High School Reunions- Yay or Nay?

Discussion in 'Off The Beaten Track' started by SoNaoWat?, Apr 28, 2010.

  1. emason

    emason Well-Known Member

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    Well, my mother's high school reunions were cancelled because there was an organizing committee of 3 - a married couple and another woman. Well, hubby dumped wife of 40 years for the other woman on the committee, so bye-bye committee and bye-bye reunions.
     
  2. jenniferlyon

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    Where I live, my school's alumni seem to have multi-class reunions on a regular basis. Everybody who graduated anytime near a particular class meets up at one of the bars or clubs in our hometown. So far, I haven't attended any of these gatherings or any of the more formal, official reunions. I've stayed in touch with a couple of my closest high school friends and I've found others more recently on Facebook. I had lunch with one old friend I hadn't seen in awhile, but I'm not really up for a large reunion of any kind.
     
  3. Moto Guzzi

    Moto Guzzi Well-Known Member

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    I just came back from my class reunion and had a wonderful time. We went to a small high school where everybody pretty much knew everybody. Enough time has gone by that all the old cliques are no longer important; I saw people talking to people they never would have spoken to in high school.

    The first night we met at a restaurant/club, and we closed the place down. Nobody wanted to leave because we were having too much fun. Our high school has an annual alumni dinner so our class met there the next day and talked for hours. We toured the school with a high school senior who showed us all the changes. She quickly learned that she had to shout to make herself heard and that we had a lot of crazy stories. In the band room, one classmate sat down at the drums and played a solo; she said she hadn't played in over 20 years but it came back quickly. In the business department, some of us remembered the time my sister came to visit me in class--outside on the ledge. She danced around 2 stories up, whacked her head on a window frame, and windmilled her arms wildly to keep from falling off.

    After the dinner, we went to a club and stayed until they threw us out. We voted to have another reunion in 5 years and to try to get together more frequently in the years in between when somebody comes home for a visit. Some of us are on Facebook and plan to stay in touch there, too. I've gone to several reunions, but this was the best one yet.
     
  4. IceKween

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    I'm planning on going to 3 twenty year reunions (my parents moved me around alot). They start the last weekend of July. I can't wait. I went to a 20y reunion for the class ahead of me this past year and loved it. It's great when you don't really look different from high school and haven't gained weight or aged. I will lurve the reunion tour....
     
  5. SoNaoWat?

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    Moto- That is wonderful! Sounds like you had a reunion experience the way it's supposed to be. We've got our second planning meeting tomorrow evening, and I hope we have a good turnout.
     
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  6. NeilJLeonard

    NeilJLeonard Well-Known Member

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    Mine starts this Friday evening, 5/21/10 & runs until breakfast/brunch on Sunday, 5/23/10. I'm driving to it on Saturday, about 250 miles +/-, and will leave after all the scheduled festivities that are happening that night. Before going I'll take the nickel tour of the town since I've not visited it for over 40 years. I'm actually looking forward to seeing these many people, about 140 are expected to attend, I've not seen for 50 years. I'm a bit nervous, apprehensive and excited. I can't wait until Saturday morning...:)

    NJL...:cool:
     
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  7. skatesindreams

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    Moto, I'm glad that your experience was so good.
    It sounded fabulous!
     
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  8. Moto Guzzi

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    We had 55 classmates show up which was not bad, considering the short time planning the reunion. The organizers threw it together in about six weeks. I wish I could say I hadn't gained weight since high school, but I have. There were quite of few of us carrying more weight. On the plus side, I'm not gray and wrinkled and people generally think I am younger than I am. ;)

    NeilJLeonard, no need to be nervous or apprehensive; I'm sure you'll have a blast! The class of 1960 was having their 50th reunion that same weekend, and they seemed to be having as much fun as we were. Nearly 400 people came to the school's annual alumni dinner. Somebody did a roll call of years and had class members stand as their year was called. The oldest attendees graduated in 1936! In some instances, three generations of graduates were there.
     
  9. NeilJLeonard

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    Sounds like you had a pretty good day of it...:)...I like the roll call of the years idea at an annual alumni dinner. That could be something that could be done in conjunction with the schools homecoming football festivities. It could be a very good tradition to start.

    I did a bit of detective work online & was actually able to contact one of my best buddies from 1959/1961. I hadn't talked to him since 1965 or so. He's invited me to spend Saturday night with him instead of driving back the same day. I can attend the Sunday Brunch then and take a daylight return trip afterwards. Sounds like an offer I can't refuse...;)

    I'll report on the weekend on Monday. No matter what, it looks like it's going to be an interesting couple of days....;)

    NJL
     
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  10. Jayar

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    So excited... mine 20th is in 2 weeks from tomorrow. We have a roster of who is coming, and I am stoked! There are a few who I would love to see that are missing, but :)
     
  11. Ziggy

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    I just don't get it.

    The few people from my school I would like to be in contact with, I am.

    The rest I really have no desire of ever seeing again. :p
     
  12. Debbie S

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    My high school's alumni office mailed the class photo taken at reunion (20th) a few weeks ago (which I did not attend), along with the obligatory annual fund end-of-fiscal year push letter (I already gave). Looking at the photo is scary - there are people I can't even recognize, lol. And our class was relatively small - 124 people - so I knew everyone at the time. Some (guys) are nearly bald, and some (guys and girls) gained a lot of weight. :eek:

    Aren't I too young to not recognize high school classmates? :scream:
     
  13. Lacey

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    We had a reunion with my school's class year, that of the ones below and above us, and also the same from four other schools nearby, just about everyone we knew, complete with a band from our era with some of our best friends in it. Fabulous people and music. We did it 10 years and 5 years ago, and will definitely do it again one more time in another 5 years before we all get too old to dance.
     
  14. NeilJLeonard

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    Interesting, hell! It was a blast. It was a hoot. I haven't laughed so much in ages or had as much fun. The old town has certainly changed a bit in 40 years but that just made it that much better. Great location for it & great people at it that all showed up just to have a good time. We did....:D

    The plan now is to have another one in 2 years. I'm going...;)

    NJL
     
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  15. Moto Guzzi

    Moto Guzzi Well-Known Member

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    How many people showed up? I'm glad you had so much fun and are already thinking about the next one.
     
  16. Marge_Simpson

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    I went to my 10 year reunion, it was horrid.
    All the bitches in my graduating class were even worse bitches ten years later.
    At least 20 people had become physical therapists and were handing out business cards, trying to drum up business.
    Whoever organized the thing arranged with the DJ to play all the hit songs from our senior year. As I graduated the year "Saturday Night Fever" was released, this didn't go over very well. :lol:
     
  17. NeilJLeonard

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    About 150 people, grads & significant others, attended the dinner Saturday night. There were a few others that did not make it Saturday night, but did attend the open bar/meet-and-greet on Friday night, dropped in the event's Hospitality Room at some time during the week-end, or made it to the Sunday morning "don't-hit-the-road-hungry'' Breakfast. Overall, 100+ grads attended some part of the weekend, as did many other grads from other classes near 1960.

    As I said, it seemed like everyone attended with the idea of having as much fun as possible. I'm fairly certain that they did...:D

    Two drove a fair distance, Kansas & California, to get there. Many still live locally. Only 3 of us live in SE Florida and we've vowed to keep in touch. Since we now have EMail and all that it should be easier to do.

    Evidently the next planned event is a graduate picnic for any and all that graduated from the school since it's founding in 1914 to attend on October 16, 2010. That may be worth the trip, but driving for 4 hours both ways makes it an overnighter because the drive exhausted me. Even crossing the Sunshine Skyway Bridge, one of the most remarkable and beautiful few miles of roadway on Earth, doesn't diminish the wearying effect of the miles driven.

    I'm getting more news about this, and the event in 2 years, later on this summer. I'm looking forward to it.

    NJL

    ETA: Actually, I found 5 of us that live in SE FL. I only met two of the young ladies I had crushes on way back then...;)
     
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  18. Moto Guzzi

    Moto Guzzi Well-Known Member

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    I went to my 10 year reunion and had a good time, probably because I looked better than I had in high school and had a better job than many of my classmates. At a 10 year reunion, people are trying to impress everybody with how well they are doing. By the time you get to a 40th or 50th reunion, nobody cares so much about status. I'll never forget the reaction a friend got when she walked in the door at our 10 year reunion. All through high school, she was very shy. She didn't get much attention because she was on the chunky side, with mousey brown hair and thick glasses. She showed up at the reunion and nobody recognized her at first because she was thin and had traded her glasses for contacts and bleached her hair. She was gorgeous and the change really brought out her personality. People were still talking about it at our recent reunion. I had so much fun talking with her again.

    My mother went to her 60th class reunion, but it was the last one her class held. She says only 3 of them are still alive now, and she stays in touch with the other 2. She skipped 2 grades and had just turned 16 when she graduated.
     
  19. heckles

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    Ah, it's not so much that nobody cares about status by that age, it's that status--and hotness--are much harder to assert and fake by that age so you pretend not to care anymore.
     
  20. essence_of_soy

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    I think school reunions are an american thing.
    You only have to look at tv shows like GLEE or 90210 to see how social the education system is over there.
     
  21. NeilJLeonard

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    I passed this on as a suggestion to the people that organized the reunion. It seems that many of the members are part of the local historical society & they use the society's monthly meetings for much the same purpose as what you mentioned. They are going to discuss the idea of trying to turn this picnic into an annual event. They'll check with the Historical Society to see if they can help & to see if there is any local interest. I'm interested to see how this works out.

    NJL
     
  22. Moto Guzzi

    Moto Guzzi Well-Known Member

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    NJL, my school ties their annual dinner in with their scholarship drive. The students who received scholarships from alumni funds came to the dinner and were introduced to the attendees. Some of the classes fund a scholarship and others donate scholarship money in memory of a teacher or student. I'm thinking about establishing one in memory of my brother.

    They hold the alumni dinner in the school cafeteria to keep the costs down (I spent four years avoiding that cafeteria) so that most of the money the diners paid went to the scholarship fund. After the scholarship winners were presented, the MC asked people if they would like to donate for a scholarship for next year and sent the seniors around with buckets to collect money. As a recipient of three scholarships when I graduated, I was happy to contribute because I know how much it helps.
     
  23. NeilJLeonard

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    Great idea!

    I'm still in contact with the people that are running things. I'll present this to them. Maybe something will come of it. Maybe not.

    NJL (..either way, thanks...:)...)