It's that time of year again! Since spring is around the corner I figured now is a great time to share advice and stories with regard to the up coming wedding and shower season My aunt is throwing my baby shower that's coming up in June, and while I'm definitely excited, this whole baby shower thing is definitely new to me! The shower is going to be female-only, however I do have a few friends that are hispanic (like myself) and are more accustomed to baby-showers that are co-ed and family oriented. I don't want anyone's feelings to get hurt, but we want to keep the number of people as small and manageable as possible. Since I have a large family and quite a few friends that are either married or attached, the best solution was to keep it female-only, and to be honest I feel more comfortable with that arrangement anyhow. My Aunt mentioned that simply addressing the invitation to the female should give them the hint that it's female only, but I know that will go over some people's heads. Would it make sense to indicate "ladies only" on the invitation, or just bring it to anyone's attention that it's female-only if they try to RSVP with their husband? I feel like the latter option might be leaving the door open to the possibility of hurt feelings and awkwardness. On the subject of weddings! One of me best friends is semi engaged...(she's planning a wedding, and put down a deposit on a dress, but has no ring and hasn't been formally proposed to yet) and those of us in her wedding party are a bit concerned with buying our dresses/planning showers, ect. since she has "called off" the wedding once already. Her and her fiancee are throwing themselves a jack and jill to raise money for the wedding, since they're broke and can't really afford a wedding to begin with. Is it bad that myself and another bridesmaid don't want to attend? I think jack and jills are a bit tacky to begin with, but I can understand it if it's being thrown by the wedding party or a close friend as a gesture to help out the bride and groom. But I think it's just a huge tacky money grab to throw YOURSELF one!!! The way I see it, if my bf and I can't afford to get married right now, we're sure as hell not tossing in money to fund someone else's wedding. Anyone else have a wedding or shower story/questions...feel free to share!