Thanks sk8pics. I appreciate it. That choosing love exercise came from a book I read many many years ago "Emmanuel's Book" - very clear and powerful. The exercise has helped me a lot. And yes I do believe love is a choice. Mostly a very difficult one that can take a lifetime of practice and commitment to achieve with any consistency. We (and by that I mean most (all?) people) have been hurt so much in one way or another that choosing love seems unrealistic and somehow not valid, and yet I finally am getting to see that it is indeed the only thing that sets us free from suffering no matter how irrational it may seem to be. 'Love anyway' is one of my mantras, even though I'm not always successful at it.