What makes a Guy Undateable?

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  1. Andora

    Andora Well-Known Member

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    Well, right or wrong, I do know a lot of people have let their spelling go to pot thanks to word. At work, we sometimes have to knock shows out really quickly, but I was still surprised to hear it in the job interview that typos didn't matter. When I'd done a typing test at a head hunter, typos absolutely mattered, and slowed my typing speed down considerably, which is understandable.

    I don't know anyone who's ever thought Word was useful for grammar. :lol: Even my engineering friend who uses text speak in email.
     
  2. Prancer

    Prancer The "specialness" that is Staff Member

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    Teach a few composition classes; you'll hear that and more.
     
  3. Andora

    Andora Well-Known Member

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    Well, that's unfortunate.

    And, I'm sure, on someone's list as to what makes a guy undateable. :p
     
  4. mysticchic

    mysticchic Well-Known Member

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    I can add an other 50 to this.
    Ones who are emo (or moody)
    guys who live with their Mom's past the age of 21
    guys who have been divorced more then 1 time
    guys that are into drama (cya)
    no sense of humor
    any guy who still wear polyester
     
  5. PRlady

    PRlady aspiring tri-national

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    Well, you can send me the moody guys, I have to forgive the twice-divorced because I am too, and I have a high tolerance for drama.

    Polyester is a dealkiller, though. ;) And so are grammatical and spelling errors. Internet-dating guys who send me misspelled emails, or who misspell or otherwise screw up their written profiles -- no chance. I'm a words woman and I'll put up with a lot of flaws, but not carelessness with language.
     
  6. orbitz

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    There are a lot of good reasons why a guy > 21 might be living at home. He went back to school/ grad school and lives at home to save money. He temporarily moved back home to save a down payment for a home, etc.
     
  7. RockTheTassel

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    And to add to that, most guys don't even have a four year college degree before age twenty-two.
     
  8. Andora

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    I agree, 21 is too young. But if they're perfectly happy at home still at 25 with no solid plan to leave, I'd be a bit concerned. It's no deal breaker (well, it is for me, but because of personal experience), but still.

    If they're there at 30 with no decent explanation, I couldn't get out of there fast enough. This seems to be epidemic in my city, though. :p I get the affordability thing, but sometimes it's hard to fully grow up without getting out. I could be wrong, but I wouldn't be surprised if this is especially true with men.

    But, again, it's all down to personal preference, and whatever the deal is with each guy.
     
  9. Satellitegirl

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    My guy still lives at home, but is going to school and working as well.
     
  10. Rafter

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    :lol: You got me. Cousin's. Oops. My bad. I should have proofread my post before hitting submit. I'm embarrassed to have made that mistake. :eek:
     
  11. Prancer

    Prancer The "specialness" that is Staff Member

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    Hartman's Law of Prescriptivist Retaliation: Any article or statement about correct grammar, punctuation, or spelling is bound to contain at least one eror.

    ;)
     
  12. Andora

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    The grammar specialists at work are notorious for this.

    One of them is supremely undateable by many, and yet is one of the most interesting (but bitter) people I know. Hopefully he's not as completely undateable as some think.
     
  13. Holley Calmes

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    I haven't read this whole thread, but I can tell you from a vast amount of experience.....the one big thing that makes a guy undateable is if he's already married. Sounds simple but it isn't. Yet....more heartache has happened by some pie-eyed chicklet dating a married guy....who is at best a cheat by definition. Great way to start out, eh?

    Sorry if this is repetitious. My energy and eyes have been focused on Worlds.
     
  14. Cyn

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    Dredging this thread up from the dead.......

    Bingo.

    I guess it was inevitable, but vh1 has turned this book into one of their many "countdown" shows. The snark is :rofl: , and I gotta say, I generally agree with most of what they've listed.

    (best moment for me? When the "mandanna" was cited, and they cut to Bret Michaels for a soundbyte :rofl: )
     
  15. skateboy

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    In terms of shallow reasons, the dealbreaker for me is dirty fingernails. Oh, and even worse, long unclipped toenails. Eeewwwwww.
     
  16. Bailey_

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    A guy who is a work-a-holic, who's only hobby is going to the gym (which he does from midnight until 2AM), has an hour long conversation and leaves the conversation knowing very little about you because he has talked mostly about himself and hasn't asked you anything about yourself...

    Oh wait, I went out with this guy just this week... No second date.
     
  17. FiveRinger

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    Here's one. I met a guy not to long ago who I was really digging. But, he talked about his kids' mothers so badly that I had to mention it.

    How can dog someone that you thought was good enough to reproduce with but now she's a ho, b*tch, skank, and all of that? You didn't know that before? This, to me, says more about you than your former S.O. How long before I become all of those things.

    Moving on......
     
  18. Norlite

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    Excellent idea.
     
  19. uyeahu

    uyeahu Agitator. Sharpie lover (figuratively speaking).

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    I can't believe poor hygiene wasn't top of the list. Nor STD's. I guess those are "understood" but seriously, if a guy passes those two tests the rest is negotiable. ;)
     
  20. FiveRinger

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    You would think hygiene ranks high, but it doesn't. One of the security offices who works with me has dated more women than should be legal and his hygiene is questionable at best. Pig Pen immediately comes to mind.
     
  21. uyeahu

    uyeahu Agitator. Sharpie lover (figuratively speaking).

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    Yeah I work with a guy whose teeth are rotting out of his head and he's a newlywed. I can't stand to have a conversation with him his breath is so bad but I guess his wife doesn't mind. blech!
     
  22. Norlite

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    besides good hygiene, which IS important to me, I have 2 basics requirements.

    1. Must be employed.

    2. If he's drinking, bettter be a special occasion of some sort. And I don't consider
    "today is Tuesday" a special occasion.
     
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    I feel like I've been out with this guy a few times myself (or close replicas)! :lol:
     
  25. skateycat

    skateycat Minecraft Widow

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    I think I went out on one date with that guy's long-lost, hippie, crunchy-granola cousin! :)

    He tells me how mean and awful and terrible and difficult his son's mom was.

    Five minutes later he says, "You remind me of my son's mom."

    :scream:

     
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  26. Cupid

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    Someone who buys three daily newspapers only to read the sports page

    Someone who only reads comic books

    Someone who doesn't know how to cook

    Someone who drinks a lot on a daily basis

    Someone who is financially illiterate

    Someone who refuses to keep up with technology and doesn't even know how to access his own email or to turn on a computer

    A tax deadbeat
     
  27. Polymer Bob

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    I have heard many stories of girls / women whose boyfriends, drink heavily, do drugs, cheat, beat the crap out of them, and the girls keep going back for more. Were any of these things in that book? :confused:
     
  28. PrincessLeppard

    PrincessLeppard Pink Bitch

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    The book was meant to be a joke. :)

    But I must add to my already long list of disqualifiers. I'm watching House Hunters, and Neanderthals who think they need a "man cave" are out. :D
     
  29. Dave of the North

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    Um, by definition doesn't the requirement for a "man cave" mean they are already in a fairly serious relationship with someone, which in itself should be a bigger disqualifier ...:p

    BTW, I hate the term "man cave" - I hope most people use it ironically, but I suspect not.
     
  30. Rex

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    Hate to be shallow, but skinny legs are a deal-breaker for me.