Gift etiquette

Discussion in 'Off The Beaten Track' started by essence_of_soy, Jan 19, 2011.

  1. essence_of_soy

    essence_of_soy Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Dec 17, 2003
    Messages:
    2,513
    Maybe it's early paranoia kicking in or a grave distrust of Australia Post, but if you send someone a birthday present, should one hope for an email (or acknowledgement) just to be sure it has arrived? (I'm talking of a time frame of two to three weeks after posting the package, by the way.)

    Or, in this day and age, are my expectations for a response too high? Phoning them up and asking just seems a tad, well, pushy.
  2. my little pony

    my little pony snarking for AZE

    Joined:
    Aug 16, 2005
    Messages:
    30,403
    I would want to know that it got there. Once I sent jamesy a cake and I waited and waited for a reply. Finally I asked and he didnt know it had been delivered because his mailman put it inside the grill.
  3. Squibble

    Squibble New Member

    Joined:
    Feb 26, 2005
    Messages:
    1,520
    You should have gotten a thank-you by now. If you haven't heard anything within three weeks, you are well within your rights to ask if the gift arrived. The answer to that inquiry had better contain the words "Thank you."

    One time, I gave a distant cousin and his bride a wedding present (I was a guest.) and heard nothing for months. I wound up asking his mother if the gift had arrived, and the bride's handwritten thank-you note arrived soon after that.
  4. numbers123

    numbers123 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Dec 4, 2005
    Messages:
    30,765
    I don't expect a handwritten note, but a thank you via email is sufficient for me. Maybe I am just to lax about things
  5. Aceon6

    Aceon6 Get off my lawn

    Joined:
    Dec 22, 2005
    Messages:
    6,050
    After 2 weeks without an email or call, I'd ask. I know some people don't like to potentially embarrass the giftee, but my curiosity would force me to find out.
  6. Allen

    Allen Glad to be back!

    Joined:
    Oct 11, 2003
    Messages:
    12,814
    I would expect an acknowledgement of some sort. I recently sent two baby gifts. For one I received a very nice hand written note and a message on Facebook when the gift was received. For the other gift, we got no acknowledgment of receipt and then just a quick thank you on Facebook later.

    In the latter case, I really didn't want to email and ask if they received the gift, but I began to worry. I would give them another week and then maybe ask about it.
  7. Cupid

    Cupid Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Nov 3, 2003
    Messages:
    3,488
    I sent a secondary skate coach a wedding shower gift. It was credited to my account but I had never received a thank you note/acknowledge from the recipinet. When I asked via email the store that I had purchased it from (macy's) whether it was actually sent, a few weeks later I got someting from the recipient. I think she needed a litle "kick in the pants" to acknowledg her gift
  8. Aussie Willy

    Aussie Willy Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Feb 18, 2005
    Messages:
    18,017
    Having worked for Australia Post in the past, I would send them an email to ask if they got it. Seriously I have had plenty of trouble with items and usually found out they haven't got them when they send me an email asking if I sent them. Sorry but don't trust them.
  9. neptune

    neptune New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 27, 2004
    Messages:
    3,952
    Have you sent a birthday present to this particular individual before? Did you get a timely acknowledgment? If you typically get one, then I would ask to see if the package arrived. But if you don't, then, well, ask anyway, I suppose. ;) Either way, I wouldn't send an e-mail, unless you know that this person normally responds to e-mail. I've read that 80% of e-mail goes unanswered--seriously. :eek:

    Nowadays people are so lax about acknowledging anything or saying "thank you." I guess that's always been true, but it does seem worse than ever. Apparently, manners are for sissies. :p
  10. vesperholly

    vesperholly Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    May 5, 2003
    Messages:
    7,506
    With wedding/shower gifts, I think the sheer volume of gifts buys them some extra time, maybe a few months instead of a few weeks.
  11. znachki

    znachki Active Member

    Joined:
    Jan 27, 2005
    Messages:
    714
    I think Miss Manners says that up to a year is OK. Personally, I'd do them as they arrived - even if you don't send them right away. The idea of facing a pile of thank you notes to write is just :eek:

    I've taken to sending an email to whoever is getting the gift to say be on the lookout, and let me know if/when it gets there.
  12. skatemommy

    skatemommy Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 24, 2004
    Messages:
    3,214
    That is a great idea!

    For my higher end Ebay auctions, I use Delivery Confirmation. But that is only for domestic mail. First Class International has no way of tracking without going the super expensive route.
  13. Skittl1321

    Skittl1321 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Feb 1, 2007
    Messages:
    11,089
    I've had a rough time getting acknowledged for baby gifts- the thank you notes come 2-6 months later, and that makes sense as the Mom is busy, but I too want to know if it GOT there, not really just be thanked for it.
  14. essence_of_soy

    essence_of_soy Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Dec 17, 2003
    Messages:
    2,513
    Thank you all for your help. Some great suggestions there.