What a horrible story...his brother and sister seem to be just as traumatized as he was...
I blame the parents as well as the therapist. My parents raised kids during the same time period and would have never participated in this type of "therapy". We were spanked (not beaten) as kids because we did something wrong like lie, cheat or other types of bad behavior that deserved punishment.
There is no sense in this genderless garbage either. Just let the kids develop their own likes, dislikes and interests. Sometimes my brother played Barbies with me and I played army men with him...we both turned out OK.
This kind of therapy can often result in various forms of neurosis developing, alongside many others negative psychological consequences.
That's what happens when therapy isn't regulated properly. I just can't understand why psychologists aren't regulated properly like doctors. Clearly, self-regulation has proven to be insufficient.
In many countries, "therapists" using those methods can practice with impunity.
Germany is the only country I am aware of (there are more, I'm sure - or at least hope) where the regulations are suitably strict and such person wouldn't be allowed to practice legally.
I do find it hilarious how terrified not knowing somebody's biological sex (what kind of biological sex though?) makes people. F****** gender binary. Blergh.
Several posters have blamed Kirk Murphy's mother for allowing her son to be abused in this manner. What about his father? What man beats his child hard enough to raise welts on his body just because some psychologist says so? And not to make any excuses for George Rekers, but did he realize at the time how severely Kirk's father was beating him for racking up red chips?
Kirk's elder brother, Mark, describes a tense, fearful atmosphere in their home during this time. He dreaded seeing the chip count when he came home to school because he knew red chips meant his brother was going to get another beating. To his credit, he tried to protect his little brother, but he was just a child himself.
That's not healthy.
I agree with those who said that the child should know their sex...but should be allowed to play and dress however they want. Shiloh(Brad and Angelina's little girl) is a good example of letting the child express themselves how they want.
Anderson Cooper's show tonight (10pm EST) is about this.
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Slightly Wounding Banana list cont: MacMadame.
Not that folks think she is more blameworthy than the dad. Both of them are guilty in this, IMO, because you have to be an absolute moron to not realize there was something seriously wrong in what they were doing, on a number of levels, whether an expert was telling you to do it or not.I blame them for the way his life turned out," she said. "If one person causes another person's death, I don't care if it's 20 or 50 years later, it's the same as murder in my eyes.
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How dreadful and tragic.
The parents are as much to blame as the "Doctor" for condoning and participating in this "therapy" --- never mind their responsibility for their own attitudes and actions.
I hope that this report helps to end this sort of "behavior modification"/sexual identity alternation "therapy" forever.
Well, I hope the mother and father can sleep at night....I would not be able to.
Imagine what our world would be like if more parents took similar stands to improve things for their children...
Wow, this article is at once horrifying and depressing
"Marge, if you're going to get mad at me every time I do something stupid, then I guess I'm just going to have to stop doing stupid things!" - Homer Simpson in the Mr. Plow episode
I blame the parents more than the therapy, myself. I didn't see any indication that Rekers suggested that negative discouragement consisted of beating the child until he had welts all over his back and buttocks. The therapy was clearly horrible and came from a dark place, but what the parents did was, IMO, much more horrifying and damaging. It may have resulted from the therapy, but the parents were the ones who decided to put him in therapy in the first place and then took it way too far.
Why does anyone need to know the gender of a child (or of an adult, for that matter)? Why can't we treat people as people instead of "owner of a penis/vagina"?
And what purpose does it serve for strangers to know if one's child is male or female? So they can buy the girl a pink dress and the boy a toy gun?
Whether we like it or not, males and females are biologically different. For me and most post-pubescent females to not be visibly female would require surgical intervention. I could wear men's clothes, cut my hair short and try to lower my speaking voice, but without my (even below average sized) boobs being removed, there is still a tell-tale sign that I am female.
I don't really like the implication that the fact that anyone is visibly biologically female is a fault of society that must be rectified. The implication of that notion is that there is something wrong with being biologically female and with having stereotypically feminine interests and traits and that brings us right back to the issue in the article that started this thread.
It reminds me of the J.Crew episode of pink nail polish or the criticisms that the Jolie-Pitt couple gets for letting Shiloh wear boy clothes. You cannot foresee how a child will grow up to be based on the things they do as children. That's just it. They're children who are learning about the world and people do change over the course of their lives.
That doesn't mean that rogue "therapists" like him couldn't figure out some other way to do what they wanted to do, outside the university or with other funding. But at least now there are way better checks and balances on this sort of abuse passing as "research" than there were in the past.
Who wants to watch rich people eat pizza? They must have loved that in Bangladesh. - Randy Newman on the 2014 Oscars broadcast
What about these "therapists" who pander continually to religious groups and claim to be able to "change" the sexual orientation of someone?
Some well-known figures - like ( Rev.) Rex Haggard - and others - claim "healings".
IMO, these people and their claims damage the progress made toward scientific discovery, understanding and tolerance about sexual orientation and gender issues.