mistake, he was after a response from you, and he was out to needle if not hurt. This was the "almost" kind of attack that men with no balls throw out there. I've listened to this crap all my life, and I do not think at all he was just trying to be cute. That was a stereotypical put down, and if he said it in a cute way, he was just trying to get away with being an ass and having an easy cop-out if you called him on it. You can never win by saying anything back to these jerks. Just put the f***** in his place without saying a word. He'll get the message.

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    Quote Originally Posted by danceronice View Post
    I'd have probably just laughed.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Aussie Willy View Post
    As I raced to get a lift at a shopping centre, some guy who was already in there made a comment about how I looked like a woman on mission to spend up big on my credit card. I was actually in a rush because I was grabbing a bite to eat before I had to go somewhere else.

    Anyway my response was reply quite indignantly "Sorry but I am not your stereotypical woman". He was kind of taken aback because he thought he was being funny and made some comment about his assumption which I said was pretty bad one.

    Would you react the same way? Should I have taken it with good humour or and give him the benefit of the doubt? Or should he be called to account for making a statement that is not true of all people of a certain gender?
    It doesn't sound like he was being intentionally offensive, but the comment sounds annoying, and a little patronizing. I think you said the right thing.

    Quote Originally Posted by genevieve View Post
    I hate people who make asinine comments because they think they're being funny. I probably would have said something far more rude to him.
    So do I genevieve. I'm the type of person who minds their own business when I'm out in public getting personal tasks done. Don't like interruptions or snarky comments, especially when they are unsolicited.

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