Anyone Work In HR? Gay issue question....

Discussion in 'Off The Beaten Track' started by Flatfoote, May 11, 2010.

  1. silverstars

    silverstars New Member

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    I don't know how far your sister would want to take this, but Colorado does have LGBT employment discrimination laws that ban employers from discriminating against employees because of sexual orientation or gender identity (they actually have unusually strict laws--most states either don't have them at all or just have them for state employment). I think that certain LGBT groups have also started using Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 (equal protection under the law regardless of race, gender, etc.) in order to combat discrimination in the workplace.

    Again, this might be farther than she wants to take things at the moment, but she's definitely protected under the law--especially if her workplace allows men to talk about women, but then had her written up for mentioning that she's a lesbian (that's something that could turn her case into one of obvious discrimination, since they're enforcing something on one group, but not another). If things get worse, she can always looking into the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission and see if they can do anything for her.
  2. Karina1974

    Karina1974 Well-Known Member

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    Damn, I'm glad bullshit like this doesn't go on where I work. But then again, at 35 I'm the 2nd youngest in an office filled with 40+ and 50+ year-old people (aka -- people who actually have "been around" and have a respectable amount of life experience). We're in that office to sell steel. Period. Not to push our own personal agendas in everyone's face.
  3. genegri

    genegri Active Member

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    I am sorry your sister has to deal with this kind of BS.
  4. CantALoop

    CantALoop Well-Known Member

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    What if an employee was a minority and said as a joke, "If you get lost, just ask people where the [ethnicity] person lives, I'm the only one in town!" It'd be just plain strange if someone of another background got offended just because that person is different.

    As for the Chinese food one, talk about making something out of nothing. :rolleyes: However, if it was a Margaret Cho "Asian chicken salad" sort of situation, then she might have something. :p
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  5. Louis

    Louis Tinami 2012

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    Now I KNOW we work for the same company. I have heard this story through independent sources and always thought it was folklore. I guess not!

    :wall:

    This is sadly not the most ridiculous HR "diversity" issue I've come across.
  6. made_in_canada

    made_in_canada INTJ

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    ((flatfoote's sister)) I'd be furious... No advice to give, just my sympathy and a renewed desire to do my part.
  7. essence_of_soy

    essence_of_soy Well-Known Member

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    Margaret Cho would love the Chinese food complaint. I'll have to send it to her website.

    In future, maybe there should be a picture board for people in the office to reference so that words people find offensive to the ears, can be indicated with a pointer or hand held laser instead.

    For example, Chinese food can be a panda eating bamboo shoots, and lesbians can be a two lemons towing a U-Haul.
  8. Finnice

    Finnice Well-Known Member

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    (((Flatfoot´s sister))) Again, no good advices, although I wish they should be forced to stop discrimination at her workplace.

    What a BS, really!
  9. vesperholly

    vesperholly Well-Known Member

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    But self-referential jokes don't seem so harmful to me. And she didn't even use a slur! :rolleyes:

    ETA CantALoop, the :rolleyes: is at the situation, not you :)
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  10. CantALoop

    CantALoop Well-Known Member

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    Oops, I guess my post was ambiguous, but yes I agree.that referring to herself as a lesbian is no more offensive than referring to oneself with other descriptors such as religion, or ethnic background.
  11. Auntie

    Auntie New Member

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    The write up is complete and utter BS but I wonder if there is something else going on in the work environment. Are "they" (a disgruntled coworker, dissatisfied manager, budget cutters, etc. ) looking for excuses to reprimand her?
  12. talulabell

    talulabell New Member

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    You've already gotten lots of great advice from other, more knowledgeable folks here. The only thing I was going to do was to stress the suggestion to document everything. I'm curious as to what the write-up actually says. But it does sound, to me, like it's a definite case of discrimination.

    I just cant believe the one about the Chinese food. It actually is a Chinese restaurant, that serves Chinese food... how is that "objectifying"? Can people say they’re getting Italian food, or do they have to call it “food of a Mediterranean European origin”. I love how this person got hired to translate, and now feels objectified and wont do it. Sounds like someone has issues.
  13. overedge

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    Back in the day when there was lots of professional wrestling on TV, there was one network that was trying to increase its ratings outside the US. It told the commentators on one wrestling show that if a wrestler brought something into the ring like a chair, the commentators were no longer allowed to call it a "foreign object". It was to be referred to as an "international object".
  14. slicekw

    slicekw Poster of Pet Vines

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    oh PLEASE PLEASE have her send it in to the Evil HR Lady. She'll love it and give amazing advice.
  15. IceAlisa

    IceAlisa Port de bras!!!

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    I forgot about the Evil HR Lady! :lol:
  16. vesperholly

    vesperholly Well-Known Member

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    I should ask her about my company. They want our bosses to give us driving tests. I do not work at the DMV nor do I drive/get mileage for work. The exact purpose — or potential consequences of not passing! — has not been explained.
  17. sk8pics

    sk8pics Well-Known Member

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    My company does something similar, in that we have annual on-line training and have a fellow employee ride along with us and fill out a checklist on our driving. So it's a peer not your boss, but it's still :rolleyes:. The reason for it is that there are probably more injuries on and off the job related to driving than anything else. They have different categories of drivers depending on how often we drive for company business. I drive back and forth between two sites that are two miles apart, so I'm a frequent driver. Sigh.
  18. star_gazer11

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    :lol: Great idea.
  19. Aussie Willy

    Aussie Willy Well-Known Member

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    Unless driving is a required part of your job then there should be no requirement to test someone's driving.

    However working in the safety area of where I work, we have so many incidents that come from driving. We even had someone hit a pedestrian recently. But most are people reversing back into poles.

    As for the initial post, I think that is crap. I would like to think these days that people who did complain about someone using the term "lesbian" should be severely reprimanded for being a knobhead.
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  20. Ozzisk8tr

    Ozzisk8tr Well-Known Member

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    Knobhead, I love it. :lol: "I'm writing you up because you're a knobhead".
  21. Simone411

    Simone411 aka IceSkate98

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    Flatfoote, it doesn't matter what state it's in. It's sexual discrimination ... treating people differently through prejudice: unfair treatment of one person or group, usually because of prejudice about race, ethnicity, age, religion, or gender.

    Give your sister this link.

    http://www.eeoc.gov/
  22. sk8pics

    sk8pics Well-Known Member

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    I can't recall the exact requirements right now, maybe it's the definition of "occasional" driver that we all fit, and it's not a test per se, but rather just a checklist of things that the other person fills out. The other person has to have had the on line training before doing this. It's not really a big deal, but I also don't think it helps too much. {shrug}
  23. Aceon6

    Aceon6 Get off my lawn

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    A lot of companies are "testing" driving, even for folks who only drive themselves from office A to office B. It's to lower the company's liability insurance rates and to help them with their lawsuit defenses.
  24. vesperholly

    vesperholly Well-Known Member

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    The din of protests must have gotten to the bosses, because they've changed their tune and now we are to read and sign a "driving safety report" or something. :duh:

    We have a good pool of people who get mileage on a daily basis, but more than half the company does not, myself included. In the nearly six years I've worked there, I've gotten mileage twice.
  25. genevieve

    genevieve drinky typo pbp, closet hugger Staff Member

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    What do they do with employees who don't drive?
  26. vesperholly

    vesperholly Well-Known Member

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    I don't think there's anyone who doesn't drive to work, but undermining that assumption was going to be one of my first protests - drive to next door, then walk "to work". I'd bike but it's a 20min drive on busy roads.

    :EVILLE:
  27. screech

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    Yeah, if I ask people if they want food of Asian origin, how would they know whether to order wonton soup, or sushi, or pad Thai?

    Anyone else remember a few years ago when some people wanted French Fries to be called Freedom Fries?

    Or also, a few years ago there was a city in the US, I can't remember what one, that hated the word 'hello' because of 'hell' so was trying to change it to 'heaven-o'.

    And someone finding the word 'lesbian' offensive. What if I found the word 'copier' offensive? Would everyone in the office have to refer to it as 'machine that scans documents then produces multiple print-outs of said documents.'