Need help with finding a reading for a wedding...

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  1. Jayar

    Jayar Well-Known Member

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    I have been selected to read a passage at my niece's wedding, and I have no clue what to select. It can't be something religious because that is not the theme of the wedding. Anyone have an idea?
     
  2. suep1963

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  4. Prancer

    Prancer Dysteleological Staff Member

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    I like #8, but I don't think I would read it at a wedding.
     
  5. milanessa

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    Yep. :lol:
     
  6. essence_of_soy

    essence_of_soy Well-Known Member

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    A bit off the topic, I know, but I love the story about the stand - up comedienne who holds her wedding service in a shopping center so that she can return any gifts she doesn't like immediately afterwards.
     
  7. skateycat

    skateycat Minecraft Widow

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    I'd be really surprised if this worked for your niece, but slightly edited, this was the reading for my apple-themed wedding.
     
  8. skateycat

    skateycat Minecraft Widow

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    I like this page too, who would have thought that Mr. Rogers could have a wedding reading?
     
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    skateycat Minecraft Widow

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    I had a completely non-religious wedding ceremony and we used this Apache wedding prayer:

    Now you will feel no rain,
    For each of you will be shelter to the other.
    Now you will feel no cold,
    For each of you will be warmth to the other.
    Now there is no more loneliness,
    For each of you will be companion to the other.
    Now you are two bodies,
    But there is only one life before you.
    Go now to your dwelling place
    To enter into the days of your togetherness
    And may your days be good and long upon the earth.
     
  11. Jojo

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    I had two passages from Khalil Gibran read at our wedding. This was my favourite:

    On Marriage
    Kahlil Gibran

    You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
    You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
    Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
    But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
    And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.


    Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
    Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
    Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
    Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
    Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
    Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.


    Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
    For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
    And stand together yet not too near together:
    For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
    And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

    ETA: Shucks, only after posting this did I see it mentioned God. Hmm, maybe a part of it could be used instead.
     
  12. Rob

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    I recommend against turning a well known song into a reading. My brother in law's pastor did this as a "surprise" for them. He read the lyrics to a Celine Dion song and we all nearly threw up. So cheesy!
     
  13. Lorac

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    Are you sure you have to pick the reading? When a friend asked me to read at her wedding they had already selected the piece for me to read - a favourite poem. No need for me to get all frustrated picking a piece that I though they would like.
     
  14. Jayar

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    Yes, they are asking me to choose... They have one uncle from each family to read to bring some flavor of the family into the wedding.

    Thank you to all! I will read them all when I get home from work. As my family is part Iroquois, I might look into something along that line as suggested by flyingsit.
     
  15. UGG

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    I would be totally annoyed if someone asked me to read and then told me to pick the reading.
     
  16. Jayar

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    I might be, too, but the betrothed want something that is representative of each side of the family. The theme of the wedding is family, and we are all taking part in some way. They want us to blend the two families together by bringing them together at one time, and have asked us to choose because of our relationships with paternal leaders on either side of the family.
     
  17. nerdycool

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    This is what was read at my wedding:

    From "The Velveteen Rabbit" by Margery Williams

    "What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"

    "Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."

    "Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.

    "Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."

    "Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"

    "It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."

    People generally thought it was sweet, and they all laughed at the eyes dropping out part.
     
  18. BaileyCatts

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  19. suep1963

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    Well, he was an ordained Presbyterian pastor!

    That's actually the first thing I thought of.
     
  20. AragornElessar

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    Have you checked some Wiccan sites? I have friends who are Wiccan and they've shown me the great privledge of sharing their traditions w/me over the years. Some of the portions of a Wiccan Wedding Ceremony would work for any Wedding Ceremony really nicely.

    I'll have to ask my friend Reba if there's any sites out there she reccomends.
     
  21. Fergus

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    Carrie read something at a wedding in "Sex and the City", it was very secular and sweet (though perhaps more for a friend's wedding than a niece's):


    His hello was the end of her endings
    Her laugh was their first step down the aisle
    His hand would be hers to hold forever
    His forever was as simple as her smile
    He said she was what was missing
    She said instantly she knew
    She was a question to be answered
    And his answer was "I do"
     
  22. Prancer

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    What kind of person is your niece, Jayar?

    I would probably have something like Ogden Nash at mine:
    To Keep Your Marriage Brimming

    To keep your marriage brimming,
    With love in the loving cup,
    Whenever you're wrong admit it;
    Whenever you're right shut up.

    And if I were being really honest about it, er, I might like Yes, I'll Marry You Dear, by Pam Ayres:

    Yes, I'll marry you, my dear,
    And here's the reason why;
    So I can push you out of bed
    When the baby starts to cry,
    And if we hear a knocking
    And it's creepy and it's late,
    I hand you the torch you see,
    And you investigate.

    Yes I'll marry you, my dear,
    You may not apprehend it,
    But when the tumble-drier goes
    It's you that has to mend it,
    You have to face the neighbour
    Should our labrador attack him,
    And if a drunkard fondles me
    It's you that has to whack him.

    Yes, I'll marry you,
    You're virile and you're lean,
    My house is like a pigsty
    You can help to keep it clean.
    That sexy little dinner
    Which you served by candlelight,
    As I do chipolatas,
    You can cook it every night!

    It's you who has to work the drill
    and put up curtain track,
    And when I've got PMT it's you who gets the flak,
    I do see great advantages,
    But none of them for you,
    And so before you see the light,
    I do, I do, I do!


    But most people would prefer something a little more, um, serious, like Edward Muir's The Confirmation:

    Yes, yours, my love, is the right human face,
    I in my mind had waited for this long.
    Seeing the false and searching the true,
    Then I found you as a traveller finds a place
    Of welcome suddenly amid the wrong
    Valleys and rocks and twisting roads.
    But you, what shall I call you?
    A fountain in a waste.
    A well of water in a country dry.
    Or anything that's honest and good, an eye
    That makes the whole world bright.
    Your open heart simple with giving, give the primal deed.
    The first good world, the blossom, the blowing seed.
    The hearth, the steadfast land, the wandering sea,
    Not beautiful or rare in every part
    But like yourself, as they were meant to be.

    Which is lovely and not commonly used.

    But I'd go with Ogden Nash, myself.
     
  23. SoNaoWat?

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    Love the Apache wedding prayer! And I really like Shakespeare's "Let me not to the marriage of true minds..." And the Pam Ayres poem is great!!!
     
  24. silverstars

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    I love the Velveteen Rabbit reading!!

    My Shakespeare professor's parting words at the end of our class were that if we were ever asked to do a Shakespeare reading at a wedding, we should be very, very careful about what we read. The sonnets may sound pretty, but almost all of them have dark, not-wedding-y undertones. So if you go with one of those, just be careful.