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08-01-2012, 10:28 PM
Can't keep the story straight. I was under the impression she met him online, and is backpeddling. Backpedling will keep you in good thong wearing shape, though.

Then you should try backpeddling.:rolleyes:

08-01-2012, 10:28 PM
I'd never heard of Adult Friend Finder until this thread. :slinkaway

Don't feel bad, I hadn't either.

08-01-2012, 10:28 PM
I hadn't either, and I don't feel bad about it :lol:

08-01-2012, 10:31 PM
Then you should try backpeddling.:rolleyes:

Aw, does this mean we're not PM bussies anymore?

08-01-2012, 10:31 PM
I really don't understand the above post, Alex. I agree with you that this guy was either closeted or married because he was advertising for a discreet relationship, but she didn't find that advertisement until today or yesterday when SceneIt guessed he might have a profile on AFF and looked for (and found) him.

Southpaw did not in any way state that a divorced male is a douchebag. She stated that this guy, who took advantage of SceneIt when she was at a divorce group and then proceeded to string her out while having things like the profile on AFF advertising for a 'discreet relationship' is a douchebag. Not because he's divorced, but because those actions are really sketchy and really indicate that he probably isn't actually divorced, or at least has something to hide.

And as she didn't find the ad until today, I hardly think she's 50% to blame for this having not know beforehand.

You whole post makes no sense to me.

Thank you!

08-01-2012, 10:48 PM
I have an honest question for SceneIt. Did this guy rock your world? Make you laugh? Were you guys close friends prior to this relationship? Because I'm honestly not seeing why you're even all that upset.

08-01-2012, 10:50 PM
This was all found out AFTER our breakup of our so-called relationship.

I know others have already mentioned it, but you saw this dude 8 times over a five month period. That amounts to 1.6 times per month. I think you're crazy if you think seeing a guy basically once a month amounts to anything CLOSE to a relationship.

I wouldn't even call that casual dating.

08-01-2012, 11:08 PM
I don't think a "discreet relationship" means anything about being closeted. I seriously doubt he is one of those lesser gays. He just wants a booty call and/or he is in another relationship/married.

Aussie Willy
08-01-2012, 11:32 PM
Don't feel bad, I hadn't either.
Well call me stupid but I hadn't heard of the term "bearding" in this context and still don't quite get what it means. :lol:

BTW - your comments about finding yourself are so true. So many people hook up in relationships because they think it gives them a sense of identity whereas they should be looking to themselves for it.

08-02-2012, 01:11 AM
Aw, does this mean we're not PM bussies anymore?

You are a twit. :rolleyes:

08-02-2012, 02:36 AM
What I have heard is how you are the victim, poor you, he's a bad guy blah, blah, me, me, MEEEE!!!!!.

Why are you so angry? :confused:

08-02-2012, 02:46 AM
This is quite the thread!! :)

08-02-2012, 02:54 AM
Well call me stupid but I hadn't heard of the term "bearding" in this context and still don't quite get what it means. :lol:

One of my friends, who happens to be gay, but is not out to his parents, has me pretend to be his girlfriend whenever they come to visit.

I act as his beard. To make him seem more manly. Or something. Anyway, it's consensual bearding, so it's all good. :)

08-02-2012, 02:57 AM
I've been reporting about this thread to my fiance, and he went :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: when I mentioned AFF.

I'm glad to know I'm not the only one reporting to my SO with updates. It is as good as the Olympics. And to think, I almost stopped reading when the thread was just one page long.

Neither my husband or I ever had to online date, we were high school aquaintances. I would be totally lost in the dating world.today.

08-02-2012, 02:58 AM
Oh, I'm keeping my BF updated as well. I also got the "wtf you guys don't ever talk about skating, do you" answer :rofl: