(((Hugs))) to you, woodstock, and to all of you here that have toxic family members. I can relate. Families and holidays: you gotta love 'em.
I have limited my contact with my toxic family member (my mother) as of a few years ago (after many years of hurt and heartache, unsucessfully trying to have a good relationship with her), and I have to tell you that making the decision to limit contact has done wonders for my mental state. I recommend it. You don't have to cut them out completely, but just keeping visits to a minimum, keeping conversation very light and casual, and making a decision to not engage in their nonsense can work out well.
The FSU anti-holiday sounds like heaven to me and is a little similar to what I did this year. I spent a quiet Christmas and week off from work with my daughter (who is also off from school); we've stayed up late watching movies/battle of the Nutcrackers/some skating, ate a lot of food and Christmas cookies, drank hot chocolate, saw a couple of friends, but for the most part, we've just hung around the house. Tonight we will be watching Toddlers and Tiaras so we can laugh and at the crazy pageant parents.