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Skittl1321
03-21-2011, 11:43 PM
I actually didn't change it until we had been married for 2 years, but it's difficult to function as a married couple when you have 2 last names.

On our honeymoon, United checked our bags under his name only, and then when he got sick and couldn't deal with them after they lost our luggage, they refused to deal with me because my name wasn't on the luggage claim. Never mind that it was on the tickets booked together, nor could they answer why their gate agent checked luggage under only his name, when it was made clear we each had 1 bag.

We also had problems with banks, gym memberships, lots of silly things.

It's traditional to take your husband's last name, and while he never really pressed that I did it, I knew it was kind of important to him. I'm glad to have his last name, because I'm glad to have him. I just liked my name better. His is boring. And it's a super simple, easy to spell last name, but it sounds just like another name, so people STILL mispell it. At least my old last name always got misspelled because it was confusing.

Skittl1321
03-21-2011, 11:47 PM
Exactly.

When I was in first grade there was another kid with the same first name, but her last name was further down the alphabetical list. Without fail, every morning when the teacher took attendance, she'd say "here" when it was my turn. OK, she was only 6, but if I figured it out I think she should have too :drama: and really the teacher should have used our last initials - I'm talkin' to YOU Miss McCready!

OOH! This reminds me of middle school cheerleading tryouts. The principal was reading names of the list "randomly" so we wouldn't know who got the most votes. He said "Jessica" and I knew he meant the other Jessica, because she was much more popular. Five names later he called Jessica, I stood up, and he looked at me, then at her, and said "oh, nope- I called that one already". I had to sit down, I didn't make it. He didn't even say sorry!!! Ass. That's crushing to an unpopular 7th grader. :mad::mad::mad: There were multiple Jessica's, Jennifer's and Kristen (Kristin)'s- why would he not use last names?

If that happened today, I could probably sue my way onto the team :)

ArtisticFan
03-22-2011, 12:06 AM
I actually didn't change it until we had been married for 2 years, but it's difficult to function as a married couple when you have 2 last names.



I still haven't changed mine and have no plan to do so. I am the last member of my family to have this name so I don't want to give it up for that reason along with others.

It has been tricky at times, but we have put up with them so far. Thankfully we don't have children so that isn't an issue.

smurfy
03-22-2011, 12:37 AM
I have a common first and last name. Banks - no issue. But I have had issues, lost an appointment at the hairdresser. They called to confirm, but the other girl, and she said I dont' have an appt, then I show up. Also one of my eye doctors had a patient with my name. so always clarified with birthdate. Where I work now, a girl has an almost same name, and we get each others emails (Susan and Susanne, same last name). I have met/or seen someone with the same first/last name as everyone in my family.
Just amusing. I use my middle initial a lot.
On Facebook, some friends said they can not find me, to many with the same name. Also I have received invites by people looking for my name, but not me.
Again, just go with the flow.

MacMadame
03-22-2011, 12:52 AM
I actually didn't change it until we had been married for 2 years, but it's difficult to function as a married couple when you have 2 last names.
I've been married for 23.5 years and haven't had any difficulty with keeping my own name. :shuffle:

Skittl1321
03-22-2011, 02:09 AM
I know lots of people manage, but it was a pain in the ass for me. Especially when he was in the military.