I have one coming up next year! Most likely I will not go since I do not associate with anyone I went to highschool with. I have gone to others over the 35 years I have been out of highschool, but other than seeing who got divorced, who got fat, who is bald and who still looks great (ha, I am one of those) or you have close realtionships with some you went to school with. I find them boring!
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I enjoyed my reunions a LOT more than HS. Personalities changed and everyone was a lot more friendly and happy. They all seemed genuinely interested in all of their classmates. I am looking forward to seeing everyone at the 30-year reunion this summer, even though it will require a flight back.
I'll be attending my 45th year high school reunion this summer. We are joining with the class ahead of us, which I think is a good idea. It's a small school, so it's a manageable number of people. My class has held three other reunions, and I have found that they are much more enjoyable the older you get. Nobody is trying to impress any more, and you realize you're not the only one with wrinkles, gray hair and some extra pounds. Things are just much more relaxed overall. Of course, we don't have 100% participation, and some of the people I'd most like to see have never attended.
I don't understand the appeal of high school reunions. I went to the same school as these people because our parents bought homes in the same zip code. Nothing magical, just zoning.
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Hell No! I was out of the country during my 5 year reunion and when I saw the list of attendees for my 10th high school reunion, I thought no way. I wasn't friends with any of the people who went to the reunion, and all reunion weekend is at my school is another way for my snobby private school to try and hit us up for money. Besides, one of my best friends from high school got married the previous year and everybody I wanted to see was at that wedding.
Hi all! Thanks for all the replies- keep 'em coming. I like hearing people's stories. Well, as I said, my class was pretty small- about 90 people, and many of us have remained close. Probably over half still live in this state or the one below it! (OK/TX) And like many of you have said, you keep in touch with the ones you care about and you don't bother with the ones you don't. A lot of people said that same thing with our previous reunions- they see the people they want to see.
But I like reunions because I think they offer an opportunity to see those people you're interested in seeing, but just haven't been able to keep in touch with. And there are even several people who were in our class for a good part of the time we were in school, but didn't graduate with us, and they are very interested in going to the reunion.
At our last one, it was two days- the first was an afternoon family picnic at our big local park, and the second night was grads and SO's only, dinner and a dance at the local country club. I enjoyed the whole thing- had a great time, and didn't let the fact that I was way heavier than in HS bother me! So were half the rest of them!! Who cares? It's interesting to me to see what people have become- we have a lot of teachers and nurses, PA's, coaches, cops, highway patrol, stay at home moms, oilfield workers, cosmeticians, truck drivers, caterers, restaurant managers. We even had one girl who was in the state senate. Or maybe she just ran for it. I forget. Anyway. I know I'm probably the world's biggest nerd, but I'm one of those people who can remember everybody in the class, first and last name, but it's not super hard with a class of 90 people.
I'm getting all wound up- I feel like I just drank 3 espressos in a row! Can't wait for the planning meeting now- we're meeting at a local steakhouse next Tues. night.
So what were some more activities or locations people had, and how were they received?
I skipped the tenth. A friend who went told me everyone was just trying to impress each other.
Our twentieth was this summer and I went. I really enjoyed it, actually. But some things were strange. And people were still trying to impress each other. And people are at vastly different life stages. At our table, there was a woman whose oldest child had just graduated from high school. a woman pregnant with her first, and me--a newlywed. It was also strange because so many of my classmates stayed in the city we went to school in--some attended college there and truly never left a day in their lives--and they go to the same parishes (Catholic High School) and their kids go to school together and they all still hang out together to some degree. Those of us who moved away and moved on felt a bit out of place in some ways.
My planning advice would be two main things--1-don't price people out. Our main event was dinner and a dance that was $65 per person--$130 per couple. And people coming from out of town may need a hotel as well. A number of people I would have enjoyed seeing were not able to attend because of the price. 2--Have some sort of program. Ours had nothing. Dinner and dance. It seemed strange to not have something. A slide show of memories, acknowledgments of who planned it and that sort of thing would be nice.
My mother and her sister went to a tiny rural school that no longer exists (towns merged their schools in the 70s to create a new and bigger one). There are multi-class reunion events every year hosted in people's homes mostly. My mother has gone to them every five years or so since around her 25th. My aunt, whose picture may very well be in the dictionary next to the word 'extrovert', has gone to many, many more than that. She told me once that they weren't fun until around the 30th. By 30 years or longer away from high school, the vast majority of people are past the point of caring so much about what everyone thinks of them and the urge to impress and out-do each other is gone and it becomes a great party.
Considering I spent high school trying to be as inconspicuous as possible and trying to find ways to avoid going I doubt I'll attend a reunion. High school was the worst years of my life, I hated it mostly because of the people. If you were a social person I could see the appeal but for me it would be torture.
My opinion, for what it is worth: I went to high school to get an education. It WAS NOT a country club that I joined with a lifetime membership. My association with the school ended the day I graduated and went out to make my way in the world. I haven't been to one reunion in 46 years and don't plan to start now. Can you tell I didn't enjoy high school much?
Ok, I'll concede. I can see how if HS was total torture for you and you hated it, a reunion would hold no interest whatsoever. But if you were like me, generally well-liked, but not popular, friendly but shy, one of the brainiac group but not the valedictorian or anything, it might be kind of fun.
I can't remember what else we did last time, program-wise, but I read a poem I wrote that made everybody cry, and at the 10 we had a video, I think.
I went to my 10th (HS); saw only one person that I hoped would be there, (in a class of over 500), and said "Never Again"!
It really depends on what kind of memories you have of your high school experiences, how fond you are of them, and how many people from those days you would truly be delighted in seeing again. If you are only so-so or meh on any of those then I don't see the point of going....unless of course you've become a superstar and want to go back to say "Neh, neh, neh. LOOK AT ME"
My friends came from all groups - the brainiac/academic crowd, the burners (it still cracks me up that our HS actually had a designated smoking section for students ), athletes, the uber- arteests, band geeks, cheerleaders, etc. I was a majorette for 4 years and a cheerleader my Senior year, but I was also editor of our Literary "magazine" (one big issue done every year), in Chorale/Women's chorus, Interact (youth division of the Rotary Club), and so on and so forth. I blended fairly well until midway through Senior year when I decided I was pissed at the world and went punk (the attempted Annabella Lwin shaved head/hairstyle went over *real* well with the cheerleading squad ).
Matter of fact, some of the gals I've reconnected with on FB are planning a get-together for the females from our class for later this summer - sort of a mini-reunion, only without any of the guys. For the first time, I'm really looking forward to seeing a lot of the people I lost touch with following graduation.
My mother was president of her Senior class, and as such, she's usually in charge of planning their reunions (with help from the other class officers and a few volunteers. Last year was their 50th , and they had an absolute blast. I actually went to Mom's 40th reunion with her as my Dad always felt like a fish out of water at those kinds of events (he was 13 years older than Mom, plus he had no interest in his own reunions), and that started a trend of many of her classmates bringing their daughters (having graduated in 1959, most of them did what they were "supposed" to do and got married and started breeding around the same time, so all of their kids are roughly the same age . I've made some good friends that way, and our parents think it's a hoot that they've passed "their" friendships down to the next generation.
I really can't imagine bothering unless someone REALLY pestered me about it. (Someone where I actually felt something beyond indifference about them in a positive direction.)
It may also be a family thing. My mother went to the same high school as me and has never done reunions (unless you count inadvertently as one of our English teachers is one of her classmates) and I doubt my dad's ever even though about going to his. I think he went to two different high schools, both in Detroit, and I can't imagine why he'd bother.
I might consider at some point heading to my UNIVERSITY homecoming (we're very small and close-knit even when we don't actually know each other. W&L tends to create rather pathological devotion among alumni.)
My 20th (how did that happen? ) h.s. reunion is this weekend. I'm not going. I haven't been to any. I liked my h.s., but I just don't feel attached to my class, so I have no desire to see any of them again. It's not personal - I started in 10th grade (school is a K-12 private school) so I was always kind of on the outside. I got a great education, and I give each year to the annual fund, but I'm just not into my classmates. If I'd gone there since 1st grade, I'd probably be real gung-ho on reunion, but it's just kind of meh to me.
I went to my 5th college reunion but not to the next 2. I had a good time at my 5th and it was good to see everyone, but I got kind of cynical about it approaching the 10th - why do I need to spend money for flight, hotel, meals, reg fee just to see people that I only see at reunion? At my 5th, I did reconnect with someone I hadn't been in touch with - she lives about an hour away - and we did get together a few times after that, but we lost touch again. Eh, whatever. In 3 years, if I feel I've accomplished enough in my life that I won't look like a tree stump in front of my classmates, I might go to the 20th, or I might not bother either way.
While I can't say that I have lived every one of your experiences in high school, I can say that my experience was a mixed bag. I had those who loved me and those who wanted to beat me up... no in between. But I am going to my 20th reunion because I spent so much time with these people, and I want to physically see them again. There were only 102 graduates in my class, and I believe that there are only 92 of left. Of that, I believe that 50% are coming to the reunion. We are having a potluck at a park. It costs nothing to attend (I grew up in an economically depressed area), and our little facebook group is growing in excitement. Most of us know what we are all up to thanks to facebook, so we'll just focus on having a good time. WHEEE!
I can't believe some schools have a 5 year reunion.. I don't think enough changes in 10 years! Like I said.. I didn't go to my 10th but I did go to my best friend's 10th because that was who I hung out with in highschool. You'd be surprised how many people thought I had actually graduated with them. I had actually graduated the year before haha. The interesting thing was how everyone kinda mingled at the beginning but sure enough an hour in everyone was in their own little cliques again.
I attended my high school class 10 year reunion and had a good time. I attended college half way across the country and hadn't really kept in touch with most of my classmates so it was nice seeing people again and catching up with one another. I started grad school shortly afterwards then moved to another state and lost touch with people again.
OTOH, I've attended 4 of my college class' reunions and will probably attend our 30-year reunion next summer. The difference is that my college does a better job of keeping in touch with its alumni than my old high school and I've kept in better touch with my college classmates than I did with the folks from high school.