If you could impart (non-financial) wisdom to your younger self, what would it be?

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  1. missing

    missing Well-Known Member

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    I know, we'd all tell ourselves to invest in Apple, and that sort of thing.:cool:

    I'm talking about lessons you've learned as you've gotten older that might have done you some good in your younger years. Or things that if you'd known to do them (or not do them) when you were younger, might make your life better now.

    I'd tell myself not to eat sweets out of habit, not to assume automatically that I was going to fail at certain things, and to be more willing to try things that scared me.

    What would you tell yourself?
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  2. vesperholly

    vesperholly Well-Known Member

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    "Do not buy that. You don't need it."
  3. PDilemma

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    Don't be a teacher.
  4. dardar1126

    dardar1126 Well-Known Member

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    Tough question. While I'd like for my younger self to avoid some of the mistakes and the crap, I think I needed to learn some of those lessons the hard way. I don't know if I'd be the same person today without going through all that; maybe I'd be better off to have avoided it, maybe not.

    I like the often posed sci-fi idea (and even proposed by some theoretical physicists) that there are parallel universes in which we are living all possible lives...have made all the choices...both saying yes and saying no.
  5. falling_dance

    falling_dance The Scarlet Unlettered

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  6. Buzz

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    Eat healthier
  7. Lilia A

    Lilia A Well-Known Member

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    Choose a different major, one that can give you a career instead of long term unemployment.

    Trust me, if I could have one wish granted it would be to turn back time to the moment I was filling out those university applications.
  8. Anita18

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    I would hand my 13-year-old self a Sonicare toothbrush when I got braces. :eek: I'm still paying for it today, because my teeth are weak in all the spots my braces were. It's really my only regret....
  9. Dr.Siouxs

    Dr.Siouxs Well-Known Member

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    Stop scowling...you'll have more control over your life soon enough. And when that happens, it'll be amazing.
  10. escaflowne9282

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    ITA. I might have even told myself not to even bother with college, at least not one that specializes in "Liberal Arts" .
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  12. Braulio

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    Never assume and never waste your time with people that just see you as a way of spending their time. Be more selective of who you befriend
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    It costs nothing (except maybe some self-control) to be polite. The cost of being rude is much greater.
  14. DAngel

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    Don't listen to the naysayers. Follow your heart.

    Stop procrastinating!!!!
  15. orientalplane

    orientalplane Mad for mangelwurzels

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    Don't get conceived.

    (The egg talking to itself, I suppose.)
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  16. Southpaw

    Southpaw Saint Smugpawski

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    I'm pretty sure my younger self wouldn't have listened to anything I might have told me. :shuffle:
  17. Aceon6

    Aceon6 Get off my lawn

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    It's not always about you. When life takes a turn, look for all the reasons.
  18. quartz

    quartz Point of Know Return

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    Runaway from home. Your parents are even more f'd up than your 15 year old self knows.
  19. Jenny

    Jenny From the Bloc

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    "See that guy sitting on the other side of the room in your Gr 11 politics class? He's the one. Now go out and enjoy yourself until it's time to meet him in a few years and live happily ever after."

    "I know that spending time with a very old lady looking at her very dusty old photo albums isn't something a 10 year old wants to do, but your adult self really regrets not paying more attention to your great grandmother and her fascinating family stories, so listen up now, and take a few notes while you're at it please."
  20. Prancer

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    :lol: Especially since so much of it would sound exactly like the stuff older people were telling me at the time.

    If I had followed all the good advice I ladle out now, I would likely have a very different life. Not sure if that's good or bad, but since I am happy with how things have turned out and don't regret some of those side roads I took, the only advice I'd give my younger self would be "It will all be okay in the end."
  21. backspin

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    Stay away from that man!! He's trouble. There's a much better one coming in a few years.
  22. Habs

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    This for me too.

    Also - "that pretty, popular girl in fifth grade who's really, really mean to you? She's not worth it. Don't let her ruin your self-esteem and self-confidence."
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  23. Zemgirl

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    "Take more risks, be more adventurous."

    This is still something I'm working on ;)
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    Kasey Loving on babies!

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    Sinatra had it right. Do it your way!
  25. BigB08822

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    I would tell myself to live in the dorms at LSU as I really feel I missed out on a huge social part of college life by having my own apartment. I would also tell myself back in high school to PAY ATTENTION IN ANY MATH CLASS. My options were so limited in college because so many majors required math work I knew I would not be capable of.
  26. cruisin

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    To start exercising, like I do now, earlier. To stay out of the sun. Most importantly, to stop and enjoy the present more. And to not wish my life away. As in I can't wait for... It seems we find ourselves to be 10 years older and wondering where the time went. Hopefully, I can learn not to do that now.
  27. cruisin

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    Probably the most realistic answer to the question.
  28. CDANN1013

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    I would have told myself to go to college sooner. Yet, if I did that, I wouldn't have made the friends that I have. (since a lot of them weren't born yet.)
  29. Aussie Willy

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    I mentioned this one before in another thread but I wish I had heard earlier "Sit by the river bank as you watch your enemies slowly float by".
  30. orbitz

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    Take chances when you're young: Apply for your dream job even if you might not have the qualifications, Study abroad, Approach that guy/girl that you're attracted too. etc.

    Find mentors, either professionally or personally.

    Develop and grow/maintain relationships. No one is going to knock down your door to look for you and this is even more true when you're older. I'm paraphrasing this line from an episode of Designing Women: "If you keep pushing people away, one day you'll find yourself with no one to push away from."

    Like yourself. If you hate the way you look now, in 10 years you'll wish you still look like you do today.

    Perhaps I should've listened to my parents and gone to Medical or Dental school and then I would be "set" for life.

    (Have outrageous only-in-the-movie sex :shuffle:)
  31. D&Sfan4ever

    D&Sfan4ever Living in a Snark

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    "Do you see that tall,dark and handsome law student? Get away from him NOW!" and "Stop waining about how you can't afford to go to Europe and do the math for a change, you'll be surprised".
    Finally, to my 11 year old self it shoud be "See that chocolate? don't eat it, you don't have your fathers' tyroid"
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  32. liv

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    Stop playing it safe and do what you wanted to do instead of putting it off....like traveling right after university... you should have done that!!!

    Don't be such a herd member. Go do those things even though your friends aren't interested.

    Be nicer to that guy. He was the one and you pushed him away because you didn't think you were good enough, which was WRONG.

    and go to college sooner. University was great, but if you'd gone to college after that right away instead of waiting 8 years, you would have been working longer and making more money.
  33. numbers123

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    I agree with Southpaw, I wouldn't have listened, but what i might have said:

    those "cool kids" are not worth your time. Find the people who are nice to others, they are the important people in life.
  34. PRlady

    PRlady aspiring tri-national

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    This.

    So if I could have gotten the headstrong beyotch to listen, I'd tell her that fixing damaged men is not the pathway to happiness, that obsession does not equal love and that self-discipline is not equivalent to boring.
  35. nubka

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    Never allow yourself to be a doormat, no guy is worth it. :(
  36. BaileyCatts

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    I would tell myself that on April 18, 2010, at 9:50 pm at night, don't flippantly blow off an important decision that pretty much alters the course of your life ...for the worse. :( I'd live through all the stupid decisions and suckiness my life has been just to change that one moment in time. Other than that I would tell myself:

    Save every freaking dime you can! Don't spend money on crap!! Save save save save save!!

    And most importantly .... don't be a beyotch. :p
  37. Wyliefan

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    That would be mine, too.
  38. my little pony

    my little pony snarking for AZE

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    unless you are in some sort of financial crisis, working 70 + hrs/wk is excessive
  39. maatTheViking

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    Mom is right. Just accept it.

    get a kid earlier. Pregnancy is not scary.

    Don't let good friendships slide
  40. paskatefan

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    Don't sweat the small stuff.