What is your biggest fear?

Discussion in 'Off The Beaten Track' started by Bailey_, Jul 6, 2010.

  1. Bailey_

    Bailey_ Guest

    Along the same thought as "what do you hate about yourself," I'm curious to know what it is that people really fear?

    I have only one real fear that I struggle with and that is illness. I'm really anxious about getting sick and having to rely on someone else to care for me. Part of this fear is based in the fact that I live alone and I'm always scared that there will be nobody there if there is a medical emergency. I don't want to be anxious about this, but it is the one thing that I really fear.

    Just thinking out loud and curious to know the experience of other posters...
  2. PrincessLeppard

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    Probably heights. But not enough to paralyze me should it become a factor in my winning Amazing Race. ;)
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    forgetting stuff. Seriously. Before going out I always check to the stove several times, and once out the door I check it twice to make sure. LOL
  4. brina

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    Money. I'm afraid I will be in dire need of it for some reason or another and I will have to resort to borrowing from relatives that will hold it against me.
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    Centipedes. I get the willies just thinking about them. Brrrrrrr! :scream:

    In a more serious fashion, I also agree with the part about getting sick and being a burden to my family/friends.
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    Going blind. I have much scar tissue in my left eye from corneal graft and transplant. Not much sight left there. I fear losing sight and having to give up car and independence. :yikes:
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    Diseases. I'm so scared of one day having cancer.

    :(

    That's probably my biggest fear. Another one is finishing school and not being able to find a job.
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    I finished school; I am living the nightmare of not finding a job.

    But if I have to pick another it would be of a long, painful death or a gruesome one.
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    What my baby sister is facing right now...the impending death of the man I love.
  11. MikiAndoFan#1

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    :(

    Good luck finding a job!

    :cheer2:
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    :( Sorry for what your sister is going through, That would be top on my list of fears also the fear of losing one of my children. I try to remember everyday to be thankful we are all here and healthy at the moment, but you just never know when or if something might happen. Then again fears shouldn't stop anyone from living a happy life.....there's is a chance that nothing might happen and we all live a long happy life.....it's all a delicate balance.
  13. PrincessLeppard

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    I almost said that I fear my breast cancer will come back. Then I thought about my cousin's 38 year old daughter, herself a mother of a 5 and an 8 year old, just diagnosed with stage 3a breast cancer. Then I realized it would be worse for my daughter to be stricken with something like that. Breast cancer is so much more rampant in younger women-it spreads so much faster! But for your child to suffer-that's the worst thing I can think of.
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  15. MikiAndoFan#1

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    I have another one: losing my little brother.

    :(
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    Ghosts, clowns, and chiropractors.
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    besides the health and safety of my children and grandchildren, fire in my home.
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    Snakes, which is stupid because it's not like I've ever had a ban experience or anything, but I'm absolutely terrified. Even if it's just a little garter snake I'll actually get paralyzed and have a full on panic attack. As a kid I used to have my sister go through books like the Guiness Book of Records or anything that could have a picture of a snake in it and tape the pages together so I wouldn't turn to it and throw the book clear across the room in panic.

    I also worry about things like losing a loved one and such, but doesn't everyone?
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    Wuss. Sock puppets are far more heinous. Look at this one. :scream: :scream:
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    I have so many fears, it is hard to name just one, but snakes is right up there.

    And I thought I was the only who couldn't handle pictures of snakes in books. I couldn't open science books because of the pictures of snakes.
    My high school science teacher threatened me with failing the class unless I touched a snake. I said - try it, I will go to the principal/school board. Now that is irrationale, fear of snakes vs. principals and school boards.
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    Clowns. Especially the Bozo/Krusty type. They're too creepy. I mean, really, why would a grown man do that???
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    Snakes.

    Being stuck among fanatical mobs with no exit.
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    Something bad happening to my kids and hubby. Sometimes I cry because I get so worried!
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    Losing control of my bodily functions and being consigned to a nursing home where I am surrounding by other sick and dying elders and live without the joy and comfort of my :dog:and :cat: companions.
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    Losing my kids or my husband. Everything else is nothing compared to that.
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    I've been there so I shouldn't be afraid of anything but still, I'm scared of diseases like cancer. I'm also scared of ending up homeless and of fire. I've been in all kind of dangerous situations but fire is the only thing that can really make me loose my self-control.
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    Being physically dependant on another person due to illness, accident, etc.
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    Agree. Not being able to take care of myself is #2 on my list.
    #1 is not being able to communicate.
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    Fire (for myself), automobile accidents (for others I care about)

    also this. made me jump out of my skin just reading it:

  32. MOIJTO

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    Blessings to you for your losses.

    I have been in a fire and I have been in an auto accident that could have killed me and yes, cancer causes me concern but outright fear of losing my kids and my husband is the #1 thing on my list. Homeless is still a real possibility for us if things do not improve within the next year, that will be a real adjustment I am sure, but so it goes!
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    I fear not having enough income to support the basic needs of my family.
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    Since I currently am a housewife, I fear the thought of being forced back into the work force after a long period of absence (through DH's death, financial need or divorce). As a former graphic designer, my skills will all but be obsolete even five years from now. But me staying home is something we both wanted, so that's the risk I take. I'm just going to have to keep myself as updated as possible, just in case.
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    Mustard. As stupid as it sounds, it's true. Can't smell it, can't look at it, can't touch it. If it comes near me I run the other way. My loved ones thing I am little bit crazy.

    I once found a website with people's strange phobia's and found solace that there are others like me who are afraid of mustard.
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    I can understand this, because it can be so humiliating. I know it was for me a couple of times after my car accident.

    I am another one who cannot even stand to see a picture of a snake. However everytime there's a nature special on TV about snakes, I find myself watching it for at least a few minutes. I guess I like scaring myself to death. :scream:

    I admit I'm also very afraid of dogs, have been since early childhood. I'm a little better now, I can at least stand to be around one, but if it jumps on me it's panic time.

    Getting Alzheimer's, my grandfather has it now, and I came to the conclusion a few weeks ago that the hardest thing is missing someone when technically they are still here. :(

    My mom getting cancer. My grandmother died of lung cancer earlier this year and my mom still smokes. :wall:
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    A bad car accident, especially one where I am at fault, causing severe mental, physical and financial trauma. Life can change in an instant. But I don't worry very much any more, just make an effort to appreciate every day, the joys and wonders of life.
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    Getting sick with some serious illness, right as life is getting good.

    A break-in.....I lock my doors at night, then close my bedroom door and lock it as well, when I sleep at night...not to mention check my closet every night before bed(it's a walk-in).

    Used to be terrified of death, but have come to terms with the fact that once you get past the actual not conscious anymore, it's probably not that scary because you aren't aware.

    Flying.........I've never been a fan...but I'm not terrified or scared stiff by it....I just don't like it much and would rather not. Irrational I know.
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    Chronic diseases like cancer. I have lupus but so far it isn't that grave, I can cope without too many problems with my medicine. But I'm terribly scared of it getting worse.:(:(:(

    Bad Accidents and consequences (becoming handicapped or deformed in any way).:(

    Being unemployed.:(
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    Cancer. It's already killed in my immediate family twice. :(

    Nuclear War (hopefully, I'll be old and senile by the time that happens, but I do worry about the future of my grandchildren.)

    Other than that, I try not to worry too much, and not sweat the small stuff... :)