Bank Worker Sacked For Being Too Sexy

Discussion in 'Off The Beaten Track' started by SHARPIE, Jun 5, 2010.

  1. danceronice

    danceronice Corgi Wrangler

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    It's usually a corporation's policy not to comment on lawsuits. Their lawyers usually try to make sure of that. Blabbing in the press in any way can always come back and bite you--they comment that the suit's without merit, that's all they need to say except in court.

    And I honestly don't believe, between the article (where we have ONLY her version) and the photos (which shows how she wants to be presented in the press--you can't tell me she's oblivious that her shirt's see-through) that "that kind of environment" exists at all. She comes across as an attention whore who wants to emphasize how much hotter she is to male coworkers than her female coworkers. They could dress in the same clothes as her and it isn't a distraction because she's just so sexy and they're not...:rolleyes: She made sure THAT comment got printed.

    She works in a bank office, where conservative dress is the order of the day. That doesn't mean wear a burqa. That means "Put on a bra if you need one and wear clothes that aren't see-through." I work in a fairly casual office but we still don't wear blue jeans and t-shirts, and if I came in braless with a sheer blouse so everyone can see my business, you can bet I'd get told to cover up and probably written up to boot. That's not because my male supervisor thinks I'm so hot I'm a distraction, it's because it's not a professional image.
     
  2. Karina1974

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    "Properly tailored" clothes do not not leave a person's bust size up to the imagination. The only appropriate business attire in those pictures as far as the tops go is the grey one. That pink top is club wear and definitely not apporpriate for the office. Ditto the white top, which looks to me to be a leotard.
     
  3. Karina1974

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    And if she was, then she doesn't have a leg to stand on, considering she is working in NY, which is an "at will" state.
     
  4. genevieve

    genevieve drinky typo pbp, closet hugger Staff Member

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    I agree with this - something that makes your breasts the main focus of the whole outfit is not properly fitted.

    Article about how many FB pages there are for Debrahlee Lorenzana now :lol:
    http://blogs.villagevoice.com/runninscared/archives/2010/06/which_debralee.php
     
  5. Norlite

    Norlite Well-Known Member

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    Good for you, what a tool.

    Yeah, some people are strangely afraid / offended / intimidated of boobs. And the bigger they are, the more afraid......etc.etc. of them they are.

    And heaven forbid the slight outline of a nip appear.


    Personally, I think they're beautiful, and quite often find myself admiring other people's. Even though I'm completely hetero and adore men.


    She looks wonderful. The pink top is just ugly.
     
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  6. Jot the Dot Dot

    Jot the Dot Dot Headstrong Buzzard

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    When will we see the video "Bank Workers Gone Wild"?
     
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  7. uyeahu

    uyeahu Agitator. Sharpie lover (figuratively speaking).

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    Sweetie? Really? Now THAT seems like something only a bitchy woman would say. And I don't find the shirt to be see-through and she's likely wearing a bra or her boobs would be hanging MUCH lower. As a woman of size myself, unless you wear a padded bra it's nearly impossible to keep the nipples from popping through occasionally, even in looser clothing, but padded bras make it that much harder to look "demure".
     
  8. millyskate

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    I really don't see all curvy women walking around with visible nipples. There are ways to dress in order to avoid or minimize the problem - these outfits look like they are chosen to highlight the problem. The mere fact this whole thread is about it, IMO, demonstrates that they are what jump out of the picture.

    My guess is it wasn't the woman's clothes that got her into trouble, but her attitude.
     
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  9. uyeahu

    uyeahu Agitator. Sharpie lover (figuratively speaking).

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    I'm sure her nipples aren't visible ALL the time, in fact that's the only photo in which they are.

    ETA: What the heck is wrong with being a little nipply anyway? It's a natural body reaction signifying nothing more than she might be a little cold or bloated.
     
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  10. screech

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    What strikes me about the nipples is that only one is poking through. There is a chance that she was wearing a well-worn bra. I'm not a busty person (32C) but when I wear my older bras, even the thicker ones, sometimes my nipples make a bit of an indent. Nowhere near her level - not obscene or anything, but it happens to the best of us.

    It's just like TV shows. Watching reruns of Friends lately I've noticed that Jennifer Aniston's nipples are always popping out to say hello, but from the back her bra strap will sometimes be noticable in the nipply scenes. It's seriously distracting.
     
  11. numbers123

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    ^^^^
    I was going to say the same thing. Many bras, new or well worn, do show nipples. I hate that attribute of bras and try to find some that avoid this unfortunate thing. even padded bras are that way.
     
  12. *Jen*

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    Yep. The best job I had was in a lingerie shop when I was a student. All girls, mainly female customers and a LOT of stories. It's amazing how often people assume that curvy women have implants or a sexually provocative. Newsflash - we can't always help what size we are, we can't always hide it, and why should we have to because everyone else feels threatened?

    I do. Quite often. I'm curvy and I own one padded bra that I wear perhaps once a year, because it makes me look even bigger. I risk the showing nipples because I am more comfortable with that then looking like I have two melons shoved down my shirt.

    Nipples are out of fashion right now. Go back 10 years or so and it was a different story and they'll probably come back in at some point.

    That said, for the info of other curvy girls here, it is possible to buy these nipple cover things that you shove in your normal bra which does a good job of hiding them, rather than being forced to wear something padded.

    There is a way to dress for your body type and I dress very conservatively, but if big busted girls feel comfortable flaunting what they have, then good luck to them. I admire their confidence.
     
  13. GarrAarghHrumph

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    What's appropriate business attire varies from industry to industry, company to company, and region to region. What's appropriate to wear in NYC is usually not appropriate in Columbia, SC - and vice versa. What's okay to wear to work at a NJ-based consulting office would not be okay to wear at a NJ-based manufacturing headquarters.

    In other words, it's possible that both women are right. They're in different industries.
     
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  14. allezfred

    allezfred Old and Immature Admin Staff Member

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    I don't mind boobage or nipple action, but for those that do can I recommend Nipless? ;)
     
  15. mmscfdcsu

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    Yes, the clothes are not great, somewhat trashy and not professional, but I can't help wonder if there is really something else going on. Something harder for the Boss to describe. It may have as much to do with her attitude and the way she relates to others. Just looking at her face in the photos reminds me of one of my clients who is an exprostitute. She gets grief from people in her AA and NA groups for the way she dresses. She has even brought in pictures to therapy to ask what is wrong. Her clolthes aren't that bad either, but her way of relating to others makes people uneasy. Even though she hasn't turned tricks for a decade or two, she still goes into provocative mode when a man is around. Again, this is harder to describe, but makes others very uncomfortable. In a group of women, she is fine.
     
  16. Desperado

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    I wouldn't be too quick to say that she has to be wearing a bra because her breasts aren't down - it could also be because they're implants. She could also be wearing a top with a bra built in which can offer some support but doesn't hide nipple action.

    And I can't believe some are OK with the pink/red top! From what I see, you can clearly see the outline of her naked breasts. That's only work attire appropriate if you're working in a strip joint!
     
  17. IceAlisa

    IceAlisa Épaulement!!!

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    Oh I am sure they were both right. But what the first woman said saddened me greatly. It sounded as if it was not OK to look feminine in her work environment. I was happy to hear that high power work environments exist where femininity and style wasn't taboo.
     
  18. screech

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    Femininity is completely subjective though. To some, looking feminine means skirts and heels. To others its pants and button down shirts.

    A good example of this is Ellen Degeneres and Portia de Rossi. Ellen's idea of dressing femininely is different than her wife's. It's not the same feminine look that most would think of when hearing that word, but it's still how she approaches it. And it has led to her complaining that when walking red carpets rarely do the press care about who she's wearing, but Portia is always asked.

    I will agree though that you're initial post with the woman saying that only secretaries wear heels is very sexist. She could be living in more of a 'man's world' mindset, but to me, no matter what the job, as long as the person is comfortable (and appropriate) they should wear what they like. I know if I was an executive, whether in NYC or Hickville, I'd probably wear pencil skirts and heels because I'm a fan of that look and feel comfortable wearing it. I'm also extremely comfortable in flats and wear those quite often. I mean, I'm no Victoria Beckham who is publicly kind of opposed to flats.

    Many people aren't comfortable in heels and I actually have some friends that aren't comfortable wearing them who find stiletto heels (which to me are the nicest ones to look at, I'm not a fan of chunky heels) to be 'trashy' whereas I find they can work well to add class to an outfit. It all depends on the mindset of the person.
     
  19. *Jen*

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    Corporate dress DEFINITELY varies from place to place, business to business. I was recently working with a Belgian businessman who had to go on a business trip to the financial district of London. He was stunned by all the suits. The idea of professional dress in his company was a shirt and trousers, and a suit only if there was an important meeting but definitely not every day.

    Meanwhile, while I wear jeans to work, a friend working for the same company in Germany isn't allowed to. The great difference is that most of the clients we work with are also wearing jeans, or else casual professional attire, whereas she's working with clients with a stricter dress code.

    I don't see a problem with what the woman is wearing, it would be fine where I'm from, but if the company has a strict dress policy then I understand why it could cause problems.
     
  20. IceAlisa

    IceAlisa Épaulement!!!

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    It is subjective but as you correctly pointed out, the friend in question was referring to attire that would very closely resemble a business man's, including the shoes AND most importantly, denigrated a woman's choice to dress differently. That's what bothered me.

    OTOH, I am fine with anyone who likes dressing that way--masculine suit, shoes and tie. I am not fine with someone saying that pencil skirts and heels are for secretaries. And implying that you are a dumb bimbo if you dress like that and should not be taken seriously.

    Dowdiness does not equal goodliness.
     
  21. mmscfdcsu

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    Yes. Some workers are better than others at picking up on what the real norms are at the business. A more seasoned female worker knows what is appropriate and what is not. Which outfits help you move up the ladder and which help you get moved out the door. Right or wrong, that is the way it is. Much of it is not written anywhere in the dress policies. Some of the younger workers are still more influenced by what they see on television and in magazines than by what they see in "real life". They struggle to find a way to incorporate some of their own personal style into the agency norms.

    Men do have their issues at times, but they generally have a better ability to pick up on business norms and adapt. A notable exception in my memort was the young man who showed up for a first day of Internship at an agency where I was employed. In conservative Cleveland. At a children's service agency, where all men wore suits. He showed up in torn short-short cutoff jeans, sleeveless T-shirt and sandals, with lots of piercings and tatoos in evidence. :wall: :rofl:
     
  22. genevieve

    genevieve drinky typo pbp, closet hugger Staff Member

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    And not wearing heels and makeup does not equal dowdy.
     
  23. IceAlisa

    IceAlisa Épaulement!!!

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    Not always but sometimes.
     
  24. agalisgv

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    It equals dowdy inasmuch as wearing heels and make-up equals cheap and slutty.
     
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  25. michiruwater

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    I've certainly seen people wear heels and make-up and still pull of dowdy, too. Stereotypes, gotta love 'em...
     
  26. Anita18

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    I think people just don't want to have someone show off their physical assets (whatever they may be) at the workplace. I wouldn't show up in a professional (read:corporate) setting with skin-tight leggings, because I don't want to show off my butt and legs there. It's just not the place to do it. In fact, if I were to work in a corporate setting, I would avoid anything that showed how thin I am, because I'm VERY thin and it would stick out among my coworkers.

    When men wear suits at the workplace, you often can't tell their body shape underneath unless they're obese. I think women should aim for that kind of general neutrality, even if they can't adhere to it 100% because some body shapes are harder to dress for than others.

    Especially in a corporate setting, your name is not Lady Gaga. It's not the place to be visually individual.
     
  27. Norlite

    Norlite Well-Known Member

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    Yes Anita, I understand that "people just don't want to have someone....."


    I was giving my opinion as to why.

    Which to me explains why wookstock was spoken to wearing a sleeveless turtleneck (read: usually formfitting) while a co-worker wearing a spagetti strap camisole(wookstock noted looked braless) with not much physical assets was not.
     
  28. IceAlisa

    IceAlisa Épaulement!!!

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    That's true too.

    That's the crux of the problem if that is in fact the case. The double standard.
     
  29. Japanfan

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    Not surprising, since it is generally men who establish the business norms.
     
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  30. Anita18

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    It's not a double standard as it is an infinite standard, considering how many combination of clothing styles and body shapes there are. :lol: And especially considering that women's business attire are not expected to be as uniform as men's business attire is, so women need to think more about what they're going to wear to work and still be appropriately neutral for their body shape.