I was thinking how if they are apart, one or both must be having a very sad Christmas. He was stupid and very very bad, but he's not a criminal. The non-residential parent should have still had visitation privileges, even this year. No matter how bad he has been, the kids and the parents should be able to see each other, if only for a while, on holidays. We don't know what is going on behind the scenes, maybe it's too early for court decisions, but I am surprised that he didn't get her there over the separation issue. I am not sure if being so far away in Sweden is a good idea, not just for t his year but forever, if that's where they're going. I can't imagine midweek visitation. But he can affort jets, so maybe it's possible. But holidays should be shared. OTOH if he just wanted to be away on a boat somewhere playing cards with his boyfriends, ya sure, well, then...grrr.
I have a friend with adult children. She did Thanksgiving, their dad did Christmas. She barely made it through latter holiday.