To be quite frank I'm kind of tired of blame the husband talk? IF you know that someone is married, its horribly wrong to get involved with him. Do onto others and all of that. Plus there are women who purposely go after married men. (And vice a versa) That's not okay, and those people don't deserve a free pass. Now of course if the woman or the man doesn't know the other person is married its a whole different scenario.