The Mom Gene--do you have it?

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  1. skatingfan5

    skatingfan5 Well-Known Member

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    Well yes, but I think the unstated implication was that mothers/non-mothers were categories of women. Of course, the "everyone else" also probably meant as with "all other categories/roles/professions" (that people embody). :slinkaway
  2. BlueRidge

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    I've actually never thought of "non-mothers" as a category that could be contrasted with "all other categories/roles/professions." But if it is a category of women, that might lend credence to Southpaw's POV.
  3. Southpaw

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    It all depends on how you approach slicing up that pie chart. ;)
  4. BlueRidge

    BlueRidge AYS's snark-sponge

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    What kind of pie is it? I'd like pecan.
  5. Southpaw

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    Yeah, pecan is awesome. My mom used to make a great pecan pie.
  6. BlueRidge

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    My dog likes pecan pie. Can we talk about dogs now? :dog:
  7. Southpaw

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    Does your dog have the Mom Gene?
  8. BlueRidge

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    I'll ask him. :lol:
  9. Rob

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    I had one doll I loved, but she was a big one -- I was less than 2 and she was nearly the same size I was at the time. Then someone gave me a Skipper doll (Barbies little sister). I dressed her up but soon lost interest. I had some Little Kiddles, but stuffed animals were really my thing. I had dozens and dozens, all with names, all lined up on my extra bed in my room. I would talk to them and pretend feed them.

    I never thought babies were cute either. Never had the desire to have a child until my nephew was born, but by the time he was a year old, the desire had passed. But if I could have dozens of cats and dogs and other animals, I would.
  10. OliviaPug

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    Perhaps :lol:

    My point was that the distinction is just like every other distinction. There are good and bad people in every religion, job, walk of life. Their "categorization" does not determine who they are as people.

    There are even kind attorneys ;)

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  11. BlueRidge

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    But the real question is, what kind of pie do they eat?
  12. skatingfan5

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    Perhaps there are some who don't eat pie -- of any kind. :slinkaway
  13. OliviaPug

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    Everyone eats some kinda pie, don't they? (I think I just made a generalization not supported by empirical evidence.) :D

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    :yikes: :scream:
  15. skatingfan5

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    There are those who towards pie feel only disdain. :drama:
    And other self-denying souls who choose to refrain. :saint:
    But the saddest of all are those who from pie must abstain. :(
    I really, truly, deeply feel their pain. :wuzrobbed
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  16. Southpaw

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    Maybe not. According to that great American philosopher Frank Carroll - some like pie, and some like cake.
  17. BlueRidge

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    The entire population is contained in the set pie eaters and non-pie eaters.
  18. Southpaw

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    I wish we could get Frank and Uncle Dick in here to tell us what they think of the Mom Gene. And pie. Can't forget about the pie.
  19. skatingfan5

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    And Peggy to opine on Mom jeans. :p
  20. Southpaw

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    If Uncle Dick were in here and he said "Southpaw, I don't give a rusty hoot what you think about pie!" I think I could die a happy woman.
  21. gkelly

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    And what would Gene Turner have to say on the subject?
  22. skatingfan5

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    What subject -- the Mom Gene or pie? Whichever subject, I would expect him to have opinions both for and against most every position, since he could evidently jump both cw and ccw. :lol:
  23. TygerTyger

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    Okay, it all makes sense now. You had a staff.
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    We would get along. I pick out all of the Chex and throw away the pretzels. :lol:
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    I had one baby doll too, but I don't think I played with her much. I had a Baby First Step though, not the kind of doll you "mother". And Barbies. I never even thought about that being an indication toward how I've never really wanted kids. I did babysit for everybody in the neighborhood though. I had tons of stuffed animals, mostly dogs. (My second word was "Goggie", after "Dada". Mommy was third!) Hm.
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    I meant to come back to this thread and say thanks to the encouraging comments. I appreciate it SO MUCH. I have bad PPD and add in being hard on myself and other things going on out of my control and I feel so inept.

    At least I have a happy baby, even when he has pants on his head!
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  27. TygerTyger

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  28. HisWeirness

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    :D Great photo! A friend of mine posted this article today on facebook about motherhood, and I found it to be very touching.

    I've had the opposite experience. Probably the third question my coworkers/friends have been asking is how I feel (after when are you due and is it a boy or girl). Since I've been feeling generally ok now that I am in my second trimester (minus a couple of crappy days in the beginning), I feel that I am disappointing them because I do not have some morning sickness horror story to share. Of course, the really bad stuff :yikes: you don't want to share anyway.

    To be fair, I do try to avoid complaining about some inconveniences to others because I fear that when I am really not feeling well and need help I won't be taken seriously. It's just one of my personality habits. My husband, on the other hand, gets to hear all of the complaints. :saint:
  29. cruisin

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    The worst - when you are in your 8th/9th month and you sneeze - you wet your pants! So embarrassing! :lol:
  30. MacMadame

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    NO!

    (There are too many threads about dogs already.) :mad:

    :confused: Unless you mean I had a stick that I beat people with.... ;)

    Personally I found a lot of AP practices like sleeping with the baby to work better with working than the non-AP alternatives. I'm all for being lazy and having to get out of bed to feed the baby in the middle of the night took way more energy than just having the baby right there in bed with us. And that's just for starters.
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    HisWeirness, I didn't know a little Weird One was on the way. Congrats :)
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  32. TygerTyger

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    I mean that, at times, someone other than yourself took care of the baby ;)

    I did the co-sleeping also, for a time. :)
    Family baths though? **** that! Momma needs her shower - sweet, sweet alone time....
  33. MacMadame

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    Well, of course. The baby had two parents after all... ;)
  34. TygerTyger

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    :rolleyes:
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    Is it bad to assume that a baby has an involved father, or just assume that the mother is doing all the work for whatever reason, thus implying that the father is a lazy deadbeat? I think that's a lose/lose situation...:shuffle:
  36. MacMadame

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    Exactly.
  37. Lanie

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    I see a lot of crap about how people just distrust men. Even fathers. Like, oh, girls only in the co-op day care? Dads can't supervise, they might molest the girls! Including their own daughter(s)! Ugh.

    My husband is way better at the parenting thing than I am.
  38. TygerTyger

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    The eye roll was due to the fact that is is assumed that the father does his bit. That only an ass leaves the mother to do everything.
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  39. Anita18

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    But then isn't it downright unfair to the fathers who DO do their bit? I prefer to assume the best of people instead of the worst...

    To be fair, my mother could only recount one male relative in our entire extended family who changed his children's diapers (the couple is now divorced and the children are estranged from their mother), but there's still a huge difference between "not knowing exactly what to do with a baby" and "ditching his children and their mother and providing no support whatsoever." :eek:

    I mean, my dad never quite knew what to do with babies, but he got into the whole fathering thing once we were older and could play baseball with him. Quite different from a deadbeat.

    My friends with twins...the dad obviously HAS to get involved. He can't breastfeed the babies himself, since he lacks the capability to do so, but mom can only physically handle one baby at a time! :lol:
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  40. michiruwater

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    Should we just automatically assume that the father does not do his bit? I mean, shouldn't that be a pretty fair assumption to make?

    Um, yes. That is true. I would absolutely call someone who leaves the mother to do everything an ass.