So I just returned from visiting my boyfriend(long distance relationship) and had a decent visit overall. We did have one squabble while I was there though, and it occurred when one of my bf's female online friends texted him wondering where he was at. He had previously told her when I'd be visiting, but supposedly she forgot.
This girl used(supposedly used to) have a crush on him. He told her he wanted nothing to do with her in that way, but still talks to her as a friend. She's a very needy type that likes attention from guys and goes after the unattainable(this is what my bf has told me). They have never met in person...but the last time my bf and I broke up, she asked him to come visit. He refused.
Anyhow, I find the whole situation somewhat inappropriate, given that I don't think her intentions are entirely pure. I also get annoyed because I feel like my bf uses her as someone to stroke his ego(even though he claims he doesn't).
So yeah, we got in to an argument about her texting him, when I was there visiting. We talked it out, and I said I thought it was inappropriate...he said he'd tell her not to text. He was the one that offered that up.
So cut to last night, and I had asked him if he mentioned it to her...and he tells me that he told her about the argument we had about the text. He said he didn't go into detail about what we said. But he told her that the argument was about her and the text she sent. He then said she started saying how she didn't understand why it was an issue, and he agreed with her. This...understandable or not, really pissed me off....I felt like it became a them against me thing.
Anyhow, it's a very annoying situation, and it's not the first argument over this girl. I feel like he was very non-supportive of me to discuss an argument we had, with her, and to almost turn it into a them vs me situation.
Just looking for some thoughts from some others of whether I was way out of line or not. I realize my reaction was a bit of an overreaction with regards to the actual text, but him going to her and discussing our argument is unacceptable to me.