Yeah, I'd never get the bracelet Marge_Simpson, I get caught in that too. Comparing complaints. I dropped a friend last year because she constantly complained and couldn't deal with me not agreeing with or supporting her complaints, or accept me trying to help find solutions. She wanted her problems, and she was part of every complaint. She chose not to do anything, and I ended up finding her way too negative to be around. I'm very analytical and definitely find writing helps me, but also bringing things up with friends in almost brain storming session. Even when I had/have serious health problems, I try to see them more like challenges and ask myself and friends what can be done. In one such session, we decided that someone would come and cook dinner for me for a period of time. Since then I'm become more grateful for my friends, and more practical in my problem solving for both myself and others. Nothing bugs me more than hearing "I'll pray for you" as an cop out to actually helping practically, or making an effort that can be seen, even a phone call or text to say they just prayed...but I am trying to stop complaining about that!!