Father Pickets School Over His Son's "Bullying"

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  1. AragornElessar

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    Yahoo ~ Texas Father Pickets School Over Son's Alleged "Bullying"

    The quotation marks are mine, as I *hate* the term, because "bullying" isn't what's going on in our schools. Physical, Emotional and Psychological Abuse is what's going on and I believe if we used the proper terms, then perhaps we might finally make some headway. The word "Bullying" IMO is nothing but a cover up word to use in order not to face reality.

    To say I went through Hell and still to this day trying to deal w/the long term effects is an understatement. I can't even imagine what the kids today are dealing w/thanks to the Social Media explosion.

    Good on this Dad for supporting his son and picketing this school. I can't even think how worse this must be for him, having come back from serving in Afghanistan/Iraq and seeing what he's seen and then this happening?

    From the sound of things, it was well known and had been going on for years, but when Max finally had enough *he's* the one who gets punished. Yeah, that makes perfect sense and teaches our kids just so much. :rolleyes:

    Anyway...Just thought I'd post this to see what others think.
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  2. Alex Forrest

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    It's funny you would start this thread. I just watched (like three days ago) this movie called "Cyberbully". It was of course an over the top, operatic, nonsensical afterschool special on so-called bullying. You can find it on Youtube.

    Remember the Judy Blume book "Blubber"? Awful. I'm glad Judy tackled the subject of bullying.

    There IS a difference to being picked on, and being bullied, IMO. Which is why that flick "Cyberbully" angered me so much. But whatever, you grow up, you succeed, you win.
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  3. orbitz

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    The term bullying is so overused now that it's often difficult now to tell what is considered bullying anymore. The boy was supposedly bullied by the same kid for several years. What had the teachers or the father done during those years to address the bullying?
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    I'm always :confused: when a big (and important) part of the story is missing. One would assume over the course of the three years of bullying, the student and/or his parents would have been in contact with school administrators about what was happening. But this report makes it sound like a student was picked on for three years and then snapped (and nothing else happened). It ends up being a story that does not make sense (which makes it harder to take seriously...) :(
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    Maybe the student never told anyone he was being bullied out of fear that "tattling" make it worse. I was bullied constantly in school (I had a speech impediment, I was shy and I was ugly). I didn't tell my mom about the bullying and teasing until last year when she ran into one of my former classmates and couldn't stop talking about how sweet he was. (I'm 50 years old). Not every kid has the Cosby family where they can tell anything and it will instantly get better.
  7. AragornElessar

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    And not every school will do anything either. I went through Hell my entire Public and High School career. Including the tip of the iceberg, which was overhearing this one group of kids plotting on the best way to get the right angles when they pushed me down the stairs so I'd break my neck. Since due to my visual impairment, no periphal vision, I'd never see them coming after all, so it was the perfect way to get rid of me forever.

    The Principal's reaction? To keep smiling and being the positive person I am and everything would be just fine. My Mom finally had to go to the Head of the Board of Education to finally get something done, and even that wasn't much thanks to this bastard. He made sure of that.

    This after I forget how many shoves into lockers and down the stairs I had to endure over the years. Not even allowing me to leave five minutes early helped, because only a very few of the teachers would allow it. I even once had to go through a "Now Honey, is Mom or Dad hurting you at home?" "talk" w/an ER Nurse because one of these encounters had left me w/such a badly twisted ankle, we needed to make sure it hadn't been broken. When I took off my pants in order for the X Ray to be done, the amount of brusing on my legs set alarm bells off. Rightfully so I might add.

    However, when I said Mom and Dad would never hurt me, but it was the kids at School who were, she brushed it off. It was "Oh, you're being picked on. It happens to everyone." and that was the end of that.

    I had to watch my Dad break down at our kitchen sink crying and saying that *he* couldn't take it anymore after I'd come home from yet another day of Hell School. Try living w/that memory and the guilt that goes w/it

    Just what can the parents/a parent do when the people in charge won't do a thing? So don't automatically "assume" a piece of the story's missing because you doubt the story of the parent when the School "says" they did all they could to resolve the situation. What else are they going to say when something like this hits the Media? Of course they're going to say the parent was wrong/we did all we could to resolve the situation even if they didn't.

    I'll say it again, until we start calling what's happening by it's proper term, abuse, I doubt anything will ever be done. :(
  8. PeterG

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    I'm not assuming anything or doubting anyone. I'm saying the news story was faulty in that it should have said that the child/family reported the abuse to the school on a regular basis or that part of the abuse of the child was that if he told school officials or his family what was happening...then the bullies would do something that scared him into silence.

    I was bullied in school as well. I was burned with scalding hot lamps used in science class, kicked in the head, shoved into lockers, had my personal belongings taken/torn apart/thrown down the hallway and teased by both students and teachers about my gender/sexuality. School staff were either pretty useless or were abusers themselves. My Dad's reaction was to get me to lift weights. My Mom did some stuff, but taking action seemed useless on my part so I just got used to taking it.
  9. Alex Forrest

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    Though I retched at the Cyberbully flick, I think it did bring awareness to a problem. Nowadays this issue is taken seriously. I don't think a parent should contact the student's counselor or principal or superintendent. I think their legal counsel should. That would stop the bullying during school hours STAT. Without a doubt.

    This is a FS board. I would assume many members are gay and were tortured in school for it. At least now, GET A LAWYER, it will stop. You will win.

    And PeterG, you have had gender issues? I volunteer at the GLBT clinic. And yet you repeatedly try to denigrate me on this forum? Don't worry, I'm strong and now understand your issues. Just stop trying to denigrate me here, mmkay? I'd help you in a second, so stop insulting me. You are better than that. It's like the bullied finding someone else to bully. Sick stuff. God bless.

    ETA: Here is the Lifetime idea of 'cyberbullying'. Notice how the gay student offers her compassion and says he's been cyberbullied himself, being called fag, fruit, homo. And all the girl says is "But you're gay". Her pain at being called a slut online even though she's a virgin just is so much worse. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bKrUvahMz1w
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    I have sent you a private message, Alex.
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    Well I doubt. A lot.
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    Like MacMadame, I have my doubts as well.

    I was just reading that Amanada Todd the Canadian teenager who posted a youtube video chronicling her bullying experience, has committed suicide. This is just so heartbreaking to me. :(
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    Bullies will bully whether at school or elsewhere. Bullied students will get cornered if the people are relentless enough.

    Amanda Todd is the latest tragedy. She flashed her boobs online 3 years ago and the slimeball who got a pic followed her to 3 schools to spread the picture around. She was atrosized and beaten up to the point she finally hung herself.

    I hope they find the sadistic jerk who started this.
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    What can be done to him? He shared a digital image she freely gave. Morally and ethically, he's a slimeball, but there was nothing illegal in sharing the image, unless they can get him for child porn. I would hope the cretins who encouraged her to kill herself could be held accountable, and the ones who beat her up and posted the video.

    I continually stress to my students that once they put things out 'there,' they have no way of getting it back. None, zip, no how, no way. They are their own first line of defense when it comes to their digital footprint, whether it's on a computer or on their cellphones.

    Like Amanda's parents, I hope people use her tragic story as a lesson for young people on several fronts: a) the devastating impact of bullying; and b) the importance of being prudent in what they put online. Unfortunately, schools can only control what happens in school, during school hours. I know of schools that *have* disciplined students who bullied others via texting or Facebook, but only when it was proven the bullying took place during the school day. Parents also have to take control of what their children are doing online -- the schools can't do it alone, and can't be held responsible for what students do outside of school hours, away from the building.

    It takes a village to raise a child, and the village has to take collective responsibility for the wellbeing of ALL the children, ALL the time.
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    They can get him for child pornography. Amanda was in grade 7 or 8 when she flashed her boobs. He distributed it. He also cyber stalked her and all because she wouldn't give him a show when he tried to bribe her with the photo he had of her.
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    Then I hope they get him -- and all the others. I just read an article on my RSS news feed that says the RCMP are now investigating what happened online before her death. I'm hoping they'll be able to do something with it.

    In the meantime, parents, PLEASE talk to your kids about their online presence and the potential ramifications of sharing too much. Please. One Amanda Todd is one too many.
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    Poor kid. :(

    I do hope that the person who threatened her in the first place has legal issues and is not a minor so his name doesn't stay anonymous.

    I am sure that there will always be bullies, but I do hope more technology ethics classes become more mainstream so kids can have a better understanding of what they are doing.

    My little one likes to use online artwork sharing, it was very hard for me to get her to understand that the person on the other end could be nothing like who they say they are and it's not worth the risk. And I don't think she understands it more than "going to that website makes mom worried that I'm not safe."
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    I'm incredibly thankful that my kids were not adolescents or teenagers when the internet became so ubiquitous. Not so much about my son, he's a pretty private person and ponders a lot about things before he acts but my daughter is impulsive and considered herself a "free spirit". I could see her having got caught up in something.
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    I'm not sure what anyone can do to protect their online presence. Anyone with a cellphone can take a picture of you and post it online. Even if you never post about yourself on Facebook your friends and relatives do. My cousins are into genealogy and post all sorts of misinformation on the Family Tree website. I notice some people posting full names, place and date of birth for living as well as deceased relatives on this site. My employer posts my work address, phone, and email on their website. With the DMV and universities selling your home address to marketers it isn't hard for a robot on one of these "find a person" sites to scan the Internet and put it all together.
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    But most of these stories involve sexting. Does your workplace put your boobs front and center, aliceanne?
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    No, but kids can take a pic in gym class or at a sleepover and post it either maliciously or because they think it is funny. My point is that anyone who really wants to can find you even if you never go online at all.
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    Sure that can happen - but it's not what happened here. RIP Amanda.
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    That is a very naive statement to make.

    Bullying is the part of school culture and there are a lot of factors which contribute to it.

    First of all the structure of the school system, which is very hierarchical, very top-down so bullying fits into it very well and just recreates this structure in a twisted way.

    Teachers and principals look the other way and say that they are only their to teach, blah blah blah, not noticing that schools inherently carry certain values just because of the way they are organised, the things that are selected to be taught, the way teacher-student relationships are conducted and all other similar things that are part of what you can call the "hidden program".

    Another real major issue I think is that the post-industrial capitalist societies that we live in are very focused on "winning". Western, individualist culture promotes being the best, strongest, richest over community harmony. That is especially true within the US which is the most individualist country in the world, according to Hofstede's research and where neo-liberal values are pretty much universally espoused. Again bullying is a twisted way of recreating that, as it is applied to those perceived as "losers" for whatever reason.

    You could write tomes on this (and I am sure it's already been done) but basically what everybody needs to understand is that bullying fits in extremely well within the institutional culture of schools. You reap what you saw.

    There definitely are no easy fixes to this problem.

    You "just" have to promote a culture where bullying will be seen as something negative. Which we supposedly do but then at the same time if you have teachers looking down on students and not treating them with any respect, competition encouraged all the time and beating others being seen as the pinnacle of success, principals mobbing their staff, parents who are racist/homophobic and a number of other similar factors... Talk about mixed messages.
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  24. AragornElessar

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    Ziggy...Well said and Thank you.
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    He broke several laws. He could (and should) be put in jail.

    Not only is that not what happened here, but I have never seen a story about cyber-bulling or internet-sharing gone wrong that revolved around pics taken surreptitiously in gym class or at sleepovers. They are always of kids being deliberately naked and/or provocative.

    I would agree and even go further. Bullying doesn't just "fit in" with the institutional culture of schools. In fact, traditional schools are the idea growth medium for bullying.

    When you put a bunch of people together who have nothing in common except their age and where they live with minimal adult supervision, you have a pressure cooker situation that encourages bullying as a way of coping.
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    Not sure if it's out of fear of it happening or if there was an attempt, but I remember reading about a school district that did ban the use of cellphones in the locker rooms.
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    Wisdom from Really and others. My heart ached when I read about Amanda Todd. Those who do this stuff do it because they can! There are few consequences, if any. Read Rosie DiManno's article in the Toronto Star on Sat. Odd that I'm recommending something she's written because she usually eviscerates figure skating but this piece on bullying of AT is superb.

    There always were generations of people willing to spew hate but she is right that the internet culture that has developed is one with no accountability and where people jump to criticize and are encouraged to do so. Facebook? I hate it and am only on it to see family photos. I find it exclusionary and filled with everyone talking at one another rather than to one another. And few listen.

    I think that those who grew up with the net really dropped the ball and all of us now are starting to see the results. And I don't think that one action is going to solve anything. We are need a multifaceted approach: give the police powers to counter cybercrime;get active in the courts; do prevention; get the schools to follow through on zero tolerance; go after the bullies! We always hear about the victims; a whole section of tv is centred around victimology( can anyone even watch Criminal Minds anymore or Special Victims Unit?) and normalizes it. Let's hear how the bullies have been held accountable. Get those rotten pictures off facebook. That's not freedom of expression; it's abuse, a hate crime.

    And above all, parents everywhere, go see what your kid is doing online. If he/she is a bully or victim, you need to get involved. And motivate your kid to get involved and do the right thing for self and others. Can you imagine if every parent in B.C did that today, before school starts tomorrow?
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    I've never had a single problem with Facebook--because I don't post pictures of myself that are not appropriate for public consumption, and I don't put myself in situations where I'd be embarrassed to have the photographs circulated (as far as I'm concerned, if an employer doesn't like that you have pictures up for all to see of you acting like a drunken fool, that's not Facebook's fault-you shouldn't have been acting like a drunken fool. That's not being a victim, that's getting caught.)

    Now, a 7th grader posting pictures of herself (which actually means SHE is distributing child porn herself!) speaks to inadequate parenting and supervision. I'd have gotten in HUGE trouble for doing something like that to the point where bullying would be the least of my concerns. I suspect at that point a convent school would no longer have been a joke. The guy who spread them around is guilty of possession and distribution of child porn, but he didn't make it, he just used what the "victim" put out there. MacMadame's right, I can't recall a single one of these cases where the picture wasn't something the person posted themselves (the dumbest examples being "But I just sent it to my boyfriend, it wasn't supposed to be public!" Even adult women, where they can legally give consent, should know better than that.)

    Her classmates latched on to that but if they decided they wanted to bully her it would have been anything. I don't think anything other than going back to rigid, unforgiving discipline and structure in schools could really help. The kids causing the problems know they're not going to punished in any way that really hurts them, so they aren't afraid to do it. Teachers are afraid to do anything in a lot of cases and don't really have anything they can do, especially when now if you punish little Susie for shoving a classmate her parents scream bloody murder instead of saying "We're sorry" and punishing her at home, too. And juvenile courts and different rules for minor offenders make it hard to get the police and the justice system involved.
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    I don't know about putting "victim" in quotation marks because she was the person who originally posted the photo. I teach in a 8-12 school so I see kids that age daily - and in general the decisions they make at that age are not well thought out.

    At the first pro-d day I ever did the guest speaker got us to put the palm of our hand on our nose (you have to do it to get the idea) and said "That is how teenagers see the world". It is the best metaphor I have ever heard for how their brains work and how they make decisions.

    I also don't agree with assuming that her actions prove her parents have been negligent. I have seem some amazing parents with kids who have done stupid, atrocious things.

    The other thing is danceronice - even if she did get in huge trouble from her parents as you said you would have and assuming there was a way for them to even know- the photo would still have already been out there.

    This girl made some poor choices - but those choices don't make her any less of a victim of the physical and emotional harassment.
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    ^^^From what I read, she didn't put up the picture of herself. Some stranger she met online talked her into flashing her breasts, & he took the picture.

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mobileweb/2012/10/11/amanda-todd-suicide-bullying_n_1959909.html

    But you are right... Putting herself in that position wasn't smart, regardless.
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    This is clearly not the case here, and even if it were I don't see how this makes any difference frankly.

    Everything that I've read points to Amanda Todd being a very emotionally fragile girl. She was 12 when she came across a online pedophile/predator who encouraged her to take her clothes off. It's sick and disgusting and whether she put the pictures out herself is irrelevant because she was 12! On what planet do we point the finger at a 12 year old and start referring to her as a "victim" as opposed to what she actually is/was...a VICTIM. :rolleyes:
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    Except the internet wasn't even available commercially until the mid-90s and it wasn't much back then and hardly anyone was on it. The dot.com boom was around 2000-2004 and it's now 2012.

    Which means the oldest people who "grew up with the net" could be isn't very old at all. It's my kids' generation -- people who are now, at their oldest, in their mid-20s but most are still in High School.

    So to say they "dropped the ball" is to blame kids who haven't had a chance yet to see all the consequences of their actions.

    I watch those shows constantly and they are very popular so I don't know what you mean by "does anyone watch those shows any more" because clearly many people do. Because I actually watch them, I can tell you that your characterization of them as celebrating victimhood is very off-base. What those shows provide people (and probably why they are so popular) is vindication because the bad guys always get theirs. Unlike in real life where the victims often get no satisfaction and the perpetrators are sometimes celebrated and often allowed to get away with it and have their actions excused.

    So it's the opposite of what you are saying IMO.

    Except I never said that!

    I said that pictures taken *surreptitiously* and without knowledge of the subject are not the issue. (I didn't say it, but I suspect the reason is that they aren't salacious enough.) And in this case the pictures were taken with Amanda's knowledge. But not that it's always a person taking pictures of themselves and posting them because that is not what happened here and there are plenty of cases where people allow pictures of themselves to be taken and it comes back to haunt them.

    I was arguing against the idea that you have no protection from this sort of thing so why bother even trying to behave sensibly.

    You mean back to the days like when I was a kid in the 60s and got bullied every ****ing day in school and even had a teacher participate in one of the incidents? And had the principle do nothing about him and had no recourse because no one sued for stuff like this back then or picketed their school board?

    This idea that all our problems stem from lack of discipline like back in the "good" old days would laughable if it wasn't so damaging.
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    B.C. teen's suicide nets hundreds of tips to police

    Maple Ridge is where I grew up and where I am now living again. Sometimes there are letters in the newspaper about this being an idyllic community (usually someone squawking about the homeless, etc.) and I think, "just because you had it good doesn't mean it's an ideal community". I know otherwise.

    ETA: Originally I was going to say here is that now the abuse is even worse that someone has killed themself. But I'm remembering that two guys in my high school committed suicide a few years before they would have graduated. So maybe it's still as bad as it's ever been... :fragile:
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    How about treating people with respect instead?

    And conducting school relationships so that students are subjects, taking responsibility for their own life with the help and guidance of teachers and not objects pushed around in an authoritarian fashion.

    The rigid, unforgiving discipline is the reason bullying exists in the first place. It's the same kind of uneven relationship conducted through the means of violence.
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    It's sad that it had to come to suicide for this story to gain notoriety and traction and law enforcement to act.

    I understand death tends to amplify things, but I can't help but thinking that this is sort of sending a certain message for those who are contemplating suicide in their own desperate situations.
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    Respect is something one earns when one demonstrates it's entitled. Children who bully demonstrate they are neither giving respect nor entitled to it and that they don't respect any sort of authority because they don't fear it. That starts at home with parents who don't raise them to behave like human beings (indulgent, giving them things just to have them and not demonstrating they can take them away, not instilling respect for authority whether they LIKE that authority or not) and continues when schools CANNOT punish them. The only thing that ever made an impression on the kids at my school was that 1. teachers and the admin would always take my word for something, meaning if I said someone was bothering me, I'm the one telling the truth, and 2. when they tried to provoke a physical fight I refused to hit first not because I couldn't or wouldn't hurt them but because when they hit first, I was defending myself and not the instigator, plus see #1.

    Bullies do not respond to sensitivity training. They CLEARLY do not respect adult authority, and why should they? Their parents are going to refuse to believe the teachers. Hence, why should schools do anything? They already told the kids "bullying is bad", kids didn't listen, what discipline they're permitted doesn't work and isn't reinforced by the parents. The parents have to be on board with disciplining and all most do nowdays is explain how it's not little Timmy's fault he punched Bobby and stuffed Susie in a locker, he's ADD and it's not THEIR fault anyway, the teacher/para/aide/day-care worker/anyone besides them who has five minute's authority over their child should have done something.

    And giving a twelve-year-old a webcam and not making DAMN sure you know exactly what they're doing with it is negligent parenting. Not to mention who raises a child that thinks flashing someone on the internet is appropriate? Children behave as they're expected to behave by their parents. Expect them to behave responsibly, have real consequences that hurt (taking away things they value, limiting their privileges, SUPERVISING THEM) when they don't, and funnily enough they start meeting your expectations and behaving. It's really sad when the "you" in that statement is a non-parent doing it because the parents won't (why yes, that's the voice of experience), but it still works.

    Raising children is not a psych experiment in how to make everyone love each other (never happen) and discipline does not create bullies or make life unlivable. If it did, the problems wouldn't be worse now (when there basically IS no discipline because every child is a special snowflake.)
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    So what you are saying is that fear and violence should be used as a means of conducting human relationships.

    Which makes is different from bullying how?

    Oh wait, this is exactly what bullying is.

    If you raise somebody that way, don't be surprised if they turn out to be a bully. It is what you have taught them.

    And no, respect isn't something you earn or have to become entitled to. It's something that every single human being deserves. If you don't treat somebody with respect, they will respond in kind. And then your self-fulfilling prophecy comes true ('I told you he was a bad kid').

    And as far as raising children goes, of course discipline is necessary but not because 'the child needs to know its place' but because it needs its carer to provide them with safety, security and predictability and then the child can internalise them and learn to discipline themselves. If you need to discipline somebody all the time, you've failed. Another thing that a child needs (and the most important by far) is unconditional love. Contrary to 'folk ideas' about too much of a good thing resulting in a spoiled child, it works exactly the opposite way. If all of the child's needs are met in the first several crucial years of life, then this gets internalised and the child believes that they are a good person and that they can expect good things from other people. And you end up with a mentally healthy, psychologically resilient human being who can take care of themselves. If that is lacking, then you end up as somebody who is unsure of themselves and other people. And if you (wrongly) expect somebody to have bad intentions toward you, you are going to strike first.

    And this is just one (parent vs. child relationship) of many factors, which contribute to bullying.

    The way schools are organised and the relationships there are conducted (the schools' organisational and institutional culture) is a massive factor as well. But I've already wrote about it in this thread. So read it. Schools tell kids "bullying is bad" but at the same time heavily promote competition, see beating others as the pinnacle of success and have teacher-student relationships that are very rarely built on mutual respect. Again: if you treat young people with no respect and regard them as "trouble", they will see that and "trouble" is exactly what they will give you. Psychology 101.

    Bullying itself is an 'acting out' kind of behaviour. So for the perpetrators it's a way of dealing with stress, a coping mechanism. Hardly the most constructive one :shuffle: but that's the function that it has. So the problem isn't that the perpetrators "don't have discipline". They have problems that they are unable to resolve otherwise and at the same time they are placed in an environment where bullying is encouraged (not directly of course but "between the lines").
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  40. UGG

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    Amanda was 12 when she flashed someone on her web cam. She was not a 35 year old woman. Yes she made the mistake but she was a CHILD. Please give me a break with all of this "she put it out there nonsense". Think of when you were that age. What a confusing time of life.

    I keep thinking of my son (who is 19 months). I think he is so perfect and wonderful. I am sure all of these parents of bullied kids think like I do-their kids are amazing. maybe that is why they cannot see what is happening? I dont get it...
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