Your stories are . How will these kids ever survive in a marriage or any other kind of partnership?
Yes, I agree. I, myself, wanted my kids to go to a college that was a good fit for them. Regardless of where it was. I hoped that it would be close enough that they could come home for holidays and/or the occasional weekend. But, I wanted them to have an on-campus experience. that is a very important learning situation. With my son, now going to law school. He chose the school, which is 30-40 min away. He wanted to move into an apartment closes to the school, but I encouraged him to at least start out living at home, as the cost of living off campus in that area is $$$$$. We paid for undergraduate, but they pay for anything beyond that. He understands that, while he can take out a larger loan for housing, ultimately he needs to consider how much debt he wants to graduate with. Both of my kids want/ed to move out at the appropriate time. Not that living at home is not pleasant, but they want to feel adult and independent. My daughter moved into an apartment 3 weeks ago. I thought she should have waited a few more months. Partly because I'll miss seeing her face every morning . But also because she's only had her job since January, and I felt she should have saved a little more for emergencies. I love having my kids home, but not so much that I would want to cripple them.In general, there are two things going on--kids are so comfortable at home that there is no reason to leave. And parents don't actually want them to. The counselor at the school where I last taught (I quit in May) said that in the last 5-10 years it has become the norm that parents want their seniors to go to college as close to home as possible, be commuter students and generally never leave home. In a few cases, there are financial reasons, but not the majority. Mothers, in particular, just don't want their kids to leave. He thinks that in part, the culture has encouraged them to make motherhood their whole identity and losing that terrifies them more than the kids leaving does.