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aka_gerbil
09-30-2011, 04:23 AM
Granted, I don't have kids yet, but my inclination is to say that it's too young. My surrogate/ "un-biological" niece is 8, and I cannot imagine her in a bra to save my life.

When I first started, ahem, developing, my mother pretty much had to force me to wear a bra. The first ones she bought (at Sears) were some of the awfulest, itchiest, scratchiest things ever. The thought of them still makes me itch.

myhoneyhoney
09-30-2011, 04:35 AM
I feel for you. One of the reasons I never had a kid was this kind of stuff...damned if you do, damned if you don't.

That's pretty much how it is as a parent. :rolleyes:

I also see those Target "bras" as cut off tank tops. She will be wearing them under clothes and not parading them around. I already broke her heart at the start of the school year when I said NO on the cell phone. (uh, yes, the majority of her classmates HAVE cells!:eek:) Hubby thinks it's ok for me to buy her some as long as they're the girly kinds. I'm going to try and call my mom to see what she thinks.

ballettmaus
09-30-2011, 04:37 AM
I can't stand bras to this day and rip mine off the second I get home - but if it makes her feel less self-conscious, a sporty one is probably okay.


If she doesn't need a bra yet, should not wearing one really make her feel self-conscious? And would it really be the right way to go in buying her one then?
You should wear what you want to wear and because you want to wear it and for no other reason. And getting your child something to feel less self-conscious sends the wrong message, in my opinion because that doesn't exactly help to become an individual and stand up for yourself.

Southpaw
09-30-2011, 04:48 AM
I don't see how a Target "bra" is any different than a slip. Or even a crinoline petticoat.

IceAlisa
09-30-2011, 04:54 AM
Oh for goodness sake. I see toddler girls in bikini tops on the beach, covering/supporting what exactly?

http://as7.disneystore.com/is/image/DisneyShopping/102010M?$full$
http://cdn.fanzzone.com/images/uploads/481_608_large.jpg
http://www.lakestreetneighbors.com/wp-content/uploads/Toddler%20Swimsuits_9.jpg
http://resources.shopstyle.com.au/sim/53/5f/535fcdfee07bf923beaf297c48e14222/funkita-swimwear-galore-toddler-girls-swimwear-toddler-sweet-daisy-bikini-set.jpg

And so on. Much ado about nothing.

Lilia A
09-30-2011, 05:02 AM
Thank you! Those kinds of bras seem more appropriate than the typical one for women. I saw these at Walmart (http://www.walmart.com/ip/Fruit-of-the-Loom-Girls-Assorted-Spaghetti-Strap-Sport-Bras-3-Pack/14100586). Your basic sport bra style. These should work too, of course she'll want to decorate them with fabric glitter or something, hehehe.


I wore those at age 8/9, but only because I truly needed them. I hated them because I was the only one in my class wearing a bra. by age 10 I was wearing a 30B, by age 12 a 32C and now a 32DD. Funny how my band size hasn't changed in 11 years lol.
There is a certain degree of peer pressure when it comes to young girls and bras. The only reason I hated them was because noone else was wearing them, not because they were uncomfortable or anything because they weren't. In your daughter's case, the only reason she wants to wear them is because her friends DO wear them (regardless of whether they need them or not). The good thing here is that when she starts to develop she probably won't have a hard time adjusting to having to wear a bra for real.
I personally think it's perfectly fine, but then again it's not my kid. As long as it's cute and girly and not sexy, then why not?
Good luck.

Cyn
09-30-2011, 05:04 AM
My first thought was "way too young" too, but am I being one of those moms who wants to keep her babies "babies"? Now I'm scouring online mommy boards and looks like 8/9/10 are the ages when girls start wanting to wear them these days. Maybe I can compromise with her and buy something like these at Target (http://www.target.com/p/Girls-Xhilaration-Pink-White-2-pk-Crop-Bra/-/A-13214287), more like cropped camis/sport bra style than the classic bra. I just showed these to her and she ♥ them. I guess these will be ok, not trampy at all.

I getting your daughter one of those is fine - it's not a true "brassiere" with cups, padding, and adjustable straps.

I'm not sure where it came from, but MiniCyn has always been fairly modest, and when she was in 4th grade, she asked if she could start wearing one. She wasn't starting to develop at that point, but she was becoming self-conscious about her upper chest (aka her "décolleté" - it feels strange to refer to the upper chest area of a child as such :o ) when she was wearing shirts that had a "V" or scoop neck (even though they weren't cut low enough to show anything :lol: ). We found a few pretty, youthful-looking (aka not sexy) ones for her to wear under her shirts, and she felt a lot more comfortable or secure (I suppose) with it. They also looked cute, but at the time, layered shirts/tanks with different colored straps were in style.

When it came time for her to need a real bra, however, she fought tooth and nail about wearing one :wall: because she found them to be uncomfortable. Go figure :rofl: .


I don't see how one of those Target "bras" is really any worse than a dance leotard. Or a skating dress. It's not like the girl is going to be walking around with just the bra on, it's going to be worn under clothes.

I'm in the "they grow up too fast why can't they just be kids" camp, too, but those Target "bras" just look like bathing suit tops to me.

Exactly.

As long as she's not trying to grow up too fast and isn't trying to be all hoochie, I don't see any problem at all with getting some of those.

myhoneyhoney
09-30-2011, 05:07 AM
Oh don't worry, she an individual and she does stand up for herself. I heard enough from her teachers at last night's back to school night that she's not afraid to voice her opinion!

Really, should I be resisting something that will help her cover up? Shouldn't I reserve that for if she wants to cover less?

taf2002
09-30-2011, 05:10 AM
That's pretty much how it is as a parent. :rolleyes:

I also see those Target "bras" as cut off tank tops. She will be wearing them under clothes and not parading them around. I already broke her heart at the start of the school year when I said NO on the cell phone. (uh, yes, the majority of her classmates HAVE cells!:eek:) Hubby thinks it's ok for me to buy her some as long as they're the girly kinds. I'm going to try and call my mom to see what she thinks.

You're the parent & you know your kid so IMO you should trust your instinct. I'm one of those who think they grow up too fast as it is, but I don't see any harm in granting this wish. At 8 they need something...I don't see where it matters whether it's a bra or an undershirt.

My mother said no to lipstick when I was 12 but I don't think she would have said no to cute underwear if she could have afforded it. Unfortunately I needed a bra at 12 so we'll never know. And no one had cute underwear back then. The fanciest they ever got with young girl's underwear was days of the week panties.

Cyn
09-30-2011, 05:10 AM
Really, should I be resisting something that will help her cover up? Shouldn't I reserve that for if she wants to cover less?

:rofl:

Makes sense to me. That's pretty much why I had no problem getting the cami-bra thingees for MiniCyn - what mother in her right mind is going to complain about her daughter wanting to expose less flesh? :lol:

Now, if she comes home from school wanting to wear a thong or get a tramp stamp :yikes: :scream: …….

taf2002
09-30-2011, 05:14 AM
I'm out of it...what's a tramp stamp?

myhoneyhoney
09-30-2011, 05:18 AM
Now, if she comes home from school wanting to wear a thong or get a tramp stamp :yikes: :scream: …….

Hah, that's when she'll hear me tell her, "oh HELL NO! You're sooooo NOT gonna be a freakin' hoochie!"

danceronice
09-30-2011, 05:18 AM
I'm out of it...what's a tramp stamp?

Tattoo at the base of the spine/small of the back, visible if the person is wearing low-rise jeans...

Angela-Fan
09-30-2011, 05:18 AM
tatto on your lower back

myhoneyhoney
09-30-2011, 05:19 AM
I'm pretty sure a tramp stamp is a tattoo on the middle of the waist/hip/back area that shows above the waistline of jeans.