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    Quote Originally Posted by agalisgv View Post
    Not noisy, just somewhat extroverted

    I like people and get along with just about everyone IRL. I'm pretty easy-going in that respect.
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    Quote Originally Posted by IceAlisa View Post
    I should clarify that in an academic setting you can't shut me up but in a social setting I am much more of an observer. In other words, I am a nerd!

    Wow, I could say those very same words about myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ChelleC View Post
    Wow, I could say those very same words about myself.
    And me. So argumentative in class, so retiring during recess, story of my life.

    I read a study some years back that in families with two or more sisters, the younger(s) tend to be more social, conventional and outgoing than the olders. Which was true in my family, I'm the older, more serious one.

    My daughter is my only child but has three much older half-siblings. I'm glad she does even though my opinion of them ranges from to to because they will indeed be company for her when her parents are gone. Also, she's close to her nieces, who are closer in age than her siblings, an added bonus.
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    Where I grew up most families had only one child. I am an only child myself and don't remember ever being lonely. I loved to read and could entertain myself very well. To this day I don't need to be around people to be happy. But I prefer to travel with DH or friends.

    Overall I am introverted, very easy going, very considerate of others, not detail-oriented and not very particular about anything. Generally a very likable person, so I am told, and if I may say so myself. Depending on the surroundings, I can be kind of outgoing or very quiet or anything in between. I am still trying to figure out my own pattern.

    I plan to have more than one child. Mostly because I worry that an only child could be all by him/herself when DH and I are both gone, in case that child is not married and is not particularly social. Not that having a sibling guarantees a lifetime friend, but it's a head start.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ilovepaydays View Post
    I am an only child too - I wasn't lonely but I also read a lot of books, too! I am noticing a connection here.

    I think there are advantages and disadvantages with any number of children you have or how the ages are spaced apart.
    I'm 4 of 5 (spread out over 15 years). We ALL read a lot, as did my parents. mr c was an only who also read a lot. I have 2 kids who read a lot. I think that there are reading families and not reading families- if the books are there, and the parents read, (and the kids are read to from a very young age), then the kids will read. In most circumstances. There are always exceptions.
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    I'm going to send this news to a friend who has frequently told me if he has children, it has got to be more than one. Being an only child is just cruel, according to him. And he grew up with 3 siblings, one he refuses to talk to these days, and an ugly separation between parents before most of them were teens. oooooookay

    And I assume that most people who spend a lot of time online recreationally are introverts. They can express themselves much better by typing out their thoughts, allowing some time to process their thoughts, than in real-life conversations. I would also assume that this type of communication would feel torturous to an extrovert, on the other hand.

    And for the record, I have a brother, but he is 7 years youngers than me. So we both have felt like an only child growing up (me before he was born, and him when he was in junior high/high school because I was out of town at college).
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    Quote Originally Posted by fan View Post
    that said, i'd love to have more than one child, only to keep each other company as their parents age. my parents have divorced, and my dad is ill. he is lonely having only one child as a support, and it's a tough burden for an only child to face (aging, sick parents with no familial support).
    I was not unhappy being an only child when I was a child. However, as an adult I am overburdened with old people who need a variety of assistance and no one to help me. If I ever had children, I would have more than one if possible for this reason. Although there is no guarantee that a sibling would be willing to help me if I had one.
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    I have 2 close friends who are only children and they wouldn't have it any other way. They are both close with their cousins.

    On the other hand, I can talk to my brothers in ways that I can't talk to others and I really appreciate that now.

    Family situations and dynamics are so different in families. There are always good and bad with everything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by my little pony View Post
    I was not unhappy being an only child when I was a child. However, as an adult I am overburdened with old people who need a variety of assistance and no one to help me. If I ever had children, I would have more than one if possible for this reason. Although there is no guarantee that a sibling would be willing to help me if I had one.
    That is the crux of the matter, there is no guarantee that siblings will work together to assist aging parents. Having said that, this situation weighs on my mind as well. If I do end up with only one child, I will plan for those twilight years so it will be less of a burden on my son. You can't plan for every scenario, but those years can be made smoother was some planning.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PRlady View Post
    I read a study some years back that in families with two or more sisters, the younger(s) tend to be more social, conventional and outgoing than the olders. Which was true in my family, I'm the older, more serious one.
    This is the situation our family. I have a hard time being social when I first meet people, but my younger sister is the epitome of a social butterfly. She knows everyone, everything and has more of an active social life than I've ever had. She is very, very social and extroverted. Just looking at her schedule exhausts me.

    We're a family of three children, with me being the eldest. My parents are big readers. My brother and I enjoy reading, but my sister does not.
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    Oleada, is your sister the second or third child?
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    Quote Originally Posted by my little pony View Post
    I was not unhappy being an only child when I was a child. However, as an adult I am overburdened with old people who need a variety of assistance and no one to help me. If I ever had children, I would have more than one if possible for this reason. Although there is no guarantee that a sibling would be willing to help me if I had one.
    True - my mom is the oldest of 3, and due to various physical/mental limitations of her siblings, she is not only the primary caretaker for her parents, but just became the primary caretaker for 1 of her brothers, and will eventually become the primary caretaker of the other (unless he outlives her, which is possible). In terms of elder care, she would have been better off as a single child (not that she would wish that, but just looking at it from a help-with-care-of-parents angle)
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    Quote Originally Posted by BlueRidge View Post
    Oleada, is your sister the second or third child?
    She is the third
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    Quote Originally Posted by oleada View Post
    She is the third
    ah. thirds are different from seconds...
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    Quote Originally Posted by my little pony View Post
    I was not unhappy being an only child when I was a child. However, as an adult I am overburdened with old people who need a variety of assistance and no one to help me. If I ever had children, I would have more than one if possible for this reason. Although there is no guarantee that a sibling would be willing to help me if I had one.
    I am an only and I have an older cousin who is an only. She experienced what you have gone through. She actually ended up helping her neighbors even tho they had children who lived too far away to be of any assistance. My sympathies.

    I too am a reader and find that when I am surrounded by people for too long (my husband has 6 in his family and other close various relatives mine and his) I have to find a way to get away. Don't get me wrong, I love visiting with people but I find I need alone time. I was happy as an only, didn't miss having siblings per se. I've never needed a large group of friends, I have a tendency to enjoy smaller groups.

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    I'm another only who wasn't the least bit lonely as a child. I never ever asked my parents for a sibling either. My parents intended to have more children but it didn't work out for them.

    Quote Originally Posted by my little pony View Post
    Although there is no guarantee that a sibling would be willing to help me if I had one.
    That is so true. My husband has one sibling and we already know that she will not be helpful when the parents get older. My husband and I will provide the care for both sets of our parents.

    Quote Originally Posted by pat c View Post

    I too am a reader and find that when I am surrounded by people for too long (my husband has 6 in his family and other close various relatives mine and his) I have to find a way to get away. Don't get me wrong, I love visiting with people but I find I need alone time. I was happy as an only, didn't miss having siblings per se. I've never needed a large group of friends, I have a tendency to enjoy smaller groups.
    I read alot too and totally get what you mean about needing 'alone' time. I feel the same way when there are too many people around. I really enjoy it but it's like I need some time alone to recharge my brain or something...
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    Quote Originally Posted by PRlady View Post
    I read a study some years back that in families with two or more sisters, the younger(s) tend to be more social, conventional and outgoing than the olders. Which was true in my family, I'm the older, more serious one.
    In my family, it's the opposite. My sister is the outgoing, sometimes irresponsible one, while I've always been more quiet and level-headed.

    I've read that whatever personality traits the first born has, the second born takes the opposite. One child is usually quiet, impatient, competitive, and aggressive while the other is social, easygoing, and non-confrontational. The first set of traits seem to go to the first born more and the other to the second born, but not always.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RockTheTassel View Post
    I've read that whatever personality traits the first born has, the second born takes the opposite. One child is usually quiet, impatient, competitive, and aggressive while the other is social, easygoing, and non-confrontational. The first set of traits seem to go to the first born more and the other to the second born, but not always.
    Yeah I think that's how you try to differentiate yourself.

    What's funny is that despite being completely different as kids, as we get older, I'm taking on more of my sister's traits and she's taking on more of my traits. So when we're 30 or so, we'll be emotional twins.

    Being an only child doesn't really affect my bf socially, although he would probably appreciate not having all of the attention from his helicopter mom. It's hard to say which is better, because it's all we know. I dunno if I'd be friends with my sister if we weren't related because we're still very different, but we do share a special bond. And when we get together with Mom, it's always a great time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by deltask8er View Post
    And I assume that most people who spend a lot of time online recreationally are introverts. They can express themselves much better by typing out their thoughts, allowing some time to process their thoughts, than in real-life conversations. I would also assume that this type of communication would feel torturous to an extrovert, on the other hand.
    That sounds very reasonable.
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    Quote Originally Posted by deltask8er View Post
    And I assume that most people who spend a lot of time online recreationally are introverts. They can express themselves much better by typing out their thoughts, allowing some time to process their thoughts, than in real-life conversations. I would also assume that this type of communication would feel torturous to an extrovert, on the other hand.
    Not to mention that you can easily exit a forum and stop all social interactions without feeling like you're being rude. I think that's a huge one for me. It's hard for me to enter real-life social interactions and figure out how to make a smooth exit.

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