Yeah, I think the ring is tied up with status and relates to a cultural outlook. I would not care about the ring so much but occasionally, I overhear other women who make a very big deal about it. I usually overhear this at the hair salon where I spend too much money. My read of the initial post is that the most upsetting thing was *that other people didn’t know she was engaged.* There is certain bragging rights that goes along with that, that she is missing out on. As to the marriage question – should they or shouldn’t they – I think the two have to be of the same cultural mindset. I can’t tell from just this incident, but if the status stuff is going to be continually important to her and *not* important to him, then there will always be problems. But if this is just a one off, then its probably not that big of a deal.