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    Quote Originally Posted by Veronika View Post
    My parents met in a bar, and it wasn't a nice bar. Not the type of place a nice surburban, rather conservative couple would meet--but hey, it was the early 70s, right?
    My parents also met in a not-nice bar. My dad was so drunk he couldn't remember what my mom looked like, only that he had a date with some woman whose name and address were on a note in his pocket.

    This was in 1945, mind you. But as my mom always liked to say, things were different then--an argument that never worked for me at all when I was trying to explain how the world had changed since she was young, but you know--that's different .

    Quote Originally Posted by Cheylana View Post
    Does this mean I shouldn't bother to hire that photo retoucher and assemble that all-male focus group to review my profile?
    I'd let some guys look at your profile for sure. There's being honest and then there's slitting your own throat (mentioning your cat, for example ).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Prancer View Post
    My parents also met in a not-nice bar. My dad was so drunk he couldn't remember what my mom looked like, only that he had a date with some woman whose name and address were on a note in his pocket.


    My parents met in grad school. My dad was my mom's associate professor.

    When I found out, I was like, " I never knew my dad could be so SKANDALOUS!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Anita18 View Post
    My parents met in grad school. My dad was my mom's associate professor.

    When I found out, I was like, " I never knew my dad could be so SKANDALOUS!"


    Some good friends of my parents met when she was a student in his high school English class.

    But again, things were different then .
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    Well, I met my best friend through FSU. (miffy!) And I met my boyfriend because he's another very close friend of hers
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    Quote Originally Posted by Anita18 View Post


    Yeah I think the point of online dating is being able to cut through that bullshit.
    One of the dating sites had an article about what people on dating sites tend to lie about.

    http://gizmodo.com/5586987/the-big-l...-online-dating

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    Quote Originally Posted by heckles View Post
    One of the dating sites had an article about what people on dating sites tend to lie about.

    http://gizmodo.com/5586987/the-big-l...-online-dating
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    Quote Originally Posted by Prancer View Post

    I'd let some guys look at your profile for sure. There's being honest and then there's slitting your own throat (mentioning your cat, for example ).


    I mention my cats up front. Because if they don't like cats, or have allergies to cats, they're out.

    So, um, yeah.

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    Good luck with the online dating! I gave up on it because I found myself too nervous before dates to ever enjoy them. Some decent guys on there, though, and plenty of couple success stories. I was a bridesmaid for one of them.

    Quote Originally Posted by Anita18 View Post


    My parents met in grad school. My dad was my mom's associate professor.

    When I found out, I was like, " I never knew my dad could be so SKANDALOUS!"
    A friend of mine just married her longterm boyfriend whom she met as an intern. He was her boss. First thing she says about it is always, "it's not nearly as Monica Lewinsky as it sounds." I love off-colour 'meet cute' stories. I'd say more than standard ones, but I've no idea what's standard for how couples meet these days.

    My parents met at a bar when my mom was blitzed and my dad broke up a bar fight. It couldn't be a more inaccurate description of them.

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    I just signed up again with Match.com. We'll see.

    Whether in person or online, I just don't get lying to impress someone. When the truth is eventually (hopefully) found out, I'd not trust them for the upfront lying.

    Ugh, why does this have to be so difficult? It's not supposed to be rocket science...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kruss View Post
    I just signed up again with Match.com. We'll see.

    Whether in person or online, I just don't get lying to impress someone. When the truth is eventually (hopefully) found out, I'd not trust them for the upfront lying.

    Ugh, why does this have to be so difficult? It's not supposed to be rocket science...
    Not only the lying, but it automatically makes them much less attractive to me because if you have real self-confidence, you shouldn't feel the need to lie about yourself.

    Well it's not rocket science, but it also has a lot to do with luck. I went on a number of first dates that went absolutely nowhere, but at least none of the guys strung me along (can't say the same for my poor younger sister..) and I had a good time.

    And finally I thought I'd give this one guy a chance. He didn't seem all that different from the others. I have no idea why, but despite my meh-ness about the potential, he kept on coming back. And not in a stalkerish manner either, it was just, I wouldn't hear from him at all in a while, and then he'd IM me and go, "Hey, I'm going to be in the area, want to meet up?" And now here we are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Veronika View Post
    I will admit that I'm sometimes embarrassed to admit we met online. Sometimes I fib and tell people we met through friends...I think how we met is a rather personal question, and you'd be surprised how many people ask that question.
    I honestly don't get that kind of attitude at all.

    The vast majority of my friends and pretty much everybody I have dated/had sex with I've met online.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Prancer View Post
    My parents also met in a not-nice bar. My dad was so drunk he couldn't remember what my mom looked like, only that he had a date with some woman whose name and address were on a note in his pocket.
    He must've made a heck of an impression.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ziggy View Post
    I honestly don't get that kind of attitude at all.

    The vast majority of my friends and pretty much everybody I have dated/had sex with I've met online.
    I'm not sure that's a recommendation .

    Quote Originally Posted by Wyliefan View Post
    He must've made a heck of an impression.
    My mom said she figured going out with him would be something to do besides stay in the dorm (she was in nursing school at the time), but she gave it 50/50 that he would remember to show up. She got ready just in case. When she got off the elevator, she saw him checking out all the other girls and realized he didn't remember what she looked like, so she walked right past him to the door and said, "Well, are we going?" loudly to his back.

    On their third date, she told him that she wouldn't go out with him ever again because if they kept going out, they would get married and she thought that would be awful. My dad thought that was the funniest thing he'd ever heard and told her that if he married anyone, it definitely wouldn't be her.

    And so it went. My parents were always like Dr. Doolittle's pushmi-pullyu, a single creature with two completely different heads containing completely different ideas.
    "The secret to creativity is knowing how to hide your sources."-- Albert Einstein.

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    Has anyone tried okcupid? I'm a little leery of a free dating site, only because I'll be honest and say I don't want to date a flat broke guy - HA!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Prancer View Post
    My mom said she figured going out with him would be something to do besides stay in the dorm (she was in nursing school at the time), but she gave it 50/50 that he would remember to show up. She got ready just in case. When she got off the elevator, she saw him checking out all the other girls and realized he didn't remember what she looked like, so she walked right past him to the door and said, "Well, are we going?" loudly to his back.

    On their third date, she told him that she wouldn't go out with him ever again because if they kept going out, they would get married and she thought that would be awful. My dad thought that was the funniest thing he'd ever heard and told her that if he married anyone, it definitely wouldn't be her.

    And so it went. My parents were always like Dr. Doolittle's pushmi-pullyu, a single creature with two completely different heads containing completely different ideas.
    Love it! Those kinds of stories are the best. "Love at first sight" stories are so BORING!

    Quote Originally Posted by Coco View Post
    Has anyone tried okcupid? I'm a little leery of a free dating site, only because I'll be honest and say I don't want to date a flat broke guy - HA!
    Well, the more expensive the dating site, the more desperate the members, I'd also think.

    If it helps, the site where I met my bf (Plentyoffish) is free and he's an aerospace engineer who makes good money. He's only been working for a year after last quitting his job and lazying around living off his savings (he does crazy things like that) and he's already saved up enough to quit again and not work for a year. I'm so jealous.

    But yeah, not everyone who uses one is broke.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Prancer View Post
    And so it went. My parents were always like Dr. Doolittle's pushmi-pullyu, a single creature with two completely different heads containing completely different ideas.
    They sound like Tracy and Hepburn.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Anita18 View Post
    Love it! Those kinds of stories are the best. "Love at first sight" stories are so BORING!
    Quote Originally Posted by Wyliefan View Post
    They sound like Tracy and Hepburn.
    I'll say one thing--never once did I have the romantic idea that once I married, my husband and I would be one heart/mind/soul.

    But really, when you think about stories like that and how people met before the internet, saying you met someone online isn't so bad.

    I think meeting online is becoming pretty common, so in a few years, Veronika will be able to brag that she was on the cutting edge.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PrincessLeppard View Post


    I mention my cats up front. Because if they don't like cats, or have allergies to cats, they're out.

    So, um, yeah.
    My very furry cat is in there, so is the fact that I wasn't the prom queen. So are my politics and the fact that I care about them. And so is my figure skating fandom.

    Hey, you see, you want, you don't want, up to you, is my feeling. I've heard from a lot of guys that my profile is very different from the average 50something lady, so it seems to be working.

    One thing is wrong, though, but I can't figure out what. I've had more than one man email me telling me I seem to be a gentle person. I could round up at least 50 people on FSU who have never met me personally who would be happy to prove them wrong.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ajax View Post
    Yeah, I can't even imagine introducing a guy to my mom or dad and telling them that I met him online
    I told my 89 year old mother that my husband and I met on-line. She was just fine with it and just asked questions about how it worked. (No, she wasn't asking with any motive in mind!)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Prancer View Post
    I'm not sure that's a recommendation .
    Well how else can you meet people?

    And it's a serious question.

    If you have a big circle of friends, then I guess you can meet people through friends.

    But if you don't have any? Or hardly any? It's not like you can go out on the street and ask random people to go out for coffee with you.

    But you can do that with impunity on the internet.

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