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Allskate
05-21-2011, 01:43 AM
But of course, you don't know of anyone in your life--past or present I assume--in the latter group.

If anyone I knew was knowingly and willingly putting up with a cheating spouse, they wouldn't tell me because they know what I'd think and say.

As it turns out, at least one of the tabloids is saying that Arnold didn't voluntarily tell Maria. They claim that she did get suspicious and confronted the housekeeper, who then fessed up. And Maria then moved out.

I'm sure there are people out there whose religious beliefs really do make it difficult for them to get a divorce when a spouse cheats, but I don't think I've ever known anyone in that position or at least nobody who would admit it to me.

And like Anita said, this is a whole different level of betrayal. It's also a different level of sleaziness. You've got to wonder what that kid has been led to believe and what kind of relationship he has with Arnold and with the man who was named his father.

Prancer
05-21-2011, 01:51 AM
But of course, you don't know of anyone in your life--past or present I assume--in the latter group.

For what it's worth, I don't know anyone like that, either. I know a couple of people who discovered that their spouses were cheating and considered forgiving the adultery, but in both instances, ending the affairs immediately was a requirement. Everyone else I have ever known who has had a cheating spouse has kicked the cheater out immediately.

Rex
05-21-2011, 02:59 AM
Yes, lettuce is a well-known cause of adultery. :rofl:
I thought it was those exploding watermelons in China ;).

bek
05-21-2011, 03:54 AM
It's very sad for Maria and her and Arnold's kids. Arnold will come to realize he has lost their trust forever.

O-

While I hope your not living the maid's child out of this because he may be the biggest victim in this mess. Imagine growing up the "maids son" and seeing all of the things your half siblings have, and finding out that your mom's boss is your dad. Being lied to all your life, and basically being your bio dad's "dirty little secret." Some reports say the kid is reportedly having a tough time. Apparently Arnold spoiled the kid though, had the kid for family vacations etc. All which makes me wonder if Maria did now.



The issue here isn't whether polyamory or monogamy should be the norm. The issue is that Arnold promised to be monogamous, and wasn't.
Yesterday 03:42 PM


Actually we don't know that Arnold promised to be monogamous. I mean yes the guy took vows, but we don't know that he and Maria didn't have an understanding. If not in the beginning, at least later on in the marriage. It doesn't make what he's doing okay though. And obviously sleeping with the family housekeeper, fathering a child with her and keeping it a secret is a whole new level of disrespect. I highly doubt Maria was okay with that type of thing.



f anyone I knew was knowingly and willingly putting up with a cheating spouse, they wouldn't tell me because they know what I'd think and say.

As it turns out, at least one of the tabloids is saying that Arnold didn't voluntarily tell Maria. They claim that she did get suspicious and confronted the housekeeper, who then fessed up. And Maria then moved out.

I'm sure there are people out there whose religious beliefs really do make it difficult for them to get a divorce when a spouse cheats, but I don't think I've ever known anyone in that position or at least nobody who would admit it to me.

And like Anita said, this is a whole different level of betrayal. It's also a different level of sleaziness. You've got to wonder what that kid has been led to believe and what kind of relationship he has with Arnold and with the man who was named his father.

Well I think even in Catholicism if it can be proven a spouse never intended to be faithful/incapable that an annullment is allowed. This being said I don't think the people who choose to forgive a lapse in judgment are necessarily wrong for doing so. Of course though the entire thing would be depended on if the spouse was sorry for his/her actions and was willing to change seek help.

Holley Calmes
05-21-2011, 04:25 AM
I agree with this. I don't think Maria was clueless as to Arnold's womanizing ways. But your husband fathering a child with an employee you saw in your house EVERY DAY, and continuing to see her there for years and years afterwards and not being told about it.....that's on a whole other level of betrayal.

Amen Sister. I can't begin to get my brain wrapped around this situation. It's inconceiveable that Maria would not have known, but who knows? We weren't there. Call me cynical and somewhat skeptical. And what the hell does weight and being Latina have to do with extramarital sex? I think the rest of the ethnicities in our World have managed to have affairs all on their own with each other without consideration of anything but the human heart...and other glands.

PeterG
05-21-2011, 07:44 AM
What is the current hourly count on how many woman have birthed children of the Govenator? Still a single-digit number??

heckles
05-21-2011, 03:40 PM
It was a big, beautiful LATINA!!!

I find that the first two adjectives--as in "BBW"-- are often placed together inappropriately, as in this case.

my little pony
05-21-2011, 03:57 PM
What is the current hourly count on how many woman have birthed children of the Govenator? Still a single-digit number??

are you suggesting he has his own personal lebensborn project? ;)

Southpaw
05-21-2011, 05:52 PM
are you suggesting he has his own personal lebensborn project? ;)

:confused: Arnold makes Lebanese porn movies, too?

duane
05-21-2011, 06:24 PM
For what it's worth, I don't know anyone like that, either. I know a couple of people who discovered that their spouses were cheating and considered forgiving the adultery, but in both instances, ending the affairs immediately was a requirement. Everyone else I have ever known who has had a cheating spouse has kicked the cheater out immediately.
Really, in the end, equating Maria with people we know is ridiculous. She was born with a silver spoon in her mouth, and later married into even greater wealth and security. Arnold's net worth is estimated anywhere from 100 to 400 million dollars. Keep in mind that California is one of those 50-50 marital assets states, and any prenup agreement they may have signed has long since expired. So, I don't know why anyone is insulted with the suggestion that Maria may be a wife who knew of her husband's shenanigans, but put up with it for wealth, security, and public image.

Civic
05-21-2011, 06:40 PM
Really, in the end, equating Maria with people we know is ridiculous. She was born with a silver spoon in her mouth, and later married into even greater wealth and security. Arnold's net worth is estimated anywhere from 100 to 400 million dollars. Keep in mind that California is one of those 50-50 marital assets states, and any prenup agreement they may have signed has long since expired. So, I don't know why anyone is insulted with the suggestion that Maria may be a wife who knew of her husband's shenanigans, but put up with it for wealth, security, and public image.

It just seems a tad judgemental to me. Even wealthy, well-connected people can become overwhelmed. Maria has buried both her parents and her uncle within the past 2 years. Her late father had Alzheimers. Maybe she was too wiped out to go through what would have been a very public divorce as long as Arnold was still governor.

numbers123
05-21-2011, 06:43 PM
So, I don't know why anyone is insulted with the suggestion that Maria may be a wife who knew of her husband's shenanigans, but put up with it for wealth, security, and public image.

I'm sorry - but you really think that there isn't a possibility that she didn't know? There are many people in relationships that should see red flags that their spouse or SO is not being faithful that just don't.

Maybe they are that much in love with the other person that they want to remain "sightles" or it may be as you said she put up with it for the wealth, security and public image - that one I kind of doubt. Maria has money in her own right, she has security within a host of family and extended family, and she certainly has a public image that was part of her career.

I think Arnold had and has had more to lose in this situation. He has the money, he had the movie career, and he had a political career. He has strained relationships with his children (all of them) and I personally think that the threat and reality disclosure of this relationship prevented him from continuing to be governor of CA.

duane
05-21-2011, 07:17 PM
I'm sorry - but you really think that there isn't a possibility that she didn't know?
Uh, I am very much aware that I'm stating an opinion. My initial comment wasn't expressing outrage or criticism of anyone's opinion. I was simply agreeing with Topaz's belief that people put up with things. You should be asking the "possibility" question to those who are quoting and preaching against my opinion.

BYTCH
05-21-2011, 07:22 PM
I'd bet this mess has more to do with what was easy, but risky for Arnold rather than what kind of look he generally finds physically attractive.He's a pig, he'll feck anyone, anywhere, anytime. As the saying goes, he would hump a rockpile if he knew there was a snake in it. The female recipient of his largesse doesn't matter--as my asshole brother said once "a woman is a life support system for a c*nt"

Maybe they are that much in love with the other person that they want to remain "sightless" And maybe she expected her husband to be a pig because men in her family have a history of philandering. She just didn't know he was capable of finding a new low in pigdom.

I think Arnold had and has had more to lose in this situation.It'll definitely keep him from running for Senator, and he cannot run for Prez. But since his first action out of office was to sign 3 movie deals, I think he punched his political ticket and was taking his giant ego and poxed peepee -- :rolleyes: unprotected sex :rolleyes:-- back to the big screen.

Prancer
05-21-2011, 07:44 PM
Really, in the end, equating Maria with people we know is ridiculous.

Maybe so, but you asked. I made the point earlier that Arnold and Maria don't have a marriage like mine.


So, I don't know why anyone is insulted with the suggestion that Maria may be a wife who knew of her husband's shenanigans, but put up with it for wealth, security, and public image.

Why would I be insulted?:confused:

Every single account about this situation has said that Maria didn't know. I have no reason to not believe that. You seem to think that you do have reason, but I'm not seeing what it would be except, again, cynicism.

So what if she is rich? Being rich makes life easier and provides a nice cushion when you fall, but it doesn't keep you from falling. If the rich are cut, they bleed, just like everyone else. They just get the private rooms and top doctors to help them heal and hide the scars.