I read a study some years back that in families with two or more sisters, the younger(s) tend to be more social, conventional and outgoing than the olders. Which was true in my family, I'm the older, more serious one.
My daughter is my only child but has three much older half-siblings. I'm glad she does even though my opinion of them ranges from to to because they will indeed be company for her when her parents are gone. Also, she's close to her nieces, who are closer in age than her siblings, an added bonus.
"Youth and vigor is no match for age and deceit." -- Prancer
Where I grew up most families had only one child. I am an only child myself and don't remember ever being lonely. I loved to read and could entertain myself very well. To this day I don't need to be around people to be happy. But I prefer to travel with DH or friends.
Overall I am introverted, very easy going, very considerate of others, not detail-oriented and not very particular about anything. Generally a very likable person, so I am told, and if I may say so myself. Depending on the surroundings, I can be kind of outgoing or very quiet or anything in between. I am still trying to figure out my own pattern.
I plan to have more than one child. Mostly because I worry that an only child could be all by him/herself when DH and I are both gone, in case that child is not married and is not particularly social. Not that having a sibling guarantees a lifetime friend, but it's a head start.
I know. But I do not approve. And I am not resigned.
(Edna St Vincent Millay)
I'm going to send this news to a friend who has frequently told me if he has children, it has got to be more than one. Being an only child is just cruel, according to him. And he grew up with 3 siblings, one he refuses to talk to these days, and an ugly separation between parents before most of them were teens. oooooookay
And I assume that most people who spend a lot of time online recreationally are introverts. They can express themselves much better by typing out their thoughts, allowing some time to process their thoughts, than in real-life conversations. I would also assume that this type of communication would feel torturous to an extrovert, on the other hand.
And for the record, I have a brother, but he is 7 years youngers than me. So we both have felt like an only child growing up (me before he was born, and him when he was in junior high/high school because I was out of town at college).
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I have 2 close friends who are only children and they wouldn't have it any other way. They are both close with their cousins.
On the other hand, I can talk to my brothers in ways that I can't talk to others and I really appreciate that now.
Family situations and dynamics are so different in families. There are always good and bad with everything.
We're a family of three children, with me being the eldest. My parents are big readers. My brother and I enjoy reading, but my sister does not.
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I too am a reader and find that when I am surrounded by people for too long (my husband has 6 in his family and other close various relatives mine and his) I have to find a way to get away. Don't get me wrong, I love visiting with people but I find I need alone time. I was happy as an only, didn't miss having siblings per se. I've never needed a large group of friends, I have a tendency to enjoy smaller groups.
I'm another only who wasn't the least bit lonely as a child. I never ever asked my parents for a sibling either. My parents intended to have more children but it didn't work out for them.
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I've read that whatever personality traits the first born has, the second born takes the opposite. One child is usually quiet, impatient, competitive, and aggressive while the other is social, easygoing, and non-confrontational. The first set of traits seem to go to the first born more and the other to the second born, but not always.
What's funny is that despite being completely different as kids, as we get older, I'm taking on more of my sister's traits and she's taking on more of my traits. So when we're 30 or so, we'll be emotional twins.
Being an only child doesn't really affect my bf socially, although he would probably appreciate not having all of the attention from his helicopter mom. It's hard to say which is better, because it's all we know. I dunno if I'd be friends with my sister if we weren't related because we're still very different, but we do share a special bond. And when we get together with Mom, it's always a great time.