As I understand it, her mother is the one with the cast not listening to her advice. That is what I was responding to. I believe it is her sister that she would like to tell to grow up. I empathize with that one as well. I have actually told my brother that more than once in the last six months. It makes me feel better to say it, but unfortunately it doesn't make it happen. He knows he has me between the rock and hard place. If he continues to refuse to do anything to help our parents, it isn't as if I am going to abandon them as a result. So he is very content where he is, doing nothing and pretending our father is not ill at all.