Wedding/showers..advice, ettiquette, and general bitching!

Discussion in 'Off The Beaten Track' started by Smiley0884, Mar 18, 2013.

  1. IceAlisa

    IceAlisa Épaulement!!!

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    True--the memories are priceless.
     
  2. Anita18

    Anita18 Well-Known Member

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    Yeah, stay away from Hawaii the last week of August, please. ;)
     
  3. mag

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    Well don't go to Arizona when I am there. I have been three times, and each time it has rained. I mean serious rain, and I'm from Vancouver so I know rain! I know people who have been going every year for years and they have never had a drop of rain ... I must be cursed (or related to Cruisin ;) )
     
  4. cruisin

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    Don't worry, we're done with Hawaii. It's too long a flight from the east coast. If I'm going to fly that far, I'd rather go to Europe where there are things to do when it rains :D.

    I don't cause weather issues in Arizona, just Hawaii :lol: So, no worries for the people of AZ, if I go there. But, it might not be me, both times my husband was there...Hmmmm!
     
  5. PDilemma

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    We didn't have a honeymoon. We had two nights at the Hilton in Omaha. The one across from the arena, for those of you who may have been at Nats. It is about 40 minutes from our house. My husband had changed jobs just prior to our wedding after six months of drama after his previous employer burnt down the business in an insurance scam (only found out for sure that the employer was involved recently when there was an indictment). He was not even supposed to be allowed time off at the new job but they made and exception and gave him three days unpaid for our wedding.

    He is underemployed there and I became underemployed a year later. We actually still have not been on any trip by ourselves for longer than two days for the entire life of our relationship. We were planning a four day getaway in May in which we would go some place and not stay with friends for the first time ever...and now it looks like there will be mandatory overtime and no leave at his job until June.

    Yet our marriage has survived just fine. It is the only stable and secure and happy thing in our lives, actually. Honeymoons do not make a marriage. The most extravagant honeymooners among my circle of friends was the couple who is now divorced after a ten year marriage in which they lived separate lives for eight.
     
  6. madm

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    Haha, we were on Kauai at the same time! We were on Spring break when a dam broke and the severe flooding washed out the only main road around the island (no way to get to the airport). We had plenty of food and gassed up the car in Princeville, so it was fine with us to hang out in our beautiful rental home for days. We have been to Kauai many times and it is not unusual to have rain in March, but the 30" we got in 10 days has made me think twice about going there again in March. We'll go back for sure because this is our favorite island, but maybe during a different month. The other island quirk that we had to plan for was driving to/from our rental home past Hanalei, because during heavy rains the bridge between Hanalei and Princeville (over the Hanalei River) floods as the tide comes in, so you have to drive over it during low tide. It's all just part of the charm of Kauai :). And it keeps the tour buses away!
     
  7. cruisin

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    We were in Maui for the first week, the rain was just as bad there. This was 6 years ago, I believe. I remember there was a problem at Waikiki, as well. Something about the water quality (maybe a sewage line broke?). We were in Maui for a convention, so there was a lot to do for that, and we were with a lot of friends. But, we had decided to spend an extra week on Kauai. We stayed on the south eastern part of the island (I want to say Poipu, but not sure), but did drive up to Princeville. I remember seeing all of the destruction on the drive up to Princeville. I also remember talking to a lot of the people who live there who were having to get out of their homes due to severe mildew problems. They said that March is typically more rainy, especially on Kauai. But that they usually get about 6" of rain for the month, that month they got 32". Another memory is that the streets were littered with dead frogs :scream:! Apparently they live in the foliage along the roadways, those areas were flooded and the frogs were going into the streets and getting run over. Happy Memory! :lol:
     
  8. Anita18

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    Poor froggies. :(
     
  9. Anita18

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  11. mkats

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    I like them!!!
     
  12. Skittl1321

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    Anita they are lovely!
     
  13. skatesindreams

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    They are, indeed.
     
  14. mag

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    Absolutely beautiful!
     
  15. Anita18

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    Thank you! :)


    Another piece of happy news: my coworker who's gravely ill in France just emailed me and said he's up for Skype-crashing the wedding! :cheer: He can only think week-to-week, but he's aiming for next Saturday!

    Now, to either get Skype to work on my coworker's Android with unlimited data, or to recruit my sister's uber-hackery bf to tether something with his iPhone...But we are going to make this happen!
     
  16. vesperholly

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    Awesome :) I think he'll make it. My aunt's cancer spread to her lungs in January 2009, but she held on for my sister's wedding that August and died in November. She always said she'd never miss the wedding.
     
  17. IceAlisa

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    It's amazing that people can will themselves to live for something while so ill, isn't it?
     
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    Oh, I'm so happy for you (and him) Anita... I wanted to ask about this but was afraid there was bad news. So glad :)
     
  19. cruisin

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    Anita, that would be wonderful. I'll send good thoughts to France for your friend.
     
  20. skatesindreams

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    The will can be a beautiful thing,
    Good luck with all of the technical issues.
     
  21. PDilemma

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    So I just got home from a wedding that included an interpretive dance. As part of the ceremony.
     
  22. KCC

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    Not by the bride and groom though, right?
     
  23. genevieve

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    that sounds awesomely awful :p

    one of my favorite weddings I've attended had the officiant do a live rendition of "Sweet Transvestite" in full Frank N Furter drag after the ceremony (with the bride, groom, and wedding party providing backup). Officiant wore a suit to do the ceremony though :p
     
  24. PDilemma

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    No. It was done around them, though. As they sat in their yellow chairs under the spotlight which is where they were for most of the ceremony which was basically a theatrical production in a black box theatre. The program even read as such. They starred as "The Bride" and "The Groom". Both in quotes which bothered the English teacher part of me.

    The groom's sister, allegedly a professional ballerina, performed the dance. It was mostly tendus and arm waving and rapid running in circles around the "happy couple". I have taken about a year and a half of adult beginning ballet and am fairly certain I could have performed that choreography. We were told it was symbolic of the music that the bride and groom heard in their heads before they met and how they found each other across a room and began to dance because their music was the same. The ceremony also included their mothers each having a turn reading a rather eulogy like tribute to their respective children. The bride (the theatre person of the pair) sat there making very large and dramatic and possibly rehearsed facial expressions in response to everything. The vows were all about having adventures and being fans and finding mischief. (Good luck with that sustaining a marriage in the long term). I cannot even begin to describe the music. Most pop songs common at weddings do not translate well when performed as operatic arias by Miss Iowa (and we knew she was formerly Miss Iowa thanks to the bios on the back of the "playbill"). There were also costume changes for the dancer and the officiant (the bride's sister ordained on the web last month). And they tied a knot in some rope to symbolize the unity of the community. At the end, her sister pronounced them "a happy couple".

    And the reception was in the theatre lobby which does not have room for tables, chairs or people to do anything but go into the theatre. There was apparently "entertainment". But we didn't stay long enough for that. A picture on FB this morning appears as if their dog was involved in the entertainment.
     
  25. Habs

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    :rofl: That sounds epic!
     
  26. skatesindreams

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    ^^^
    A "new age" ceremony?
    I'm all for modern touches; but, prefer a little more tradition than that.
     
  27. PDilemma

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    Oh, it was.

    I truly went just for the entertainment. The bride is an acquaintance of mine as are both of her parents and her mother is a good friend of my mother-in-law. I was my sister-in-law's plus one. My mother-in-law, the friend who was her plus one (father-in-law didn't want to go near this, he is very traditional), and I were enjoying the absurdity of it all, while sister-in-law (as my husband predicted) was all weepy and proclaiming it the greatest wedding ever.
     
  28. KCC

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    Wow..... While I am glad that the couple made their ceremony "their own", I think it would have been hard for me to keep from laughing. And I think I would have stayed for the entertainment, just out of curiosity. Please try to find out more about how the dog fit into it.

    I will not complain ever again about my family's weddings.
     
  29. Anita18

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    I would have loved to see that kind of offbeat wedding. :rofl:
     
  30. PDilemma

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    I totally agree with you. Tradition with some twists is often a good thing. Turning the whole wedding into a performance is just odd. My MiL couldn't believe there was no "I do/will" and they just put their own rings on after the sister rambled about intertwining circles for awhile. The word "intertwining" was used excessively throughout to the point that I wanted to giggle.

    The bride's mother used some humor in her "tribute" talk. Then she felt bad and asked us if we thought it was inappropriate at the reception. She had been told it was to be "solemn". I told her this thing needed some levity, her response, "true, and people needed an excuse to laugh since I followed THAT DANCE". :lol:

    A lot of the "ceremony" would have been lovely in a different context. The words from the mothers would have been nice at a rehearsal dinner or in shortened form as a toast at the reception. And the theatrical touches (since the bride works in theatre) would have been cute in the context of just the reception--having a "playbill" with the menu or something like that. But in the way they did it, it was all just over the top.