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IceAlisa
05-05-2012, 03:38 AM
You absolutely don't have to spend a fortune to have a great wedding. My friends had the most lovely and memorable wedding in Marin County for under 5K. They were being very creative but the result was wonderful. One of my favorite weddings I've been to and I've been to at least 15 for the last 10 years.

That said, inexpensive doesn't mean you can't look good and have to settle for wrong shoes. You just have to look.



Two more!

http://www.bellissimabridalshoes.com/product/197420.shtml
http://www.bellissimabridalshoes.com/product/098640.shtml

The first one of these, Brandi, is absolutely perfect. If it comes in your size, I think you may have your winner as far as I am concerned.

The second one is cute too.

jlai
05-05-2012, 03:43 AM
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I must have completely missed your engagement announcement on FSU. Congrats on your upcoming nuptials. I met your fiance at SA, I believe, and since he's willing to accompany you to skating competitions (unlike so many other spouses/bfs) he must be a great guy to marry. :lol:

Anita18
05-05-2012, 03:47 AM
I must have completely missed your engagement announcement on FSU. Congrats on your upcoming nuptials. I met your fiance at SA, I believe, and since he's willing to accompany you to skating competitions (unlike so many other spouses/bfs) he must be a great guy to marry. :lol:
Thank you! I didn't really announce it, if you count asking for makeup advice in the "glamour puss" thread as announcing. :o

Sure he's willing to accompany me, but I might leave him behind next time since he didn't enjoy the skating nearly as much as I did. Save the seat for a real skating fan! :lol: SA was a good excuse to visit Portland together though. :cool:

Hedwig
05-05-2012, 08:19 AM
Anita, we have the same wish. We want to have a wedding under 5k. And even that number seems high to me for one party.
And I am very surprised to find that it is difficult to stay under the - in my opinion - lot of money. And how much people are willing to spend on their weddings. :eek: That means that all the prices go up once you take the "w-word" in your mouth. I seriously consider calling it a birthday next time I ask for catering or similar. ;)

Anita18
05-05-2012, 08:34 AM
Anita, we have the same wish. We want to have a wedding under 5k. And even that number seems high to me for one party.
And I am very surprised to find that it is difficult to stay under the - in my opinion - lot of money. And how much people are willing to spend on their weddings. :eek: That means that all the prices go up once you take the "w-word" in your mouth. I seriously consider calling it a birthday next time I ask for catering or similar. ;)
I consider the wedding markup "bridezilla insurance." Because most brides are not as blase as we are. :P One of my classmates blogged her wedding planning experience and the girl broke down and CRIED when her second hair trial resulted in what she thought was an ugly updo. :shuffle:

God knows what a bride will do if her cake doesn't come out well. :yikes:

Because the $5K will be a little hard to reach once I put in photography (which I AM willing to splurge a little on...good to get someone who knows what they're doing!), I'm cutting back on a lot of other things, like dress (:cheer:) and flowers. I'll definitely need to drum into fiance's head that less people = cheaper wedding. He said he might invite 20-40 people on his side. Well um, big difference between 40 guests and 80 guests, if you ask me! :P More food/alcohol to get, more chairs to rent, a bigger tent, etc....

Have you gone to http://offbeatbride.com/? It's not always necessarily cheaper, but the community there is quite supportive of ANY kind of wedding you want to think up. :D

Hedwig
05-05-2012, 09:17 AM
God knows what a bride will do if her cake doesn't come out well. :yikes:


Now, but that IS a catastrophe. :drama:

Seriously - I told Mr Hedwig that I am pretty relaxed about the wedding and that I don't care for the details but ONE thing is gonna be at my wedding and that is not negotiable and that is a multi-layered wedding cake. :D

PRlady
05-05-2012, 12:43 PM
:rofl: The two of you are way too down-to-earth and practical. Where's the fun in that?

Seriously, from what I've heard, the "average" wedding is about 20K here in the US these days. That seems stunning to me. I like nice things as much as the next girl but so much money for one day?

And yet, new wedding dresses are more than $1K by themselves, and that's a modestly-priced model.

OK, so my boss told me yesterday that a smart, handsome, age-appropriate and wealthy man is coming to our gala dinner in SF in June and that he will introduce us. Buy a nice dress, he said. EVERYONE in my organization is a Jewish mother, no matter what gender they are.

cruisin
05-05-2012, 02:34 PM
Two more!

http://www.bellissimabridalshoes.com/product/197420.shtml
http://www.bellissimabridalshoes.com/product/098640.shtml

I vote for #1. They look perfect.



Seriously, from what I've heard, the "average" wedding is about 20K here in the US these days. That seems stunning to me. I like nice things as much as the next girl but so much money for one day?

And yet, new wedding dresses are more than $1K by themselves, and that's a modestly-priced model.

You're absolutely right. I would even venture to say that most weddings around here are upwards of $30K. Per person at catering halls generally range from $75 to $150. You invite 150 to 200 people (which is average) and... And that is not even considering the flowers, dresses, etc. One thing that escapes me is the trend to have the entire bridal party's hair and make-up done. Why not do your own? That is a huge and unnecessary expense.


OK, so my boss told me yesterday that a smart, handsome, age-appropriate and wealthy man is coming to our gala dinner in SF in June and that he will introduce us. Buy a nice dress, he said. EVERYONE in my organization is a Jewish mother, no matter what gender they are.

Um, you forgot to mention if he's single :D

PDilemma
05-05-2012, 03:21 PM
Mine was right around $5000. Reception was dinner (buffet) and dance for about 100 guests.

You can do it without skimping on the good stuff. You just have to search a lot for the right vendors.

Anita18
05-05-2012, 03:31 PM
Mine was right around $5000. Reception was dinner (buffet) and dance for about 100 guests.

You can do it without skimping on the good stuff. You just have to search a lot for the right vendors.
Around here in LA, apparently renting a venue doesn't come under $5K. :yikes:

Fixing up my fiance's grandpa's backyard will cost money as well, but they were thinking of fixing it up anyway so it won't be just a one-day expensive. :P

Ooh just saw this one on Endless. http://www.endless.com/Coloriffics-NOLA-Womens-Nola-Sandal/dp/B001HSOB90/

Now you've done it, you're making me shop for shoes. :rofl:

PRlady
05-05-2012, 03:37 PM
Um, you forgot to mention if he's single :D

Because that's taken for granted. :mad:

However, I would imagine a straight guy in SF who has a condo in Pacific Heights and a ranch in Sonoma is rather hotly pursued. And I never like rich guys anyway....

Back to the topic, the Trina Turk came from Bloomie's. I'm undecided. It's a beautiful dress but not sure that I couldn't do better in terms of middle-coverage. Waiting for PRkid and PRkidboyfriend to show up for dinner for a second opinion.

PDilemma
05-05-2012, 03:38 PM
Around here in LA, apparently renting a venue doesn't come under $5K. :yikes:

Fixing up my fiance's grandpa's backyard will cost money as well, but they were thinking of fixing it up anyway so it won't be just a one-day expensive. :P

Ooh just saw this one on Endless. http://www.endless.com/Coloriffics-NOLA-Womens-Nola-Sandal/dp/B001HSOB90/

Now you've done it, you're making me shop for shoes. :rofl:

A co-worker reserved her country club for our reception. As a member, she could have the venue for an event for nothing but a $10 reservation fee. She refused to let us pay her that. So we didn't pay for the venue, only the food. That helped immensely. Since it was "for a member's event", they even did decorating for free including centerpieces, linens in any color I wanted, etc...

allezfred
05-05-2012, 03:45 PM
Okay, these white shoes don't scream bridal to me, they are acceptable. :) Thoughts?

http://www.zappos.com/touch-ups-diane-white-satin
http://www.zappos.com/touch-ups-donetta-white-satin
http://www.zappos.com/softspots-adia-white-patent

They come in wide sizes, so those are the only ones I'm considering, at least on Zappos. :P

First one, yes. Second one, at a push. Third one, definitely no.


Two more!

http://www.bellissimabridalshoes.com/product/197420.shtml
http://www.bellissimabridalshoes.com/product/098640.shtml

Either of those would be lovely, in my opinion.

The only way to keep wedding costs down is to have as few guests as possible. That way you can spend half your budget on clothes. :shuffle:

BittyBug
05-05-2012, 03:59 PM
mhh - Something in a tan / mushroom snake print like this Stuart Weitzman peep toe (http://www.berenshoes.com/stuart-weitzman-logoplainfield-pump-mushroom-crystal-snake/p/SW1389_BGE_SN/) might be a little more flexible and forgiving in terms of matching your skin tone.

BTW - Since you're in the Bay area, Arthur Beren stocks a ton of smaller sizes and widths. The brands they carry tend to me more expensive ones, but if you're ever in a jam, they could be a good source. The physical store is in Union Square and has more stock than the web site.

IceAlisa
05-05-2012, 04:10 PM
The "endless" shoe is fine too, Anita18. You certainly have the idea now.