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essence_of_soy
05-03-2012, 04:29 AM
It doesn't stop with competitive skating, either.

Didn't touring shows like Ice Capades and Disney on Ice back in the 1980s have weigh - ins for their athletes? I believe reading somewhere that Rosalynn Sumners and Tai Babilonia were fined with pink slips for being over the weight set for them.

Aussie Willy
05-03-2012, 05:35 AM
Disney still does have weigh ins. One of the reasons that quite a few of the skaters in those shows smoke.

demetriosj
05-03-2012, 01:30 PM
Evy was such a jerk! That was definitely an abusive relationship. Shame on him. Horrible that an adult would treat a child like that (and be getting paid for it).

muffinbiscuit
05-03-2012, 01:35 PM
Jenny left the Scotvalds to go to another coach known for abusive relationships, Richard Callaghan. How ironic.

berthesghost
05-03-2012, 02:07 PM
Jenny left the Scotvalds to go to another coach known for abusive relationships, Richard Callaghan. How ironic.Most coaches in most sports are like this, and it's only with the increased participation of girls in sports that the abuse word is throw around. When sports were sexist and all boys, they were just told to take it. Evy himself has tried to justify his behavior by excusing his upbringing with a hockey coach dad.

Evy always threw his skaters under the bus to the press, but he had a added reason for abusing Jenny in the press: her exit virtually herald the end of his career. Like robin years later, the scotvolds needed a new champion to prove that Paul/nancy and Sarah weren't flukes. And when they left, both coaches were quick to trash them so everyone would know "it's them, not me! Please, please send your kids to me!"

Wyliefan
05-03-2012, 02:50 PM
I'm not an athletic type at all -- actually, I'm a confirmed couch potato -- but just looking on, it seems to me that sports are such a mix of healthy and unhealthy practices. In my more cynical moments, I wonder if there are any coaches who know how to separate the two.

TheGirlCanSkate
05-03-2012, 02:57 PM
Disney doesn't typically do weigh ins anymore - they do a whole 3d computer body mapping and adjust the costumes accordingly. For every character in the parks they do it every 3 months. I would guess because the DOI costumes are so much more fitted it would be done more often?

skatesindreams
05-03-2012, 02:57 PM
I think that there is a very fine line between motivating properly/preparing someone to face tough competition, and abuse', particularly at the elite/championship level.

UGG
05-03-2012, 04:05 PM
That latest blog was twisted. It must be so therapeutic for Jenny to get all of this out. I am glad she got out of skating. Her coach screwed with her mind. No championship is worth the emotional suffering she experienced. How very very sad.

viennese
05-03-2012, 04:46 PM
I would love to see Jennifer sign a book deal. She has wonderful writing skills and a great skating memoir in her.

Me, too - she's an insightful writer, about sports, athlete psychology, coach-student relationships. And she's doing well at viewing her career with some distance and maturity.

Re: Mr. Scotvold's public weigh-ins. Ugh. This is an old school coaching technique - yet it's not uncommon, even today.

Yes, it is necessary for trainers and coaches to track a young athlete's growth and weight - but more important to look at muscle mass and good nutrition and not get young athletes (or anyone) focused on the number on the scale.

Way too easy to equate, in a worried athlete's mind, quick fixes (fasting, crash dieting) with quick weight loss of a pound or two to ease anxiety -- or get praise from others.

jlai
05-03-2012, 06:24 PM
Evy was such a jerk! That was definitely an abusive relationship. Shame on him. Horrible that an adult would treat a child like that (and be getting paid for it).

That is the kind of thing I worried about when this blog entry came out -- people take up Jenny's side of the story against the coach.

I always remind myself I ama human and I also have moments in life that would rather not be judged by strangers. :(

aftershocks
05-03-2012, 07:48 PM
^^ Ah, but Jenny beautifully expressed all sides of the story, jlai, not just her own. And some posters who commented on her blog on her site felt she bent over backwards too far feeling she was wrong in not calling Evy, in spite of his betrayal and the emotional abuse she suffered. Calling him would probably have ironically been a healing thing for her to do at the time (but in most human relationships, what a hard thing it is to be able to immediately forgive someone and externally consider, instead of internally considering our own pride and painful hurt). Jenny was young and deeply attached to her coach and her skating, so she should not be hard on herself about not being able to call Evy, nor for having made in that stressful moment of his betrayal the personal declaration that she would never speak to him again.

Going through the experience, surviving it and being able to share it now is the important thing, IMO. It is also amazing and wonderful that Jenny was indeed able to make and stick to her decision to move on. Wow, I do remember having heard back then that Jenny was leaving the Scotvolds and moving to Michigan to "follow a boyfriend." A great example of how little we know about what really goes on behind the scenes. Jenny's blog about this roller coaster coaching relationship reminds me of Lucinda Ruh's Frozen Teardrop confessions. Just as Lucinda forgave her mother, Jenny, after a long journey through heartache, self-discovery and triumph, has obviously forgiven her former coach.

Jenny has a wonderful gift for writing, and she was a lovely skater to watch too! Thank you, Jenny ...

This program is very memorable and still makes me smile:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XAPqn71b5FY&feature=related

UGG
05-03-2012, 08:45 PM
That is the kind of thing I worried about when this blog entry came out -- people take up Jenny's side of the story against the coach.

I always remind myself I ama human and I also have moments in life that would rather not be judged by strangers. :(

On the other side of the fence, Jenny was judged by many when her coach went behind her back and told a tabloid that she left to follow a boyfriend.

The blog, IMO, is so detailed that I cannot believe anything other than these are Jenny's true feelings. Unless she has some wild imagination, I could not see her making any of this up. It is not like other blogs that I have read which were very straight forward with no element of emotion.

I know there are two sides to every story but I really think jenny is being honest.

jlai
05-03-2012, 09:14 PM
I didnt say Jenny isnt honest. I merely think many readers have a tendency to side with narrators and get judgemental on others from the perspective of thenarrator-- I dont think it is fair, the same way I
Would rather not have someone pass judgement on me based on one person, even though she is honest about her dealings with me

Anyway I dont think I should pass judgment on Jenny based on what tabloids said either. I wish the two had this converaation face to face instead of through the print

demetriosj
05-03-2012, 10:32 PM
That is the kind of thing I worried about when this blog entry came out -- people take up Jenny's side of the story against the coach.

I always remind myself I ama human and I also have moments in life that would rather not be judged by strangers. :(

So if you're not saying she's lying, than you're saying she is telling the truth, so what's the problem? She's supposed to cover up this abuse? It's probably good for other young skaters to see that this is not normal or acceptable behavior for an adult.