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Ajax
07-19-2010, 02:05 AM
Has anybody tried? I signed up for it but the idea of going on dates with total strangers from the internets kinda wigs me out... Plus I never know what to say when I message someone. Just say hi, or comment on their profile, or forget the chitchat and ask them out for a drink? To top it all off the first guy who messaged me wrote that I am "density material" (destiny, I'm assuming? :lol: and also :yikes:)

Would love to hear your horror stories, success stories, tips...

PrincessLeppard
07-19-2010, 03:09 AM
Erm, there's a thread somewhere with some stories in it. Some of them are mine. :P

Here's a sample of mine, from my blog:


Yesterday, I received an email from a guy on the website. It contained a picture of a martini, with a phrase I can't repeat here. But, wait, it gets better. This is an actual excerpt from his profile.

"I'm a VERY Romantic & Passionate male who doesn't smoke or go to bars.
I like Cuddling & giving Long, Lingering, Tasteful & Lush-ish, Slow Kisses. Holding Hands & walks in the rain, moonlight, giving back rubs, Massages & drive-in movies (which are hard to find now).
After spending years in Insurance Marketing I have 2 businesses that keep me quit busy due to goals set.

When I'm done working tasty kissing would be nice to do. I look for companionship & I do miss the Lips of a women.

Let me introduce my-self to you w/ a soft voice while taking your hand & placing a Kiss on the Back of your palm or "Neck". "

And no, I have no idea why "neck" is in quotation marks. :rofl:

I went on a couple nice dates, a couple weird ones, got a marriage proposal at the end of one :scream: and, um, yeah. It was fun. Go for it.

Wyliefan
07-19-2010, 03:27 AM
Lush-ish? :lol: Well, we know he's not an English major!

Anita18
07-19-2010, 03:40 AM
I met my bf of about a year (golly, has it been that long?) on Plentyoffish.com. Although it started out complicated because we casually dated for a few months before we seriously got together, and three months after he told me he wanted to get serious. :lol: He is one patient guy.

I actually get a pretty good read on people when I chat with them online. It's always about 4 or 5 exchanges before someone suggests a meeting. Sometimes the guy messaged me first, sometimes I did.

I always mentioned about something they mentioned in their profile when initiating first contact. I also only go for guys who've actually read my profile and comment on it. "You're cute" doesn't cut it with me. :lol: Obviously I don't go for ones who just say how romantic they are. :lol: That tells me nothing about their personality.

I've met no weirdos in person, although there was that one dude on Lavalife who will go down in infamy as "foot fetish guy." The first question he asked me, before even a "Hi there" was, "How are your feet?" :rofl:

To me, online dating just means getting a chance to meet people without having to go out and actually introduce yourself to strangers (which I hate cause I'm a hermit anyway) or hope to "bump" into someone magically compatible with you. You'll come across a few weirdos, but that's the same in offline life anyway. A plus is that it's easier to weed them out without feeling too bad about it. ;)

Satellitegirl
07-19-2010, 02:05 PM
I've date from sites before....although I've never had much luck. I did meet my bf online, but it was from a chat room I went to for years. I feel too uncomfortable with a whole "set up" for dating. I need friendship first I've found.

But yeah, as far as contact goes, take common interests from their profile and ask them about it. That's the best way to start IMO.

Ajax
07-19-2010, 02:29 PM
Let me introduce my-self to you w/ a soft voice while taking your hand & placing a Kiss on the Back of your palm or "Neck". "

Yikes! That sounds like a horrible cross between creepy and cheesy :D

jp1andonly
07-19-2010, 02:58 PM
i did online dating and was pretty successful. I met my ex online and we dated for 4 years. I met some nice guys who turned out to be friends in the end and I still talk with them even though we have long went our separate ways. I had 2 weird experiences but they were good for a chuckle. I always went for coffee after speaking to them online then having numerous phone conversations. Coffee is short enough that if it is going bad then you can leave quickly or it is a nice short intro before going for dinner, a movie, etc. Always trust you gut and always meet in a public place. Good luck :)

Bev Johnston
07-19-2010, 03:18 PM
I always went for coffee after speaking to them online then having numerous phone conversations. Coffee is short enough that if it is going bad then you can leave quickly or it is a nice short intro before going for dinner, a movie, etc. Always trust you gut and always meet in a public place. Good luck :)

jp1andonly that is great advice!

I've tried online dating twice. First time I had better luck; meeting a nice man after only going out on one date with another guy. We dated for a while but it didn't work out, unfortunately.

The second time I tried it, I got tired of wasting time on guys that weren't all that interesting in person.

A good friend gave me advice that I think i will follow if I ever try again, and that is: meet for coffee for the first time meeting, not dinner. If you don't like them or they are hard to talk to, it's very hard to sit through an entire dinner. Like jp1andonly said, coffee is short!

Cheylana
07-19-2010, 05:27 PM
I can't say I've had much luck. I've been on-and-off with eHarmony. First time I signed up, I talked to a few guys right off the bat and went on a few dates - neither guy panned out, and otherwise I was matched with a bunch of guys but the only guys requesting communication being drop-dead ugly. :o Tried Match, but mostly got creeps. One guy seemed ok, so after e-mailing quite a bit, I gave him my cell number. Big mistake - he immediately started telling me how they were filming a porn movie across the street from him, and he could see them through the window, and asking what I was wearing. Eww. So done with Match forever!

I've been trying to meet guys IRL by joining Meetup.com groups, but mostly I end up meeting a bunch of women trying to do the same thing. Sigh!

Aimless
07-19-2010, 06:44 PM
I've had reasonable luck. It's a strange experience though. Internet dating dissects the human psyche in ways that nature never intended. One guy i had lunch with was wearing an icky weird ring. "Is that a tooth?" I asked incredulously. He had mounted the first baby tooth his son lost on his ring. NEXT!

The meeting for coffee idea is good. For a second date, I would recommend something other than dinner or drinks. Sitting across from somebody masticating is not the most attractive introduction, and there's always the awkwardness of "who pays?". I'd prefer to do something active, to experience something together and to interact. Stroll in a botanic garden, visit a country fair, go to a dog show, that kind of thing.

I like to refer to EHarmony as EHornyMe.

heckles
07-19-2010, 06:53 PM
I like to refer to EHarmony as EHornyMe.

Everyone I've known who has used Eharmony was a headcase. So much for their psychological screening.

dbell1
07-19-2010, 11:18 PM
My experiences with online dating can be summed up this way - :wall: :wideeyes: :scream:

I'm done with it.

Anita18
07-19-2010, 11:35 PM
Everyone I've known who has used Eharmony was a headcase. So much for their psychological screening.
I think it's more like, why should we give someone else the responsibility of screening out what we would consider the weirdos? That's just a recipe for disaster. :lol:

Ziggy
07-19-2010, 11:37 PM
Has anybody tried? I signed up for it but the idea of going on dates with total strangers from the internets kinda wigs me out... Plus I never know what to say when I message someone. Just say hi, or comment on their profile, or forget the chitchat and ask them out for a drink? To top it all off the first guy who messaged me wrote that I am "density material" (destiny, I'm assuming? :lol: and also :yikes:)

Would love to hear your horror stories, success stories, tips...

People meet potential partners offline? :eek:

heckles
07-20-2010, 12:10 AM
I think it's more like, why should we give someone else the responsibility of screening out what we would consider the weirdos?

Yeah, Eharmony's requirements are weird. They require women to accept matches of men who are 19 years older.