What makes a Guy Undateable?

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  1. mmscfdcsu

    mmscfdcsu Skating Pairs with Drew

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  2. PrincessLeppard

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    Well, I like makeup on guys, rings, too, and shiny, pointy shoes. I lived in Europe and enjoy a Speedo on a hot bod...

    If he doesn't like my cats and thinks Obama is a socialist, he's out. But really, what makes a guy undateable is really so....not anything I can describe. He, for whatever reason, doesn't carbonate my hormones. (TM Bloom County.)

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  3. orbitz

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    I was flipping through this book while I was at Barns & Nobles this afternoon.

    Hah, if women adhere to what's written in the book then 99% of them would be single right now, LOL. I see a lot of young and youngish men with rings, especially on their thumbs. Why is that a turn off? I don't think wearing socks with sandals is necessary bad either. A hot guy can wear anything. I do agree about skullets (mullet but with a bald head) and bushy back hair though.
     
  4. Spinner

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    Um, seriously? This is so wrong it can't be put into words. As are men who wear necklaces past the age of 25. You're out of college now, put down the puka shells and step away.... :scream:
     
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  5. berthesghost

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    you know who's "undateable"?

    The narrow minded prigs who think this kind of superficial selection process is Ok.

    You know we all have them, single friends who bitch and moan about how the can never find the right person, and then every time they find some sucker to go out with them, they dump them for these kind of idiotic reasons.

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  6. woodstock

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    Sometimes you just gotta have superficial standards. Like two internet dates I met. One wore a kilt (to a rock concert...in Philadelphia, not on St Patty's day) and the other showed up in shorts with knee high white socks (like the 70's gym socks with red stripes at the top), sneakers, and the m&m's candy guys pictured on his t-shirt. These were the first impressions the men presented to me? Each man was in his late 30's-early 40's.

    Shallow, yes I suppose, but some things I just can't handle. But I don't think its narrow minded (I even told kilt-man that he really deserved to be with someone who was comfortable with him, in whatever he chose to wear). I guess that's why I'm still single at 33. But...I couldn't see myself married to a future 50 year old that still dressed like high school.
     
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  7. orbitz

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    I think it's depend on the guy and the situation. It looks good on Jeff Probst when he wears it on Survivor. Now if some random Jason Alexander look-alike was wearing it while walking downtown, I would say "Um...Really?" :lol:.

    I feel the same way with men and earrings. If you're a teen, in your 20s or young 30s and decent shape then yes you can carry it off. When you're Harrison Ford's age and still has an earring? Uh ...No.
     
  8. Matryeshka

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    I don't get why ordering salad is undateable. :confused: There are places that just have really great salads. Especially when they have those tasty tart little apples and blue cheese. And walnuts. And are not salad-like.
     
  9. berthesghost

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    ^ I wonder if she wrote the funny Seinfeld episode where everyone hates Jerry for ordering salad. :lol:
     
  10. Flatfoote

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    The only one I'd agree with is the "men who don't like animals." That would be a deal breaker with me, as it points to the guy's character. All the rest are just fickle habits to nick-pick on to justify dumping someone.
     
  11. RockTheTassel

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    Some of the reasons in the article are petty and shallow, but so what? A lot of women do dump men (or don't even go out with them in the first place) for those reasons, whether they admit it or not. There's no denying it -- appearance and manners do make a difference.
     
  12. IceAlisa

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    Last time I was on multiple European beaches, the only guys who wore Speedos were um, a bit older, out of shape AND SHOULD NOT HAVE BEEN WEARING THEM. The younger/physically fit set all wear those baggy shorts American guys favor.
     
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    I certainly have nothing against guys who order salads and wear rings. So what? He eats healthy, and has a bit of jewellery is okay! (As long as he doesn't wear as much bling as Mr. T, I am fine with it).
     
  14. Prancer

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    Hmmm, one of the things I think makes a man undateable is a tendency toward shallow, superficial assessments of women. Because most women really hate it when guys dump them for shallow, stupid reasons.
     
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  15. Anita18

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    :respec:

    Many of the reasons featured in that article are so :rolleyes:. Just because a guy has bad fashion sense doesn't mean he's a bad person. My bf is 28 and wears plaid shirts to work. They are butt-ugly and make me laugh, but I'd never consider dumping him over it.
     
  16. The Village Idiot

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    How so? I understand it being a dealbreaker for you, but exactly what does it say about one's character?
     
  17. nubka

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    Try.
     
  18. Anita18

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    For me, it would depend on the reasoning. My dad didn't like dogs at first, but that was due to unfamiliarity. (I feel the same with kids right now. :lol: ) He warmed up pretty quickly when my mom chose "her baby" at the shelter. :lol: I can understand that. I can also understand not being able to relate to an animal, as long as you can treat it with respect.

    Treating animals as emotional or physical punching bags = :scream:
     
  19. Nomad

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    I won't date a guy who doesn't read. I've tried, but it just doesn't work for me. And I don't care if he likes Tom Clancy or Dostoevsky - just as long as he's capable of settling into a book of some kind instead spending his free time glued to the TV or getting antsy and bored when I'm immersed in a book.
     
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  20. Ajax

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    I wouldn't go so far as to say that I wouldn't date somebody because of it but seeing "definitely" spelled as "defiantly" drives me CRAZY :lol: The pronounciation is completely different so how do you mess up the spelling??

    I wish they'd clarified more what they mean by not liking animals. If they mean that the guy actively hates and mistreats animals fine, that can be a dealbreaker. But I don't see what's wrong with just not being fond of them... I think dogs and cats are cute but I would never want to own one because I wouldn't want to get up early in the morning to have to walk them, scoop their poop or clean their hair off of all my furniture, too much bother. I sure hope that doesn't make me undateable!

    All of the other stuff on the list, the speedos, socks in sandals, chest hair, I can overlook if the guy's personality makes up for it. My one dealbreaker would be smoking. I'll occasionally smoke a cigarette at a party but I would never smoke if I know I'm going to have any sort of physical proximity with a date/boyfriend. In fact I recently refused a chainsmoker who asked me out because the smell of cigarettes wafting off of him as he sat next to me made me want to retch.

    Does anybody else feel that that's a reasonable dealbreaker?
     
  21. orbitz

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    The book "Undatable" is displayed in the comedic section in the bookstore. It's only meant for a good chuckle or two.

    Some real reasons that should make any guy undatable:
    1. He's an abuser, cheater, liar, stealer
    2. He has no respect for the person he's dating
    3. Unemployed and no desire to get a job
    4. Do drugs
    5. Bad body hygiene
    6. Ego maniac
     
  22. PrincessLeppard

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    If someone spells the word "definately" then the first word that comes up on spellcheck is "defiantly." My students do this all the time.
     
  23. mila19

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    I hated smoke when it was cool to have a puff or more during High School. Made my mother smoke in the balcony and occasionally locked her out in attempt to make her give up on smoking :lol:
    Then at 25 had a ciggie from time to time when going out but it never became a habit.
    Now, when it came to guys there were those who actually smelled like cigarettes and those who didn't although they did smoke. Weird but true. So as long as they don't smoke inside my house, I'm fine.
    I do have a :scream: reaction when it comes to body odour and body hair EEK!
     
  24. Erin

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    Well, I found myself nodding along with some of them, but in actuality, I'd never dump someone over it. My ex (who was in his mid-30s) used textspeak, but I got over it. He was also a terrible speller, but I just corrected his spelling and grammar in his e-mails and then we were both happy.
     
  25. bobalina77

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    I don't smoke at all and I always thought I'd never date a smoker but.. boyfriend smokes and it actually doesn't bother me. He's one of those who doesn't smell like smoke (unless he's just had one) and he NEVER smokes in the house. He's tried quitting several times since we got together but it hasn't stuck yet. I'm not overly concerned about it.. I think he will eventually.. but if he doesn't he doesn't.
     
  26. MOIJTO

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    Since I haven't dated in many years, I can only list what I considered undatable and I would assume this applies to today.

    Smelly
    Smoking
    Drug use/drinking
    Sloppy dress/which could be in the smell catagory
    Unemployment (other than layoff, deadbeat)

    Tattoos, piercings were not the norm back than but I don't mind ears and a few tattoos.

    Makeup, if their wearing makeup, I am sorry I would think they go both ways and I for one preferred hetrosexual men.

    Abusive in anyway
    Dishonesty
    To many "girl" friends
    To many friends in general


    And to add I think you really need to know who you are before you can decide who and what kind of person to date. :)
     
  27. slicekw

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    There is a certain way that men wear rings that is pretty darn icky. But then I have not dated a guy because I didn't like his hands.

    My latest don't is don't date a guy that picks you up and then spends 45 minutes on how he's worried about his heart even though the doctor and the cardiologist told him nothing is wrong. Doesn't leave much to look forward to.
     
  28. Matryeshka

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    I think everyone has a few shallow reasons for not wanting to date a guy, which is fine, just so long as it's not 311 of them. And a serious reason to one person might be shallow to another. For example, I'm totally with Nomad on the non-reading thing, and for much the same reason. Not being a reader is a dealbreaker for me, as I think over time, it points to what you spend talk about/spend your time doing together, and I LOVE to talk about books. I would drive a non-reader up the wall. To some of my friends, this is completely reasonable, and to others, it's very WTF.

    MOIJTO said that she doesn't want a man who has too many "girl" friends or too many friends in general. This is bizarre to me. I have a lot "guy" friends and friends in general. I need my personal space--a lot of it. I need a guy that's similar in that respect. His Thursday Poker Night is A-OK with me. But I know a lot of both guys and girls that are like MOIJTO and that after a certain age, it's odd to have an active social group not connected with your significant other. It just depends.

    And really, on the book, there are some obvious ones, like employed, non-abusive, etc. that are must-haves, and most people do meet those basic requirements. It is the little things that make or break most relationships. And I think it's agreeing on some of these little things that make things harmonious.

    One person's dealmaker is another one's dealbreaker.
     
  29. mmscfdcsu

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    ITA! And, the older I get and the happier I am, the less likely I am to tolerate certain things. For example, someone who is always sniffeling, never blowing his nowe, just making that awful noise all of the time. Ewwww!
     
  30. Erin

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    Yeah, mine smoked up until a few months ago and it wasn't really a big deal. He very rarely smoked around me except when we were travelling so it was usually off my radar screen. Now that he's quit, I actually don't even notice the difference. Now not every smoker can or will control their smoking that way, though, so I can see being hesitant about dating a smoker.