Discussion in 'Off The Beaten Track' started by Rex, Dec 4, 2010.
EXCELLENT! Doubled her chances of getting lucky .
I liked Shaun (met him when I was about 14), and my sister was into David.
You also have to remember that Janis was super-hot during the 60's when being all natural and the sloppy-hippie look was all the rage! I think once you become that big of a mega star and she was, finding people to "love you" wasnn't an issue at all. I think back now to some of the outfits and other choices we made to be "cool" and I absolutely SHUDDER!! I was smart enough however to pretty much track down any photographic proof and the negatives and destroy them! My grandchildren ask me what it was like to be a hippie and I just roll my eyes "who me?"
This. Just about EVERY woman wants to be with a man who UNDERSTANDS her deepest emotions, and of course every artistically inclined man is also emotionally articulate and sensitive (right?? right??). Plus, music involves a lot of listening, and what woman doesn't like someone who listens?
That's my pet theory, anyhow.
Is it only limited to women though? I know quite a few gay men who have the same trouble.
I think it's hard to find someone who has something they are passionate about and committed to. Plus, playing music (and actually being able to live off of it) is mighty impressive. I myself am attracted to guys who seem "oh so sensitive" and smart (or at least literate), so I tend to be attracted to writers, artists, musicians, etc. but I am also repelled by self-centered behavior, uber-pretentiousness, and arrogance (of course, who's going to say they're attracted to it?) and you know how the stereotype goes...
I think women went crazy over Mozart and Beethoven in their day as well as the most popular poets I am sure. So it is not a modern phenomenon. IMHO.
Except of course that Sleater-Kinney did not have a bass player
OF COURSE I've seen Sleater-Kinney live - not only am I a lesbian, but they started in Oly, WA and I'm in Seattle. Plus, I've seen bands that the two front women were in before S-K. Riot Grrrrrl represent!
I think guys that can sing are sooooooooooo sexy . Of course if they look like Keith Richard then all bets are off, LOL (Keith wasn't bad looking at all in his youth though, before all the drugs and wrinkles set in).
John Mayer has had some high profiled bootangs, eventhough he has the reputation of a player.
I think it depends on the woman.I myself,in my teens,I liked guys with musical ability,because I am musical.Something for me to relate to.I've liked 2 guys who were musical,one played bass guitar and one was an extraordinary pianist.Now days,it's more to do with creativity(art etc...) than musical ability.
I too am amazed at all the girls that some singers get,some of those guys,if they were your pizza delivery guy,they wouldn't get hit on at all.I think in those cases,it's the glamour of it all.
I think its a safe fantasy...The person with the crush creates this mental image of a perfect person, and never have to actually deal with a real human with faults and shortcomings...
Speaking of real humans with faults and shortcomings, I just read Late Late at Night, Rick Springfield's memoir.
He was my rock star crush when I was a teenager. I don't know what makes me more uncomfortable: the fact that he was such a sex maniac who took advantage of the whole rock star lifestyle or the fact that he published the details of being a sex maniac who took advantage of the whole rock star lifestyle.
I was married to a classical musician/guitarist, and have been around a lot of world-class musicians in that world. Many--not all--have egos as big as houses, but made of cards. You always have to tippy toe around what you say. They are indeed sensitive, which has its good and bad points. I think I'm attracted to musicians because they are so involved with their art/passion, I'm free to pursue my own. Also, it's never boring.
My only musician crush was Jermaine Jackson during my tween years. Musicians usually don't do it for me; even musicians whose music I really like. My celebrity crushes are usually either actors or elite athletes. As for "bad boys", I grew out of that by the time I was 15.
I don't think half of the population can be counted on to like anything.
I don't like bad boys, I don't want to fix anyone, and I don't think people change.
I like nerds. (Although I will admit that the last nerd I was over did play guitar, but he played metal which I hate and used to tell him that he could pull all the pots and pans out of his cupboard and it would make the same sound. So I don't think it was a factor in my liking him. No, I think it was something about the way he carried three different high powered calculators with him at all times. )
Speaking only for myself, yes I really like musicians that much. Actors do absolutely nothing for me, but I sure do love me some rock stars. I don't know why. They're just hot. That's all.
Riot Grrrrls... Sleater-Kinney... Seattle... Oh, hell yes!!!
Larry Mullen... Strong silent type with those muscular arms and those black leather biker jackets. When he does talk, he has that adorable Irish brogue. And he's the one person in this world who can bring Bono down to earth when the situation calls for it. How can anybody not love a guy like that?
The problem that I have with some of the self-proclaimed nerds that I've encountered are that they think that they are the authority in whatever subject you talk about or that they tend to be very dismissive of any dissenting opinion. I find that those types of nerds (not everyone that calls him/herself a nerd) tend to be very self-centered in their thinking or at least narrow-minded and that can lead others to think they're always being contrarian or just plain negative. They seem to actively refuse to see the world outside their own view of the way things should be and although their type of rationalization sometimes works, I find that it really limits their understanding.
But then maybe those are geeks I'm talking about and re-reading what I wrote seems to apply to every segment of the population. Who knows.
My alternative musical crush is Josh Homme from Queens of the Stone Age.
And for making me swoon Chris Isaak - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LO8enpqoRQY. I dare anyone not to get hot and sweaty watching this.
In my early 20s I thought Paul Young was really cute. And Simon Le Bon. And Tony Hadley, the lead singer of Spandau Ballet.
My current girl crush is kd lang. Any time that woman sings I swoon.
Yes, I have always found musicians attractive and sexy for some reason!
I'm reading it now and enjoying it immensely.
I've been dating a professional musician, a blues bassist and vocalist, for a couple of years. His musicianship doesn't make me love him any less, let's say. It is sexy, no question. It is huge fun to go to a bar where he's playing and to be "with the band." I love that and I sometimes get a song dedicated to me. On the other hand, you're there for hours more or less unescorted (not a serious problem for me, the schmooze queen), you've heard all the songs before, and by the time the evening ends the floor is sticky, you can hardly keep your eyes open, and your ears are ringing from the volume of the music. Sometimes he sings to me when we're alone together and it's fun, tender, can be funny too. He has one CD that I just adore. I listen to it a lot, but especially when I'm a little down or when I miss him (it's a long distance relationship). It's such good music--it makes me proud and it's a fun gift to give. I have a supply of his CDs for gift giving.
He's said that when he was younger all the women wanted to date him because he's a musician, whereas now no women want to date him because he's a musician.
Not that I'd call her representative of the female race (I certainly hope not ), to my knowledge my sister has never had a boyfriend who wasn't a musician. For many, many years it was only guitarists, all of whom strangely looked just like John Lennon, but as it happens, she ended up married to a pianist/singer (who, congrats to him, was inducted into the R&R Hall of Fame this year )
By the way, genevieve, my sister was herself the bassist in a band many, many moons ago (lower right on both covers):
You mean it's not the drummer who scores with all the chicks?
No, because he's usually just banging on his drum all day.
To answer the original question...no. DEFINTIELY not interested in the sensitive-artist, my-guitar-weeps types. I am, however, a sucker for male Latin dancers, especially the British ones, as basically they're trained to behave like alpha males and most are somewhat egocentric showoffs. I go for the I-own-the-floor superconfident type, not the tortured artiste. Them I just want to utterly take down a peg or ten.
And, okay, DAMN but most men who dance Latin can use their hips in ways that should be illegal.
When I was young I was attracted to musicians because I thought they were 'cool' and 'hip'. I thinks that is pretty much the basis for attraction to musicians and actually it's pretty shallow. And I don't believe that musicians or other artists are necessarily more sensitive - that is a romantic myth.
One perpetuated by the musicians themselves....