Sorry I have to skate :)

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  1. waltz_jump

    waltz_jump New Member

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    Do your non-skating relatives and friends give you a hard time (even jokingly) whenever you turn down social invitations due to skating? I have 6:30 am lesson/practice on Saturday mornings so I almost always say no to going out Friday night because I know I need a full night's sleep for the next day. Or I only stay out till 10 pm. Hard to do since I'm in my late twenties and it seems like the only Friday/Saturday night activity my friends are familiar with are going out to the bar or going to see a band in a bar. I have gotten my share of ribbing from them over skating but for the most part they think it's cool, even admirable that I can get up so early Saturday mornings for an athletic endeavour. :) Any experiences you guys wanna share? Did you even make up an excuse before jut to say something different other than skating on why you are not going somewhere?
  2. overedge

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    By now, all my friends are used to it (and for the most part think it's kind of cool). I've said things like "Thanks for inviting me, I can't be there until [whenever] because I have to skate, but you go ahead and eat and I'll join you for dessert". And then I would show up and they would ask all kinds of questions about how the session went.

    Managing work around training, now that's a little trickier. But this year I decided to go to Nationals and decided that skating would have to be my priority whenever possible. So when I explained that I was training for Nationals and paying extra $$$ for extra sessions with my coach(es), most people were pretty good about rearranging meetings etc., especially when I would offer to meet at times when I usually wouldn't be available.
  3. Aussie Willy

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    No because I have been doing it so long they are used to it. If they have a lunch or something, they know I am going to turn up a bit later because I have been skating that morning.

    I used to cop crap from my family about being an adult skater. They couldn't understand that someone could skate because they enjoyed it and it was good for their health. They assumed anyone who skated was aiming to go to the Olympics.

    My issue now is taking time off work for judging and skating administration stuff. In the last few years, I have probably used about two weeks of my annual leave for skating related stuff. This year our Nationals which I will be involved with organising is going to require me to take off about 7 days in November/December. A couple of years ago I couldn't go to Nationals to do trial judging because of work requirements.
  4. LLOS

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    Not at all, they respect that I need to train and think doing a sport is great and they like what I do. Only my mom didn't like it in the first year but now also thinks what I do is good for me...
  5. waltz_jump

    waltz_jump New Member

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    Same here, although sometimes I get the "Can't you skip your lesson tomorrow" or something like that. I have to explain to them that unless I'm sick I will keep my lesson because I have made a commitment to my coach. It also used to be that the fact I had a "coach" they say makes it all sound fancy like I'm heading for nationals, lol. I had to explain to them I really learn best from a one on one basis at this point.
  6. Doubletoe

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    At this point, they have all learned that I am boring and never do anything that involves staying out late at night. If I have an early morning lesson (which I do 2x/week), I just say I have a lesson. If it's just a practice session, I say, "There's a practice I have to go to" so that it sounds like it's a mandatory practice session like I would have if I were playing a team sport. :lol: Non-skaters don't get it anyway, so they don't even ask!
  7. waltz_jump

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    I know a lot of people that play in recreational leagues especially in the spring/summer such as softball, flag football etc. However, these people seem to have no problem bailing on their team if they are too hungover to play the next day. Not all "weekend warriors" are like this of course and some even take it super seriously and competitively which I think is great. But I do know some people that probably shouldn't even be on a team because they are always skipping games and stuff. As skaters we cant pull that same crap becuase we lose money on contract ice or lessons that can't be made up.
  8. Aussie Willy

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    If you were going to the gym people wouldn't even question it. But because it is skating people look at you going "huh?".
  9. Spazactaz

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    Yes. They don't see the importance of it. I will NOT miss a practice and they're like "oh it's just one it doesn't matter." Non competitive skaters don't understand anything about it, so it drives me insane to discuss anything skating related with them.
  10. Alexei'sgirl

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    I beg to differ. I'm not a competitive skater, but I carve every minute out of my schedule that I can to be at the rink. It's not whether you're competing or not, it how much passion and dedication you have to the sport and to your participation in it.

    My friends and family understand that my ice time is sacred to me. As an adult, there's not a lot available, so when it is, I take it.
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  11. Spazactaz

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    I guess that was somewhat of an unfair generalization because they're not ALL that way. But like.. I'll go to the rink an hour before the session to run, stretch, and warm up... and they'll all make fun of me and be like WTF are you doing??? As they get there 5 minutes before the session. Most of them don't care so they don't understand why someone would put so much into their training.
  12. leafygreens

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    Sometimes I talk to coworkers about how I can't miss my sessions because they are pre-paid. That makes some people more understanding.
  13. LLOS

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    I also have this problem, even people at the rink or skate friends wonder that I show up an hour before the session starts, because I want to do off ice training (in my rink I have exellent conditions for that) anybody shows up like 5-10 min before the session or even later....I just love to put a lot of effort in my training and I don't ven care if I have to get up at 6am, I just love it :lol:
  14. Morgail

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    I always had the hardest time with work. I had to leave exactly at 5 in order to get to the rink in time for my pre-paid, 50 minute session. Co-workers seemed to think that I could just waltz into the rink at any old time and expect to skate. Friends are more understanding, usually because they're more interested in what I do and listen when I explain how skating works.
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    Ditto. And I make sure to get to the rink in time to do a warm up. As an old lady who sits on her a$$ all day at work, this is a total necessity! :lol:
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    I get some laughs here and there. But by now my friends and colleagues know that I am a "weirdo" in many ways so they don't give me a hard time but I get the usual jokes. :lol: But most are actually quite interested in my training and progress and impressed how much effort I put into this.

    Like others in this thread, I feel strangest among other skaters who like to skate here and there but are not as totally into it like I am. Most people I know skate only once a week in winter (well, the nearest summer rink is 2 hours away but I tried to be on the ice last winter 3-4 times a week!).
    If I went to the rink before to warm up and jog around I would get weird glances as well.
    I have been to two skating seminars during this summer and that is something even my group coach found weird.

    I so wish that there were more people in my town who are as obsessed as I am in order to push me as well. It would be so nice already to have a few people in the early morning sessions that I know and could exchange tips with - but the only people there are usually hockey players (my town is biiiggg on hockey) and they take up half the rink with their puck which scares me as I always fear that it will run into the other half or third I am skating on and I will trip over it. Sigh.

    I wish I lived in Berlin - there is a huge adult skater scene (for Germany anyway) and great coaches and extra ice time for adults and so on. But here - nothing.
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  17. LLOS

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    I think what annoys me most is that anyone says I should skate for fun, because it seems I take it to serious (having a coach, working a lot on elements) but hey THIS is fun for ME!! To work hard is FUN! Just to skate around and doing "nothing" is plain boring! :lol:
  18. waltz_jump

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    I'm so glad to see that I am not alone on this boat :) Yesterday my friend asked me if I was going on July 2nd (Friday night) to see her bf's band play at this bar in downtown Chicago. I live in the 'burbs, so the drive itself will be a hassle, plus parking (which isn't cheap). I was willing to go, so I asked "what time do they get onstage?" she said "10 pm" "That's too late! I have to get up at 5:30 am the next day to skate" and she said "aww come on don't be an old lady"....that annoyed me and made me decide that I'm DEFINITELY not going now.

    I guess people don't understand that when you put money upfront for something, that you just don't wanna do it with a half hearted effort. I don't wanna wake up feeling tired and no energy and not give it my best effort on an hour that cost me essentially $62 ($50 for hour lesson and $12 ice time). I don't want to practice Moves looking gassed out and jumps that lack oomph. Maybe for them it's ok to hit the gym with only a percentage of your strength and effort but I don't want to be on the ice that way.
  19. Aussie Willy

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    We all make choices in life. If what you want to spend your money on is skating then that is choice. But it does bug me when people think it is stupid spending money on skating but they wouldn't bat an eyelid if you spent that amount on a personal trainer or gym membership.

    And then there are the friends who used to drink and smoke and then couldn't understand why I spent money on skating.
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    I was like this for basically my enter childhood through high school--I skated every morning (including Saturdays) and some afternoons, and all of the extra time that I had went to things like homework. Even summers weren't free, since I either 1) spent most of the day at my rink or 2) went away to some training center/camp. I love skating but personally, I do regret spending that much time on a sport when I could have been having, you know, more of a life. When I got to college and finally cut down on everything, I was at a complete loss of what to do with all of my free time.
  21. Doubletoe

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    :huh: "Old ladies" don't skate!! (How about making a deal with your friend: You'll go to see the band if she gets up at 5am and goes to the rink with you the next morning).
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    Because skating is seen as a hobby, especially if you're not at the elite level, whereas hiring a PT or having a gym membership is seen as a necessity to improve one's health.
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    It is, but people (even though they don't, but they should) should also realize that ANY exercise or physical activity improves one's health. I know I get bored with conventional gym exercise, though I do it a few times a week anyway. I just refer it to "off ice training" (even though I don't compete) to make myself go :lol: and i tell myself it can only help my skating. It can be ballroom dancing or softball, as long as you are breaking a sweat and moving around, it gets your blood flowing and your heart pumping...good for the body!
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    I tried this and she looked at me like I was crazy. So I gave her the same dumb look back at how can she expect me to stay out that late and then get up for my lesson. I felt like such a smarty pants but she did it to me first!
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    One my old skating friends stared calling non-skaters 'muggles' because there was seemingly nothing we could to to help them understand the attraction of the sport. "You WANT to get up at 6 am on Saturday morning to go do WHAT?"
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  26. Hedwig

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    Oh I love that. May I steal that for my signature? :lol:
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    +1 :rofl:

    For my part, hopefully, my friends are really happy that I've got the luck of practicing a sport I love, and they try to plan partys accordingly :lol: Ok, I never had ice time earlier than 7am, but I'm very happy having such friends :rollin: !

    My hubby is also really supportive, and glad that I'm training hard for my sport :saint:
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    By all means :D!
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    OMG, I thought I was the only one who referred to non-skaters as "muggles"! :lol: I guess great minds think alike. ;)
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    My hubby is supportive too! Which is good, coz I need his money to support this hobby...j/k... I also work full time but at least he is not whining when it's time to buy a new freestyle punch card or write the coach a check. lol

    We only have one car and we usually run errands Saturday mornings so he goes with me to the rink (wakes up with me and everything) and sits and watches my lesson. Lately he has taken to bringing his laptop coz my rink started offering free wi-fi...but he still gets a kick out of the other skate parents asking him which one on the ice is his kid or sibling and he points to me, saying 'That's my wife!' :lol:
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    My husband used to complain bitterly about the time and money and energy I put into skating. Then he started playing hockey. I never heard another complaint again after I said, "You're going to play till 11:30 tonight with a bunch of kids half your age even though you're not sure if your knee is healed?? Oh, okay."
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    If only at 6am! I am getting at 4.40am six times a week, including Saturdays and Sundays! :lol:
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    I feel like I live in two different worlds. The people who inhabit my skating world don't understand my school world. They don't get why I can't skate more than I do or why I have to study a lot, etc. The people who live in my school world don't understand why I get up at 6am every morning to practice and why I can't come out with them on Monday nights. They also don't get where all the awesome bruises come from haha.

    But once I explain it, most of them are really supportive :)
  34. Aussie Willy

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    We lost our morning sessions at the rink. It wasn't affordable for the rink to keep running them.

    Disappointing as I really enjoyed them but also I am not really interested in skating the evening sessions. However to get a reasonable quota of skating in during the week I will need to make the effort to go to at least one. Wednesday evenings I go to our nice new rink because they have a freestyle session there which is really good. And I also don't have to race from work to get there as it is about 7.45pm
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    I have been skating early morning sessions for 3 years: up by 4 a.m., out of the house by 5, at the rink by 6, and on the ice at 6:30 or 7 (depending on the day). MOST people clue in that it means bedtime comes early but a few didn't get it until I started returning their calls at 4 a.m. :eek: That solved the problem!

    At work management didn't get it and would schedule a meeting that interfered with my skating - skate later/earlier/another time they would say - and I had to impress upon them that it is block ice time (not reschedule-able) and I have a coach who is expecting me and doesn't have time in her schedule to fit me in later/earlier. After showing up late for a meeting or two, or getting up and leaving because it's time to go to the rink, they realized this is not flexible - it is either go or miss altogether.
  36. Aussie Willy

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    You are lucky your work is so accommodating. However I am surprised they actually let you get away with that.

    My work is pretty flexible with regards to people coming in later and leaving earlier. They don't mind at all as long as my work gets done. So skating in the morning was not a problem, nor leaving earlier in the afternoon. However they would not be impressed if I was late for a meeting or missed something important because of something I did outside my work time. And they would have the right to tell me it is not acceptable.

    I had to miss trial judging at Nationals one year because work wouldn't let me go because of deadlines. I just had to accept it.
  37. Rusty Blades

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    I am VERY flexible and accommodating and make allowances frequently, but my schedule is posted, everybody knows my hours, and if they schedule something outside of my normal working hours, particularly at the last minute, I feel no obligation to accommodate them. If a system goes down or if network changes need to be made, they know I am here regardless of the hour, day or night, week day or weekend, so when someone schedules a meeting because it is convenient for them but NOT convenient for me, tough.