Bek, I can answer your whole post by saying I don't believe all disputes need to be resolved. People disagree. Who cares? They love God, they believe they've done right based in their relationship with God. Even if they did completely the opposite of what I believe is true, it's not for me to say what God told them is wrong. I believe God can say different things to different people. I believe a passage in the Bible can be read through the Holy Spirit and be interpreted many different, and equally correct, ways for different people. I don't believe I need a, or the, church or a pastor to tell me right or wrong; I have God. Not that I always listen or interpret correctly, but I would trust what I feel from the Holy Spirit over anyone. That's not to say I don't ask for guidance sometimes, I do, but I ask for guidance from God first, then others, then God again. I don't care if my whole church disagrees, they don't know all the answers any more than I do. I'm non-denominational, but don't care what denomination you are, we can always agree to disagree - the fundamentals of my faith (that I believe Jesus died and rose again etc.) is what is most important, that we love God and one another, and that we continue to seek with open minds and hearts.