'Tis the Season. Wedding reports!

Discussion in 'Off The Beaten Track' started by Civic, Jun 6, 2011.

  1. Civic

    Civic New Member

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    I went to my first wedding of the summer this afternoon. I've got another one coming up in mid July and a third during Labor Day weekend. It was all very nice but two things stood out for me:

    1) The bride wore a white straw picture hat trimmed with white tulle roses in lieu of a veil. I hadn't seen a bride wear a hat since the 1980s. Does anyone know if this is a new trend?

    2) The food was unusual for a wedding reception but very good. My cousin hired an Italian deli to cater it. They served pressed sandwiches, pasta salad, roasted veggie salad, tossed green salad, a yummy fruit salad, soft drinks, and an alcoholic punch they called an Italian spritzer. I never would have thought of having a tiramasu wedding cake but it was delicious.

    My cousin's mother was a bit worried about not serving a hot meal or champagne. But given that the temperature reached 91F today, I think everyone was fine with a cold buffet dinner. The Italian spritzer was certainly more refreshing than champagne would have been in this heat. I'm not sure what was all in it but I had two cups of it since I wasn't driving.:D
     
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  2. IceAlisa

    IceAlisa Épaulement!!!

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    Wheeee! I love other people's weddings.

    I went to my first Lutheran wedding recently and it was very special, made so in no small part by the minister. He started out by snarking about Rapture day and how it didn't happen. But along with levity there were a lot of profound and beautiful things that he said to us.
    The bride wore an understated satin strapless A-line and a poofy veil. Her hair was up and a bit poofy as well.

    The food was OK. The cake was delicious, strawberry cream with cream frosting. The most amazing part was the band, literally the best I've ever heard at a wedding, including my own. They were amazing and everyone danced their butts off.

    What's a picture hat?
     
  3. Civic

    Civic New Member

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    It's a dressy woman's hat with a wide brim. Have you ever seen "Gone With the Wind"? Remember the hat Scarlett O'Hara wore to the barbeque early in the film? That was the ultimate picture hat, imo. They're called picture hats because 18th century English painters like Gainsborough used to paint pictures of English ladies wearing ornate, wide-brimmed hats.

    (20+ years of helping college students do research for term papers:p)
     
  4. IceAlisa

    IceAlisa Épaulement!!!

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    Yeah, I remember Scarlett's hat and thought it was kind of cool. Then I remembered Samantha's hat in Sex In The City 1 when she is on the beach and is ogling a surfer while eating guacamole and think it's less cool. Depends on a hat. :)
     
  5. Lanie

    Lanie Well-Known Member

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    I am going to a wedding in August. Outside. In Texas.

    I will never forgive my cousin for this. ;)

    I've never heard of the hat trend. I did a veil but I figured this would be the one day in my life I'd wear one, so just go all out, yo!
     
  6. Civic

    Civic New Member

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    :yikes: Texas gets very hot in the summer and if you're in the Eastern part of the state or near the Gulf it will also be humid. Will all the festivities be outside or just the wedding ceremony?
     
  7. Lanie

    Lanie Well-Known Member

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    I think everything is outside, I'm not sure. Granted, I've been to weddings outside in Florida for other family members, so I can probably handle it. It's other people in our family I'm worried about! :yikes:
     
  8. Habs

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    I'm going to a wedding in July (the groom is my brother's best friend).

    All I know is the bride picked out the bridesmaids' dresses and made sure they were bland and dark because she didn't want any of the attention to be taken away from her.
    :rolleyes:

    I think this one's gonna be entertaining! :eek:
     
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  9. taf2002

    taf2002 flower lady

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    She'll regret it when she sees the ugly pictures.

    I went to a wedding May 15 in San Antonio which was held at one of the old mission churches. The chapel had 1 foot thick walls & the grounds, which looked like a botanical garden, were surrounded by brick walls except where it overlooked the river.

    The wedding was indoors but the reception & dinner were outside. First, while the wedding party took pictures we went out to the patio & had drinks (full bar) & canapes. Then we all went to where there were tables for 10 set up for dinner. We had a strawberry & field greens salad, beef tournedo, chicken breast with a cream sauce, potatoes Anna, & asperagas. Then there was white cake, chocolate cake, & fudge cake with champagne. It was not buffet, they had waiters bringing all the food in courses.

    Afterward we went back indoors & they set up the bar again & had a DJ & we danced. Everything was so special & the food was yummy.
     
  10. IceAlisa

    IceAlisa Épaulement!!!

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    Oh I forgot to mention that I don't get the super embarrassing/TMI toasts I've been hearing lately at weddings.

    There is a fine line between humor and insult and I've seen this line crossed twice in the past few years. One was the MOH who called the groom Lao Ma which is "old horse" in Mandarin. It was not a "Hao Lao Ma" reference. The way it was done, it made everyone uncomfortable, including the groom. She also said in reply to the evite to the bridal shower: "Hey Bride, you always said you'd be the most beautiful woman on your wedding day. Lets see if you can pull this off." It was weird. Is there some kind of custom to dis the bride that I am not aware of?

    And this time around the groom's ADHD was made fun of which I didn't find funny and neither did our table.

    What's next? Toasting the bride with "hey, remember this one time you had a killer yeast infection?" :scream:
     
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  11. danceronice

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    :eek: It was bad enough when my friend's wedding was INDOORS in Houston in July. Our dresses weren't that hot (sleeveless, of course!) and we basically sprinted from church to bus to reception venue and didn't leave that until after dark but it was still HOT.
     
  12. Civic

    Civic New Member

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    Note to insecure brides: Hello!?! You're the bride. Everyone stands when you walk down the aisle; you're the only wearing a white gown and veil. You simply can not be overlooked or upstaged on your wedding day. Also, an act motivated by insecurity and pettiness is really not the way to start your marriage. So chill out and pick pretty, flattering dresses for your attendants. If it's something they can wear again, so much the better. They'll be happy, your wedding photos will look so much better and good karma will flow your way.

    (Steps down from soapbox)
     
  13. skatesindreams

    skatesindreams Well-Known Member

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    taf2002, that sounds wonderful!
     
  14. taf2002

    taf2002 flower lady

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    It was one of the nicest weddings I've ever gone to and it was put together in only 6 wks. (If you have the money you can do anything. The bride is a surgeon & the groom is an attorney.) I don't very often go to out of town weddings but the mother of the bride & I have been friends for over 25 yrs. I was really glad we went.
     
  15. Erin

    Erin Well-Known Member

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    I went to my first one of the year on Saturday as well. Overall, I would describe it as a good wedding, with the main drawback being the terrible toast to the groom. It was done by all four groomsmen, went on FOREVER, and involved the same running joke over and over that was only mildly amusing the first time and not at all by the 20th. The other downside was that I got a ride to the wedding and sat with a friend and her absolutely awful boyfriend (on the way over, she had to instruct him several times not to make racist jokes at the wedding, there's a winner :rolleyes:). But luckily he hates weddings and left right after the supper. Those things aside, the bride was beautiful, the food was great, and the dance was fun with a good DJ. I knew lots of people at the wedding, which always helps, and the bride is a close friend meaning that I was in on most of the jokes in the toast to the bride (which was given by my best friend and she did a great job).

    I'm off the hook now until August...invited to one in July but I have something else that weekend and I'm not that close to the couple so I don't feel too bad about not going. I'm a bridesmaid in the August one, which should be a good one...
     
  16. Anita18

    Anita18 Well-Known Member

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    My friend's getting married in November, and I'm helping her do invites and will be general adviser to make sure she doesn't go all insane and bridezilla. :lol: A little bridezille creeped in this week when she suggested a 4-panel die-cut overlapping paper sculpture, folded to unveil different layers of the art when you flip through the invite. Luckily I'm taking a commercial printing class and was able to run this idea by the teacher. Price just for the die-cut and folding? $1000 for 50. Talked her down really quick about that! :rofl: Then she had the idea that she could cut all of that out by herself, but I hope I talked her out of that as well, since she just started planning and there's A LOT of other things she could be doing with her time!

    My main concern is that it'll be at a really high-class (read: $$$) venue known for its food and they won't be able to afford a lot of it. Most of the guests aren't huge drinkers and they'll be charging by what we actually drink, so that's not big deal. But we're Asian and I expect a lot of older traditional folk will be looking forward to a huge 6-course banquet, and I'm a little afraid of what the reaction will be if they're only presented with small plates and hors d'oevres. :yikes:
     
  17. KCC

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    Went to my nephew's wedding in Baltimore last Saturday and it was lovely. The bride & groom were very relaxed and were glowing-happy. I loved that they were not trying to control every part of the day.

    The venue for both the ceremony and reception was a beautiful golf club, and the ceremony took place outdoors -- a breeze helped make the heat quite tolerable. Unobtrusive photographer. Cupcakes, not traditional wedding cake. Meal was chicken stuffed with crab or filet mignon. Dance floor was crowded all night long. Gorgeous bride's dress -- everyone had a collective gasp when she walked down the aisle. The bridesmaids and accent colors were a beautiful shade of green. We had a brunch with the newlyweds the next day, which was very special since many of us came a long distance.

    Our family has been through a lot in recent years, including two deaths and a number of health issues. I even improved some estranged relationships. We were looking forward to a happy event, and this fit the bill perfectly.
     
  18. Lara

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    Civic, ITA. I loved Pippa Middleton's white(!) dress but it didn't take away from Kate. I'd want everyone to look as good as possible.

    I kinda wish I had a wedding to go to this summer, as crazy as that might sound. Or at the very least some occasion to dress up and be someplace fancy. :(
     
  19. PDilemma

    PDilemma Well-Known Member

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    So...three sets of wedding pictures appeared in my Facebook feed this week.

    Two older ones--people put them up for their anniversaries. The weddings were in 2003 and 2005. The third was a wedding that took place last Saturday.

    And the bridal gowns were nearly identical. Same style, same cut, beading in the same place...almost exactly the same.

    Bridal fashion desperately needs to get out of its rut!
     
  20. Wyliefan

    Wyliefan Well-Known Member

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    Preach it! :respec: If you could fit all that on a bumper sticker, I guarantee it'd be a bestseller. :)

    Of course, sometimes the trouble is that brides genuinely think hideous = pretty.
     
  21. attyfan

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    Last weekend was my oldest nephew's wedding. Very meaningful; my mom's tallis (Jewish prayer shawl) was used for the chuppah (wedding canopy). Since it was a conservadox ceremony (gender equality being the only non-Orthodox aspect), a little handout was prepared, explaining what was going on ... including the story behind the tallis (it was made by my sister out of a tablecloth that belonged to mom's mom, and her sons tied the ritual knots). Very helpful for their un-observant aunt and uncle! Good food, and the bride -- and groom -- both looked extremely happy.
     
  22. Angela-Fan

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    I haven't attended any weddings this year; I attended 2 last year. One was a very Greek wedding. The ceremony was about an hour long and most of it was in Greek. the reception was fun but the speeches went on and on. The amount of food was :eek: You could fill up on the cocktail hour alone. By the time dinner came around I wasn't really hungry anymore.
    The only wedding I'm attending this year is my own. :) The colors are pink and gray, but I picked dark shades not pastel like. I have 3 girls and they picked their own dresses. The ceremony is going to be in fiance's grandfather's backyard and the reception will be at the local community house. I've been told I'm the most laid back bride ever. ::saint: I can't imagine going all crazy like the gals on the Bridezillas show :scream: although I'm sure some of their antics is just acting.
     
  23. PDilemma

    PDilemma Well-Known Member

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    One of my attendants got disgusted with me for being "too laid back" because I wouldn't pick out her shoes or her nail polish. :rolleyes:
     
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    Angela-Fan -- Your wedding plans sound just lovely. Hope you're able to keep it low-key and low stress. My s-i-l got so stressed dealing with her (divorced) parents that she was a basket case by the wedding. Not nice.
     
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  25. Civic

    Civic New Member

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    I'm reminded of the poufy, seafoam green gowns one of my friends inflicted on her bridesmaids back during the late 1980s. She fell in love with them because of the color but the actual design was fugly, imo.
     
  26. Andora

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    My brother just tied the knot this weekend! First wedding I've attended of the year. I was a bridesmaid, and our matching dresses started falling apart once we got them on. :eek: I kept bugging people for a safety pin and must have been such a pest. It was also the first time I'd worn something strapless, ever. Not a comfortable day.

    The bride was SO LAID BACK and easy going all day, and one of the most beautiful brides I've ever seen.

    It was a traditional ceremony at our childhood catholic church. I think I'm a bit jealous he got to get married there and I won't, but I refuse to have my wedding back "home." Pretty standard dinner/dance/etc. We were all a blubbering mess during speeches, though. I'm just glad the bride's brother and I (whom I've known forever) got to give our toasts first to avoid having to pull it together. Didn't think I'd cry at all, and was pretty grateful I wore fake eyelashes. :p

    :shuffle: I probably bugged my s-i-l a bit much about these things, but only because she seemed so picky at first with us wearing matching shoes and such. I ran every decision by her in case she had a preference. Maybe it was annoying, but it's her day and I wanted to make sure I didn't do anything she didn't want me to do.

    Next wedding is my own. My bridesmaids are wearing black cocktail dresses. I don't care where they get them or how much they are-- they'll be comfortable, they'll feel gorgeous and look amazing. If they outshine me, they outshine me (it's possible-- I'd rather wear black than white!). My other half is the only one whose opinion matters, and he'll think I'm the best looking one that day. So who cares, otherwise?

    I just hope I have nice things said about me in the speeches. My brother must have paid people off or undergoes a personality transformation when he's not around the immediate family, based on the things said of him. :lol:
     
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  27. taf2002

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    My 1st wedding (that didn't "take") I had my 2 sisters as attendants & I wouldn't pick their dresses or even the color. I told them to find dresses they liked & to let me know the color. They ended up buying fabric & making the dresses & they were beautiful - floral print in spring colors with a vee neck, fluttery sleeves, & long A-line skirt. Afterwards they cut off the dresses short & made dressy summer dresses. I let my mother plan the reception.

    The only thing I cared about was how I looked & I had a real problem finding a dress I liked. My mother worked with a girl who had just gotten married & she offered her dress which was gorgeous. So I really didn't even pick out my own dress. I think my shoes were my something new.
     
  28. Civic

    Civic New Member

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    Yesterday, I attended my second wedding of the summer. It took place in Aurora, Colorado, a Denver suburb. The bride was my 53 year old cousin. Her groom is 56. It's the second marriage for both. My cousin eloped to Las Vegas for her first marriage so she wanted a church wedding and all the trimmings this time. Given their ages and the fact that her mother is an elderly retiree living on a fixed income; I'm assuming that she and the groom paid for everything themselves.

    The groom is a minister. The wedding took place at his church yesterday afternoon with one of his colleagues officiating. My cousin wore a pretty, if rather matronly, ice blue lace and chiffon, ankle-length dress with a sweetheart neckline and ice blue lace cap with face veil. Her 24 year old daughter was her maid-of-honor. She wore a sky blue, knee-length dress with spaghetti straps and a-line skirt. The bride's elder brother walked her down the aisle and gave her away.

    The reception was at the clubhouse in my cousin's subdivision. She had a Mexican buffet lunch with tortilla chips, guacamole, salsa, veggie quesadillas, beef fajitas, chicken fajitas, roasted corn and red pepper salad, tossed green salad, fruit kabobs, tres leches cake and sangria. Denver has a large Mexican-American community and both the bride and groom love Mexican food.

    I lost touch with these cousins after they moved to Colorado during the early 1970s and only reestablished contact with them six years ago. The wedding and reception was a nice informal family reunion.
     
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  29. IceAlisa

    IceAlisa Épaulement!!!

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    So true. I don't get this "uglify the bridesmaids" thing. I told my MOH to wear the prettiest gown she can find, end of story (didn't have bridesmaids). The MOH looked beautiful in her dress which made me happy and the pictures nice.