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overedge
05-02-2011, 07:05 PM
A lot of the comments on this article say they would love to dress their daughters in age-appropriate clothing, if they could find any in the store. Is this true? Is it that hard to find nice (i.e. not Junior Slut) clothes for girls?

http://www.cnn.com/2011/OPINION/04/19/granderson.children.dress/index.html

Aceon6
05-02-2011, 07:08 PM
It's getting harder, even for sizes as small as 6. By the time you get into the pre-teen stuff (10-12), it's either too short, too tight, or too revealing. Fortunately, our family's only remaining pre-teen is a jock, so she's happy in jeans or sweats for school as are most of her friends.

soxxy
05-02-2011, 07:08 PM
What a good question, I'm waiting for the replies. I thought the problem was always, "All the other kids are wearing.....".

CynicElle
05-02-2011, 07:12 PM
I'm not a mom but I've done some shopping for girls' clothing, and although I can still find outfits that don't make me cringe, I really was :eek: at some of the clothes out there for fairly young girls. I guess I'm getting old.

barbk
05-02-2011, 07:29 PM
Lands' End. LL Bean. The clothes last forever, and they don't do trashy or suggestive.

Prancer
05-02-2011, 07:39 PM
Where are these people shopping?

I don't have a little girl any more, but even my teenager can find perfectly presentable, unslutty clothes in stores (and she is WAY more modest than even I would demand her to be). I go shopping with a friend who has a nine year old girl, and, while we roll our eyes over some of the things we see, we never have any problem finding her daughter clothes, either.

BigB08822
05-02-2011, 07:47 PM
I don't have a little girl but I see tons of appropriate clothing at places such as JC Penny, Macy's, Dillards, Old Navy, etc. I think all the slutty clothes are at specialty stores in the mall such as Forever 21, Wet Seal, etc.

Cyn
05-02-2011, 08:04 PM
I don't have a little girl but I see tons of appropriate clothing at places such as JC Penny, Macy's, Dillards, Old Navy, etc. I think all the slutty clothes are at specialty stores in the mall such as Forever 21, Wet Seal, etc.

And Abercrombie, and Aeropostale, and Hollister, and Express, and on and on.

Clothing that is more modest and age-appropriate is out there, but it' is far outnumbered by the skimpier, skankier stuff that dominates -- when MiniCyn and I go shopping, it's an all-day ordeal that is punctuated repeatedly by my grumbling at the lack of selection/:eek: hemlines or revealing tops/cursing the Bratz Dolls under my breath. The excursion is never complete without the requisite 473 times I have to tell MiniCyn to put whatever she's picked out back on the rack as it's too short/too low cut/too mature/won't fit her body type.

She's not horrible about it in that she's not trying to deliberate dress like a slut; she's trying to follow a lot of the fashion trends. We can usually find a happy middle ground that isn't sleazy but at the same time isn't resembling Quaker fashion :o .

PRlady
05-02-2011, 08:53 PM
The clothes at Urban Outfitter are fun and trendy and offbeat without being sluttish. I wish they had UO around when I was young enough to wear most of their stuff. It's too old for pre-teens, though.

Stormy
05-02-2011, 09:22 PM
And Abercrombie, and Aeropostale, and Hollister, and Express, and on and on.

Express isn't even for children or teens, nor is it marketed towards them. Express has plenty of appropriate clothing, I shop there all the time for work clothes. Yes, they have items also for more club or going out wear, but again, it's age appropriate. There's no problem with Express carrying short skirts for adult women. Just because a store has trendy music blasting doesn't mean it's trying to corrupt youth.

Believe it or not, Abercrombie, Hollister, etc DO have some clothing that are just fine for teenagers. There are plenty of regular non midriff baring t-shirts, sweatpants without ass logos, hoodies, sweaters and dresses. Yes, I know they have low rise jeans and teeny skirts as well. But the entire Abercrombie store isn't a slut shop and never has been. Yes, the marketing is quite racy, I don't deny that either. But it's up to the parent to say "No, you may not have this skirt that barely covers your hoo-ha, but you may have this t-shirt with the moose on the front".

Even in Abercrombie kids....what's wrong with any of these? http://www.abercrombiekids.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/CategoryDisplay?catalogId=10851&storeId=10101&langId=-1&topCategoryId=12103&categoryId=12151&parentCategoryId=13113

Or these? http://www.abercrombiekids.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/CategoryDisplay?catalogId=10851&storeId=10101&langId=-1&topCategoryId=12103&categoryId=13112&parentCategoryId=13113

I think the point of the article is spot on....don't dress your daughters like tramps. It might be a pain finding it, but there is plenty of age appropriate clothing out there that will look good on them. And even if they insist on Abercrombie or Hollister, there are things that are ok in there for them. I guess it just bugs me when people in general vilify the store instead of having the parents take more accountability for what their kids wear. I know I am way past the target age but I go to both Abercrombie and Hollister all the time. I have shirts from both stores that have lasted me forever. The quality is actually pretty good. I'd rather pay $25 for a shirt I'll have for 5 years than $5 for an Old Navy tissue tee that'll last the summer.

PDilemma
05-02-2011, 09:41 PM
Stormy--I'm willing to believe you about Abercrombie; I've seen decent stuff in there. But I have underwear that covers more than the shorts and skirts at Hollister. You can get quality t-shirts and such at American Eagle, Gap, Banana Republic, etc... and shorts and skirts that cover your entire ass.

marbri
05-02-2011, 09:58 PM
I'm surprised to read people find Hollister, Abercrombie and Aeropostale slutty. Maybe it's the way some kids are wearing them that you are seeing ( ie. wearing clothing too small for them ) but I see teens everyday in these brands and I wouldn't think any of them are trashy looking. :confused: Even Forever 21 and Wet Seal have enough modest clothing to choose from.

PDilemma
05-02-2011, 10:10 PM
I'm surprised to read people find Hollister, Abercrombie and Aeropostale slutty. Maybe it's the way some kids are wearing them that you are seeing ( ie. wearing clothing too small for them ) but I see teens everyday in these brands and I wouldn't think any of them are trashy looking. :confused: Even Forever 21 and Wet Seal have enough modest clothing to choose from.

At a school awards night, we were all treated to a full on view of a girl's business, shall we say, in her new Hollister skirt she had previously bragged about wearing to the event. If the shorts have an inseam the same length as boy short style underwear, it is hard to wear them modestly. And showing butt cheeks is not modest.

And I am not a prude at all...I just don't want to know what kind of wax job someone gets just because I happened to see her in shorts or a skirt that are either way too short or way too low rise. Cover the butt cheeks and the hip bones, at least, people.

I agree about Forever 21, FTR.

marbri
05-02-2011, 10:29 PM
So whatever that particular girl was wearing sounds inappropriate. I don't know what's inappropriate about the vast majority of their clothes though as they are t-shirts, hoodies, plaid shirts, jeans and sweatpants and the jean shorts mine has don't show butt cheeks or wax jobs. I see no exposed hipbones or bellies or cleavage at all.

The skirts on the other hand can be short, particularly depending on the body shape, most kids I know wear biking shorts under them.

Aussie Willy
05-02-2011, 10:34 PM
Very impressive article.

It is not just kids. So many people these days wear stuff that just isn't suitable for them. They think they are looking fashionable but end up just looking skanky. And that is because the majority of stuff available is just cheap, not well made and doesn't suit a lot of body shapes.

But these are probably the same parents who put those headbands on their babies heads, even if they haven't got hair (one of the more ridiculous baby fashion trends). And a while back there was a company that made high heels for babies too, even though the kids couldn't walk.