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danceronice
12-16-2010, 03:21 PM
I was ten or eleven, and my parents kind of tactfully brought it up in a roundabout way (conveniently, I'd asked for a particular Breyer model that, unbenknownst to me, had been discontinued, meaning they couldn't find one.)

sk8er1964
12-16-2010, 03:53 PM
Santa isn't real? :fragile:

Bev Johnston
12-16-2010, 04:07 PM
I'm quite astonished there are some 10 year olds who haven't been informed by their friends yet. I'd be a bit worried they'd get picked on at school if someone found out.



I'm not and I wouldn't be worried about him getting picked on. I think while a lot of kids stop believing around 10 or so, there are still quite a few who believe or want to believe. I'm sure he's not the only one.

When my daughter was four, she asked me, "Is Santa real or make-believe?" I answered that of course he was real. In her usual wise-beyond-her-years manner, she said, "Oh, really? Because I always thought he was make-believe." We still laugh about that one. Her theory was proved correct when she was about seven and she saw her brother's new bike a few days before Christmas. She didn't seem angry or traumatized at all, just kind "Aha! I knew it!!" My son just came up to me one day (around 10 or 11) and said, "I know Santa isn't real."

Satellitegirl
12-16-2010, 04:14 PM
I was around 7 or 8 when I figured it out. My parents still kept putting packages out that said "From Santa" though, because they had fun doing it, even though they knew I knew.

If you want to tell him, I'd just tell him that Santa represents the spirit of giving and love around the holidays. Santa exists, but it's a state of mind and wonder during the holidays :)

Personally, I wouldn't tell him until he was ready to go to middle school, or until he came to you with questions. Let him be the one to broach the subject, IMO.

Any smart kid would pretend they still believed......more presents that way :D

FigureSpins
12-16-2010, 04:31 PM
Santa isn't real? :fragile:
That's what I thought, too. Oh ye of little faith...

When they asked, I told all of my kids that if you don't believe in Saint Nicholas/Santa Claus, you won't get any presents other than the ones their el-cheapo parents are willing to buy. If they're willing to settle for lesser gifts, it's their choice.

That solved the dilemma for them.

FWIW, I think that the world works in strange ways. I remember one Christmas when we couldn't really afford more than a token gift for each kid. I was sad, but I bought some stuff at a dollar store so that there would be a few things for them to open and I sewed a dress for each of them for Christmas.

Later that day, we received an email from our credit card company reminding us that we had "points" available that could be redeemed for gift cards. We didn't know we had any points on that card since we had stopped using credit cards entirely. The gift cards allowed us to buy some nice clothes for the kids (which they needed) and an inexpensive family gift from Santa.

So, I believe in the Spirit of Christmas and Santa Claus!

skatingfan5
12-16-2010, 05:06 PM
I was the oldest child in my family, so I believed in Santa until I was 8 or 9. I remember finding out the truth one Sunday when my mother sent me to call Dad to dinner. I opened the door to the basement, and there he was in his workshop, putting the finishing touches on the doll beds that my sisters and I had asked Santa to bring. It was quite a significant shock, because I don't remember having any doubts/questions before that ... I also realized at that moment that the Easter bunny and the tooth fairy were also Mom and Dad.

I didn't say anything to my sisters and brother, but someone told my youngest sister when she was in kindergarten and she told my baby brother when he was only 4. :( Her own children had questions at an fairly early age (my nephew was in a car pool with kids several years older than him). When they asked, she never was completely sure whether they were really wanting "the truth" so she would ask them, "What do you think?" and then respond to their answers. She was sure that my nephew no longer believed Santa was real when he was 7 -- until one evening just before Christmas when he looked at her and said that he heard something on the roof, and "maybe it was reindeer." My niece never would go up to a store Santa, unlike my nephew, but I remember one Christmas Eve when she laid out a large yarn "snare" in front of the fireplace in the hopes of "trapping" Santa. :lol:

Asli
12-16-2010, 05:24 PM
Aceon6- Oh no he believes in him still. I was about the same age as him when I found out though. Not to say he doesn't have questions about how a man can get all around the world in one night to give presents to kids lol...

My younger sister pretended she still believed for two years after she had found out, because she thought it would somehow hurt my parents' feelings if she didn't. I'm not saying this is your son's case, but it is a possibility.

JasperBoy
12-16-2010, 05:49 PM
I don't think my kids ever believed that Santa was a real person. We always said he was "Magic". That carried them through to when they were old enough to understand the abstract concepts of generosity and goodwill.

They still got presents from Santa. He was Magic, after all! Even today, everyone in the family still gets a stocking from Santa, no matter how old they are.

I was surprised to learn that my 6 & 7 yr old grandsons seem to believe in Santa as a real person. I didn't pursue the idea with them, not wanting to mess up whatever their parents have told them. The kids concern had to do with the fact that their parents had separated during the year, and Santa needed to know where to bring their gifts. Apparently my daughter had gone through some big explanation about writing a letter to Santa to explain it all. Well, I guess they had had a rough year already, no point to telling them that there was no such thing as Santa, too.

All that aside, I think 10 years old is a really good age to learn about the concept behind gift giving, etc. They are really open to the world at that age and love to understand how they can play a part in the society around them. That includes donations to charities and helping with the festive events. They can exhibit the spirit of Christmas themselves, and be one of Santa's helpers.

Twilight1
12-16-2010, 06:12 PM
Well I have to say if he knows that makes things much easier lol

BigB08822
12-16-2010, 06:21 PM
I don't remember ever asking my parents or anything. This might be a really fun conversation to have on Christmas day as we eat our dinner! I just know I heard rumblings at school from classmates and that got me thinking about it. I don't ever remember catching my parents putting presents under the tree or anything, though. I guess I just believed what I heard at school because I am the biggest cynic I know! :lol:

Aceon6
12-16-2010, 07:28 PM
I don't remember ever asking my parents or anything. This might be a really fun conversation to have on Christmas day as we eat our dinner! I just know I heard rumblings at school from classmates and that got me thinking about it. I don't ever remember catching my parents putting presents under the tree or anything, though. I guess I just believed what I heard at school because I am the biggest cynic I know! :lol:

Your post reminded me of a family tradition. Santa doesn't wrap. As explained by my s-i-l to her kids when they believed... "How the heck would the big guy have time to put wrap and decorations on the bazillion presents he leaves?" Needless to say, Santa doesn't wrap saves a lot of time in our family.

Bostonfan
12-16-2010, 07:30 PM
I learned the truth from the newspaper when I was 7 year old. I used to do part of my brother's paper route (back when kids delivered newspapers - I don't see it anymore). I was really slow because I would read the paper as I delivered what amounted to maybe a dozen homes in the immedate vicinity of my house. (I feel bad now about the last person on the route because the newspaper was always disheveled from my reading it).

Anyway I read a Dear Abby column from a reader asking this very same question. I have 4 older siblings, so I confronted them about it and they confirmed it. Strangely, I didn't feel all that upset by it. I was more excited that I knew something that my little sister didn't know. And I enjoyed keeping the illusion up for her benefit.

skatingfan5
12-16-2010, 07:49 PM
Your post reminded me of a family tradition. Santa doesn't wrap. As explained by my s-i-l to her kids when they believed... "How the heck would the big guy have time to put wrap and decorations on the bazillion presents he leaves?" Needless to say, Santa doesn't wrap saves a lot of time in our family.Santa didn't wrap in my house either -- which made things just a bit easier for my parents, because iirc from my youngest years, Santa also brought the tree! :eek: I have no idea how my parents managed to put up and decorate the tree in addition to getting the presents under it in the proper "piles" for each child, but I do remember it being absolutely magical to come into the living room on Christmas morning and find it so transformed. :respec: to them for doing all that. Of course, when I was a bit older, I remember that tradition was no more, so perhaps it was more a function of my father's traveling a lot and being a major procrastinator. :)

deltask8er
12-16-2010, 08:04 PM
I was about 7. Santa made his big appearance on Christmas Eve at our house, when everyone unwraps gifts. Several relatives were in attendance watching Santa taking the gifts out of his large bag. My 2-year-old brother suddenly asked "Where's Dad?". Santa responded, "uhhhh, I think your father is in the bathroom :shuffle: ". I sat there and realized "Ohhh, that's how that works :lol: ." Don't know when my brother figured it out.

My 6-year-old niece and nephew started to wonder last year about the logistics of Santa going around the world in one day, in and out of millions of chimneys. "I mean, it takes us 5 hours to drive to Grandma and Grandpa's house!", one of them noticed. But, they still stay home for Christmas. Otherwise, Santa wouldn't know where to drop off the gifts if they stayed with relatives for Christmas.

bobalina77
12-16-2010, 10:01 PM
I don't remember when I figured it out.. so it couldn't have been overly traumatic lol. I had a younger brother though and had to keep up the charade for him. We still get stockings at Christmas and up until a few years ago got presents from him as well. It's a fun tradition that makes Christmas that much more special I think. Who doesn't want to believe in magic?