and not taking into account the wishes of the couple.
I have nothing against church weddings if that is what the couple wants.
"more polite"? I never said that it is more polite to let the guests bring the food. my initial comment in fact was on the contrary that I hate all the discussions about what is the right etiquette and what one should or shouldnt do at weddings is what makes me weary most.
I like the beach party idea because that is what kind of people they are. a very formal black tie event would be awful for them especially if they have to be in the center of attention all the time instead of rocking to music on the beach. but if they had wanted to do a formal wedding with horse cars or whatnot that would have been great too if that woild have been what they wanted and if they hadnt been pressured into it!