What do I wear?...the sequel

Discussion in 'Off The Beaten Track' started by PRlady, Aug 10, 2012.

  1. Spareoom

    Spareoom Well-Known Member

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    Holy crap, my first car barely cost more than that dress. 8-o Insane. But so lovely! I hope you're able to find one that fits into your price range better. Now that you know what style you like, you should be able to find similar ones...have you tried Ebay?
     
  2. IceAlisa

    IceAlisa Épaulement!!!

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    I have been professionally measured by a bra lady and turns out I've been wearing a wrong size my whole life. :rolleyes: I am a 32B, not a 34A or it's a ploy to get me to buy new bras. I did buy a couple and they are very comfortable.
     
  3. PRlady

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    This is apparently the most common mistake American women make -- too small in the cup and too big in the band. (I figured this out some years back, going from a 38D to 36DD. It's possible that now having lost weight I am really a 34DDD but I'm afraid to get measured and find that out....)

    Anyway, we missed you around here, IA. I figured you were taking a sabbatical until the election was over. ;)
     
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  4. cruisin

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    Twice as much as my first car. Of course that was 40 years ago! I only posted that dress because, in looking for a (less expensive) dress similar to the one I really like, all I did was find one about quadruple the $$$$$.

    I did that a few years ago. Only they decided that I needed to go from 32DD to 34D. The cup fits better but the back strap rides up. And it's on the smallest hook. A 32D doesn't fit, so....? The problem is, I need the 32 because I am so small around my rib cage. But the 32D, the cups are too close together and they cut into the outsides of my breasts.
     
  5. IceAlisa

    IceAlisa Épaulement!!!

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    Yikes, cruisin. Custom made bras? Does this even exist?

    PRLady, I didn't realize how common that mistake was. I have always been so confident about wearing the correct bra size and thought that straps falling, bras riding up and down was part of the deal. How silly do I feel now...

    Got this thing in black: http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/betsey-...D54E54-D30C-E211-9A4A-90E2BA0278A8&origin=pla

    Very cute, comfy and stays in place. Who knew?
     
  6. IceAlisa

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  7. PRlady

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    Those are so cute. Sigh. I wear Wacoals with more support than those.

    I realize this is probably not the thread for this but I am, at this belated stage in life, seriously considering breast reduction surgery. As those of you who have met me know, I have a really small frame. Now I've lost seven pounds. Small-framed women who weigh 135 should not have DD or DDD boobs, it's starting to bother my shoulders and upper back.

    Over fifty, as I've written, the large get larger and the small get smaller. I can either just live with this the rest of my life or sacrifice a month, feel like crap (I have the sick leave) and fix it for once and for all.

    Anyone who wants to yell at me not to do it, go right ahead. I have mixed feelings.
     
  8. PDilemma

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    My sister-in-law did it about 15 years ago and says it was the single best decision of her life.
     
  9. IceAlisa

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    I am not going to yell at you. On the contrary--several patients of mine had done it for medical reasons (back pain, etc.) and are very happy with the results. Our clinic arranged the referral on my advice in one of these cases. Of course, the usual risks of surgery and anesthesia apply. And they MAY grow back, believe it or not. But again, quite a few satisfied patients.

    So...gulp...small get smaller? How much smaller can they get? I may consider going the other direction. I do want to have some boobs left after 50.
     
  10. PRlady

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    Well, my B friends are now A's and my A friend is now a double-A. I'm not kidding. A 38AA at the age of 55. She can afford implants but I think she never will.
     
  11. IceAlisa

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    FML. That's it. It's either HRT or a boob job. :drama: No wonder Traditional Chinese Medicine no longer considers you a woman after the age of 49. They don't mince words, do they...
    arble loss drug trial. :shuffle:
     
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  12. Jenya

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    My mom did it 15 years ago - she is quite petite (5'2") and her chest just overwhelmed her. She had severe back and shoulder pain and just decided to do it. She was so happy that she did it, and I don't think the recovery was that bad - it was an outpatient procedure as I remember and she was back up and around in no time. Her quality of life improved quite a bit, her clothes fit better, and the pain was gone - totally worth it, IMO.

    ETA: and her insurance did cover it, I think it normally will in cases of chronic pain.
     
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  13. *Jen*

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    Easy. The band is too big in a 34, the cup is too small in the 32D. Try going back to a 32DD. Just because a woman with a measuring tape told you to wear a 34D does NOT mean it's right. Watch this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Jk55ep4XUQ&feature=share

    It's not BS. Most women ARE wearing the wrong sized bra. There's an incorrect assumption in the US that if you're over a D, you're huge. Not so. I wear a US women's size 8, yet I'm in a 30 band and it's not too small. There are a whole range of reasons why bra sizing has changed, mainly to do with the fabric, but stores like Victoria's Secret still have no clue. The video is long, but worth it.
     
  14. IceAlisa

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    Yes, insurance does cover reduction if it's for medical reasons. These are the only ones I am familiar with working with chronic pain. It's a bit more involved than a typical augmentation--I've watched both live several times back when I was in research.
     
  15. cruisin

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    No yelling from me either. I would do it too, if I were't such a chicken, and it wasn't so expensive. I have permanent dents in my shoulders. But mine are more deflated now. The breast tissue is probably a small C cup. the excess skin turns them into Ds. Sorry if that's too graphic. I just want mine back on my chest! :lol:

    I wear Wacoal too, very good support.
     
  16. PRlady

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    See, that's it. (We need a subset discussion here for Women of a Certain Age.) At what point are you fixing something that really can and should be fixed -- and at what point are you fighting time? Natural growth/saggage to me is not something for which I should choose major surgery. It's like the line I draw between Juvederm (ouch but minor) and a facelift (major ouch, not minor, not accepting natural progression.)
     
  17. Anita18

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    That's EXACTLY what happened to me! :rofl: I swear I have nothing more than mosquito bites on my chest and had been wearing A/AA's all my life, until I decided to get fitted properly before my friend's wedding (I was bridesmaid). 32B. I was like, NO. WAI. :eek: The fitting lady laughed and assured me, "You have breasts, girl!" :lol:

    Turns out that I am a flat and wide B. I don't stick out very much, but cup size seems to go by how wide your boobs are over your ribcage. The only 32Bs I've recently found that fit me best are Gilly Hicks pushups. :) Generally I can only fill out the pushup bras, because otherwise there's a ton of air in the cups. But if I go to an A, it pulls at the boob tissue underneath my armpits. One can never win even if you know your correct size. :drama:

    My best friend weighs 115lbs, is SUPER-small framed (weighs more than I do but has a smaller waist)...and is a 30F after getting sized by the same people who did me. :shuffle: She is also flat and wide across so I guess there isn't as much mass there as there should be...but still! :yikes:

    She hasn't complained about pain. Yet. But poor woman can't go braless even when she sleeps.

    My mom is an AA, too. IF that. Actual mosquito bites on that woman. :lol: I'm not sure how much bigger she was before, though, although I know she was able to breastfeed us waaay back when. We are just small-breasted folk. :p And she doesn't have any interest in cleavage-baring clothing, or even clothing that shows off how thin she is, so I don't think it bothers her much, if at all.

    If one is concerned about one's attractiveness to the opposite sex, my solution is to find a man who likes your assets. My ex-bf was a boob man. I do not have any. Alf (Anita's Loveable Fiance :lol: ) is a butt man. And lemme tell you, I'm a whole lot happier with him than with ex-bf. :lol:
     
  18. Zemgirl

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    A friend of mine had a reduction a few years ago for medical reasons. I never asked what her cup size was before but it must have been very big, and she's not tall. It wasn't as simple a procedure as Jenya describes, but she's so happy with her smaller breasts, not having to deal with awful back pain, etc., that it was definitely worth it to her. If this eventually feels like the right decision, I don't think anyone else's opinion should matter.
     
  19. made_in_canada

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    I can't speak from personal experience, but I've known 3 or 4 women that have had it done and all are very happy with their smaller breasts.
     
  20. IceAlisa

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    Natori is featured in the immigrant success story on yahoo: http://finance.yahoo.com/news/7-self-made-immigrant-millionaires.html?page=1

    Yay for Natori!

    Also features Sergei Brin of Google teaming up with DVF:
    Yay for Brin! Although I am not sure we need sunglasses that text.
     
  21. Twilight1

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    Boob non-violent I think about getting it done myself... still weighing the pros and cons of it.

    Hubby and decided instead of going nuts for xmas we are just going to buy what we need/ want. I need clothes so that is my xmas gift this year.

    Any colours really big this season? Lol
     
  22. PRlady

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    Teal. Purple. I actually have black shoes I bought last winter with tasteful little teal and purple insets along the sides so I'm set. ;)
     
  23. cruisin

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    Green is also very big this year. Especially emerald and hunter. Burgundy was very big last year and continues to be.
     
  24. Twilight1

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    Yay! Green looks fab on me with my red highlights. I also like teal and purple is my husbands fave colour.
     
  25. PRlady

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    Thanks to everyone for contributing thoughts and experiences. I will continue to mull it over.

    My stepsister had the surgery, but she had complications. She has already had open-heart surgery which means they had to maneuver around the scar tissue, she got an infection, it really took six months to recover. I'm thinking that is not the norm, at least I hope so.
     
  26. IceAlisa

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  27. cruisin

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    Nay! I don't mind the top.but the skirt? :eek:
     
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  29. Twilight1

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    I love the top too but definitely no to the bottom.
     
  30. skatesindreams

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    Ditto!
    Tasteless.