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    "It Gets Better!" - Worldwide Video Project Against Bullying

    People around the world (famous and otherwise) are reacting to the recent suicides of gay youth by creating videos about how "it gets better". I believe the project was started by writer Dan Savage and a website has been created to host some of the videos...

    It Gets Better!

    You can also find videos at youtube by using "it gets better" as your subject. The favourite I've found so far is by australian singer Sia:

    SIA - It Gets Better

    I also like the one from the cast members of "Wicked":

    Wicked Cast - It Gets Better

    Which are your favourites?
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    It is scary and sad how many suicides there have been over bullying in general. We as a society need to wake up and stand up against any form of verbal, physical, and emotional harassment, because it is WRONG. Every time I hear one of these stories my heart breaks. Something needs to be done. The "It Gets Better" project is a fantastic idea, but it's only the tip of the iceberg.

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    I really like all of them. Thanks for sharing, PeterG!



    Quote Originally Posted by Jenna View Post
    It is scary and sad how many suicides there have been over bullying in general. We as a society need to wake up and stand up against any form of verbal, physical, and emotional harassment, because it is WRONG. Every time I hear one of these stories my heart breaks. Something needs to be done. The "It Gets Better" project is a fantastic idea, but it's only the tip of the iceberg.
    I agree.

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    Thanks PeterG! Great campaign!

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    Found two more that I really like...

    Jewel - It Gets Better

    Jake Shears - Scissor Sisters

    The Jewel one is great, especially since she's working as a country music artist these days. Risky and brave. So to Jewel!!
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    Anderson Cooper (AC360) is doing a special on bullying right now.
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    Quote Originally Posted by milanessa View Post
    Anderson Cooper (AC360) is doing a special on bullying right now.

    Crystal Bowersox from American Idol is about to go on and relate her experiences with bullying in school. She wrote a really insightful blog about it.
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    Well, if we're going to mention AI people- Clay Aiken's book "Learning to Sing" is a really moving memoir of how to keep your head up and follow your own path in spite of bullying. It's a good book to give to a teen who is being bullied. I hope Clay someday get's a chance to add a postscript on how coming out felt. Although, I guess his story is not a good example to use if you want to say the bullying will stop.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rjblue View Post
    Well, if we're going to mention AI people- Clay Aiken's book "Learning to Sing" is a really moving memoir of how to keep your head up and follow your own path in spite of bullying. It's a good book to give to a teen who is being bullied. I hope Clay someday get's a chance to add a postscript on how coming out felt. Although, I guess his story is not a good example to use if you want to say the bullying will stop.
    I didn't realize that, not knowing much about Clay. Kudos to him for sharing his story as well. Although bullying often doesn't stop, these kids need help and nobody - nobody - should accept that it's "just kids being kids".
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    Quote Originally Posted by milanessa View Post
    Anderson Cooper (AC360) is doing a special on bullying right now.
    A good start might be for Anderson and society in general to stop trivializing outright harassment by calling it "bullying".

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    This article showed up on my Yahoo page. Three suicides and one antidepressant OD within 2 years at the same high school. The four kids were bullied for being foreign, being gay, suspected of being gay, and for being a special ed student. And one of the victims was heckled at her own funeral. What the hell is wrong with people???

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    Quote Originally Posted by heckles View Post
    A good start might be for Anderson and society in general to stop trivializing outright harassment by calling it "bullying".
    Thank you for saying this. I went through Hell during my school years and what happened to me was not "bullying", not "teasing" and not "kids being kids". I was physically, emotionally and psychology(sp?) abused!!

    There are few things that makes me see red faster than hearing the term "bullying" used whenever there are discussions about what is going on in our world these days. I really do believe that once it starts getting called what it is, which is abuse, then and only then will things start to change.

    I mean...When I hear the young daughter of our nearest neighbours was told by her Teacher just to say that piece of crap rhyme "Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me" *and* that being hit by the boys "means that they like you" in response to what was being done to her, in this day and age!?! Her Father has his own demons thanks to stuff done to him, so you can imagine what his reaction was to hearing about this.

    Yes, it does get better, but there are some scars that never heal. I'm almost 38 years old and I'm still dealing w/the aftereffects of stuff that happened.

    Why in the year 2010 we're still treating what is going on in our schools as kids "teasing" other kids or saying "it's a normal part of growing up" just is beyond me!! I thought we left the Dark Ages a long time ago.

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    Quote Originally Posted by heckles View Post
    A good start might be for Anderson and society in general to stop trivializing outright harassment by calling it "bullying".
    I don't think the term "bullying" is trivialising the action. Harassment sounds much milder to my ears. YMMV

    Quote Originally Posted by AragornElessar View Post
    Thank you for saying this. I went through Hell during my school years and what happened to me was not "bullying", not "teasing" and not "kids being kids". I was physically, emotionally and psychology(sp?) abused!!

    There are few things that makes me see red faster than hearing the term "bullying" used whenever there are discussions about what is going on in our world these days. I really do believe that once it starts getting called what it is, which is abuse, then and only then will things start to change.

    I mean...When I hear the young daughter of our nearest neighbours was told by her Teacher just to say that piece of crap rhyme "Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me" *and* that being hit by the boys "means that they like you" in response to what was being done to her, in this day and age!?! Her Father has his own demons thanks to stuff done to him, so you can imagine what his reaction was to hearing about this.


    Why in the year 2010 we're still treating what is going on in our schools as kids "teasing" other kids or saying "it's a normal part of growing up" just is beyond me!! I thought we left the Dark Ages a long time ago.
    No one here has said anything like you're suggesting. I can understand your anger since you had to endure something so horrible but "bullying" is a term for a particular kind of abuse and I don't understand your objection to the word.
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    Quote Originally Posted by milanessa View Post
    I don't think the term "bullying" is trivialising the action.
    Bullying is what Butch did to Spanky on Little Rascals. Assholic stuff but nothing in comparison to the mentally sadistic, systematic, long term, calculated, group effort waged against Phoebe Prince or the others who have recently chosen to commit suicide. It's bizarre that adults in the workplace have ample recourse when they receive similar harassment in the workplace, yet we tell children who are generally mandated to attend a specific school that they have to "just ignore it".

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    Interesting posts!

    I've been thinking about some of the stuff that happened to me in high school and how it would be viewed in a different way if it happened to an adult in their workplace.

    One minor thing that happened to me was a guy who would always take my pen (I had the kind that could be unscrewed at the centre so a new ink holder could be added when the old one ran out), un-do it and then throw it across the back of the room...pieces flying everywhere. This happened when the teacher was in the room but never seemed to notice... What if this happened to an adult in the workplace? Someone took (stole??) another employee's work tools, dis-mantled them, threw them across the shared work area...and the boss was never aware? Even with this simple example, I think that this other employee (as well as the boss?) would be in trouble.

    More extreme examples I went through...

    - being kicked in the head (hard-soled boots...ouch) and then laughed at by the three guys surrounding the culprit who thought I was a wimp for not challenging him (four against one...I didn't like my odds)

    - being burnt by a lamp used underneath a microscope so that one can see what they're viewing more easily. Those lamps get HOT after an hour! This happened while the teacher was in the class. And it happened twice. I had the scars on my arm for about 10 years as a reminder...

    - being set-up by a group of four people for public humiliation for a "Slave Day" fundraiser that was supposed to be in "fun" to raise money for our graduating class. A crowd could buy a "slave" for the day to carry their books, gets their food at lunch, as well as do some silly tasks. "Slaves" were bought only by seeing the person from the knees down (the stage curtains hid the rest of the person). One member of this group got backstage and signalled to the others when I was on stage. They did this to target me because they didn't like me (I was an outcast/"weird") and then tried to do the worst things they could think of during "slave day". I didn't even figure out how they had plotted this out until years later, when I remembered the one girl being backstage when she was not in our class and was not involved in this fundraiser in any way. She was the sister of one of the group who "bought" me...

    When I think about how if something like these things happened to an adult in their workplace...the sh** would hit the fan! But I took so much crap in school that I saw no solution other than to take it. I endured most of these things with adults/teachers present, so why would I think to ask for help?

    Luckily, it got better. (But I feel like going for a cry now...)
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    I was in grade school and was beaten up by two girls who I thought were my friends. They would stalk me, follow me home from school, try to beat my door down, name calling everything you could think of. I don't think that's bullying I think that's a crime. Thankfully the school stopped them before I got severly hurt. It's a serious problem in schools parents need to really talk to their kids. Have no idea how children turn out that way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PeterG View Post
    When I think about how if something like these things happened to an adult in their workplace...the sh** would hit the fan!
    Three reasons for that:

    1) Adults have the right to sue. A child doesn't.

    2) Teachers' unions will absolve teachers of the same responsibilities a typical supervisor or employer would face for recurrent harassment occurring on their watch.

    3) If adults get harassed in the workplace, it's likely that he or she will eventually quit the job, which causes a staffing problem for the employer. The teachers know that the harassed child's options are much more limited, and even if the child does leave, see #2.

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    Quote Originally Posted by heckles View Post
    Bullying is what Butch did to Spanky on Little Rascals. Assholic stuff but nothing in comparison to the mentally sadistic, systematic, long term, calculated, group effort waged against Phoebe Prince or the others who have recently chosen to commit suicide. It's bizarre that adults in the workplace have ample recourse when they receive similar harassment in the workplace, yet we tell children who are generally mandated to attend a specific school that they have to "just ignore it".
    I disagree with your definition of bullying, that's all.
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    I applaud Dan Savage and his husband. This is work that is saving lives and changing lives. I am in the group clip (latter part of video) from San Francisco Gay Men's Chorus - may of the guys speaking about their experiences are my friends.

    I realize now how fortunate I was when I was a kid - astonishingly I was never bullied for being perceived as gay - we only had one or two bullies and they picked equally on everyone. (I grew up in a very, very small town in the middle of the rural Midwest.) This is more surprising given I had zero sports ability, and was wildly accomplished in music, debate and theater. Kids are harder and definitely more cruel now, and seem to lack the clear moral compass that was pounded into my generation's heads by our depression era parents.

    This rash of tragic suicides is also a clear and harsh wake up call to public school systems all over America.

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