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Ajax
07-20-2010, 05:08 PM
I will admit that I'm sometimes embarrassed to admit we met online. Sometimes I fib and tell people we met through friends...I think how we met is a rather personal question, and you'd be surprised how many people ask that question.

Yeah, I can't even imagine introducing a guy to my mom or dad and telling them that I met him online :yikes:

mon125
07-20-2010, 05:26 PM
I met my husband in Match.com.
I was there for around 2 years without much luck and most were only one date kind of guys.
So, I decided that I was going for one more date and that was it. I calculated that statistically I was very close to meeting someone. I had two guys e-mailing me. One wanted to meet me on the other side of town one afternoon. I told him I was busy so he changed the time to 4:00 pm, which was weird because most people are working at that time. I told him that was not going to work for me and started setting a date with second guy. Now, 4 years later he is my husband.
I was his second date in Match.com.
I have to say that I learned a lot about myself during those years and what I was looking for. Good luck!

Anita18
07-20-2010, 05:27 PM
I've known a lot of couples who have met online and I think the best advice for ads is to be honest. Don't try to be something you aren't as part of the sales pitch. Sell what you have, not what you think other people want.

The lies always come back to haunt. There are a lot of men out there who really don't like long walks in the rain but have created this expectation that they do and now have to live with it or the fallout. :P Meanwhile, they have been passed over by a lot of women who have thought, "What kind of moron likes to walk in the rain?"
:rofl:

Yeah I think the point of online dating is being able to cut through that bullshit. Otherwise it'd just be like trying to meet people in a bar - they're all there for the same thing and they're all gonna be saying stuff that get women to go home with them! :lol: That's what I wanted to avoid in the first place!


I think people ask "How did you meet?" when there doesn't seem to be an obvious connection, like attending the same college or growing up in the same town or working together. Some people are just curious; other people, though, want to hear stories of magical happenstance; it gives them hope :).
Hehe, that's why I tell people the truth and say we met on a dating site. Proves that you don't have to be a total weirdo or loser to do so. :)


Yeah, I can't even imagine introducing a guy to my mom or dad and telling them that I met him online :yikes:
Oh, they know. :lol: They trust me to make good decisions. Or, well, as long as he wasn't an ax murderer..."No refund, no return!" as my mom would say. :rofl:

Veronika
07-20-2010, 05:48 PM
In my salad days, it was meeting in a bar that was embarrassing. And the line was always, "Er, we met in a bar. But it was a NICE bar.":lol:

My parents met in a bar, and it wasn't a nice bar. Not the type of place a nice surburban, rather conservative couple would meet--but hey, it was the early 70s, right? :wideeyes:

Lacey
07-20-2010, 06:02 PM
I have a friend who met her husband on EHarmony, she got pregnant, they were married (in that order), and their first child (they now have two) has Harmony for a middle name.

Cheylana
07-20-2010, 07:28 PM
I've known a lot of couples who have met online and I think the best advice for ads is to be honest. Don't try to be something you aren't as part of the sales pitch. Sell what you have, not what you think other people want.
Does this mean I shouldn't bother to hire that photo retoucher and assemble that all-male focus group to review my profile? :o

Bev Johnston
07-20-2010, 07:32 PM
I've known a lot of couples who have met online and I think the best advice for ads is to be honest. Don't try to be something you aren't as part of the sales pitch. Sell what you have, not what you think other people want.

The lies always come back to haunt.

One of my guy friends once said that online dating gave a whole new meaning to the words "medium" and "athletic".

bobalina77
07-20-2010, 08:56 PM
I met my bf of about a year (golly, has it been that long?) on Plentyoffish.com. Although it started out complicated because we casually dated for a few months before we seriously got together, and three months after he told me he wanted to get serious. :lol: He is one patient guy.

I actually get a pretty good read on people when I chat with them online. It's always about 4 or 5 exchanges before someone suggests a meeting. Sometimes the guy messaged me first, sometimes I did.

I always mentioned about something they mentioned in their profile when initiating first contact. I also only go for guys who've actually read my profile and comment on it. "You're cute" doesn't cut it with me. :lol: Obviously I don't go for ones who just say how romantic they are. :lol: That tells me nothing about their personality.

I've met no weirdos in person, although there was that one dude on Lavalife who will go down in infamy as "foot fetish guy." The first question he asked me, before even a "Hi there" was, "How are your feet?" :rofl:

To me, online dating just means getting a chance to meet people without having to go out and actually introduce yourself to strangers (which I hate cause I'm a hermit anyway) or hope to "bump" into someone magically compatible with you. You'll come across a few weirdos, but that's the same in offline life anyway. A plus is that it's easier to weed them out without feeling too bad about it. ;)

This. I didn't ever reply to guys who had obviously only looked at my picture and hadn't read my profile.. and I found it pretty easy to weed out the weirdos. I met my ex on POF and my current BF as well. My ex was an okay guy we just had very different expectations of a relationship. My BF and I are much more in sync in that respect.

I met one other guy before I met my BF and he.. well he was a jerk. He dissed my hometown (said the people there were snobs), was very judgemental of my life choices (I didn't own a house or a condo at my age..) and was basically just a condescending ass. Then emailed me a few days later saying he wanted to go out again.. seriously.

I had another guy get mad at me because I didn't reply to his email. Serious anger issues.. crossed him off the list real fast.

BF and I started out as friends and we actually had things in common. We went to the same highschool so knew a lot of the same people, we went to the same dance school when we were younger, lived in the same town and have no plans of moving away if we can help it.. we definitely want to raise our kids there. We've been together a year and are still going strong :)

Bailey_
07-20-2010, 09:18 PM
I've dabbled on these sites for years but have never actually met someone. The last guy came the closest - we actually talked on the phone before I turned him away. His theory was that there are only two types of women dating online. 1). the divorced mothers who have just ended bad relationships, and "they have LOTS of baggage." And, 2). the single, 30 year olds who have never been married, maybe never lived with anyone, who are often pretty set in their ways and paying too much attention to their biological clocks and, "they are not very much fun to date either." Next...

I totally believe it is a numbers game. I believe that good things happen when luck meets opportunity. But that said, online dating can be exhausting because there are so many fish to catch and throw back into the sea. And for me, I'm most comfortable meeting someone and getting a sense of that person in person so online dating is not very comfortable. And, that is ok. I get tired of people telling me about their best friends, neighbours, brother who met their wife online... For every success story, there is a lot of failure and heartache.

And safety is the bottom line. I laugh and tell people that I don't understand why a man can not seem to write an email without having a sexual reference. I've had men send me pornographic emails, I've had them become upset with me and ask me if I thought I was better than them because I didn't respond to their "hello," it's crazy out there...

Norlite
07-20-2010, 09:23 PM
His theory was that there are only two types of women dating online. 1). the divorced mothers who have just ended bad relationships, and "they have LOTS of baggage." And, 2). the single, 30 year olds who have never been married, maybe never lived with anyone, who are often pretty set in their ways and paying too much attention to their biological clocks and, "they are not very much fun to date either." Next...


:rolleyes:


Did he give a theory on the type of men who use dating sites?

Prancer
07-20-2010, 09:39 PM
My parents met in a bar, and it wasn't a nice bar. Not the type of place a nice surburban, rather conservative couple would meet--but hey, it was the early 70s, right? :wideeyes:

:lol: My parents also met in a not-nice bar. My dad was so drunk he couldn't remember what my mom looked like, only that he had a date with some woman whose name and address were on a note in his pocket.

This was in 1945, mind you. But as my mom always liked to say, things were different then--an argument that never worked for me at all when I was trying to explain how the world had changed since she was young, but you know--that's different :lol:.


Does this mean I shouldn't bother to hire that photo retoucher and assemble that all-male focus group to review my profile? :o

I'd let some guys look at your profile for sure. There's being honest and then there's slitting your own throat (mentioning your cat, for example :P).

Anita18
07-20-2010, 11:09 PM
:lol: My parents also met in a not-nice bar. My dad was so drunk he couldn't remember what my mom looked like, only that he had a date with some woman whose name and address were on a note in his pocket.
:lol:

My parents met in grad school. My dad was my mom's associate professor.

When I found out, I was like, ":wideeyes: I never knew my dad could be so SKANDALOUS!" :rofl:

Prancer
07-20-2010, 11:16 PM
My parents met in grad school. My dad was my mom's associate professor.

When I found out, I was like, ":wideeyes: I never knew my dad could be so SKANDALOUS!" :rofl:

:lol:

Some good friends of my parents met when she was a student in his high school English class.

But again, things were different then :shuffle:.

Jodi
07-20-2010, 11:53 PM
Well, I met my best friend through FSU. (miffy!) And I met my boyfriend because he's another very close friend of hers :)

heckles
07-21-2010, 12:05 AM
:rofl:

Yeah I think the point of online dating is being able to cut through that bullshit.

One of the dating sites had an article about what people on dating sites tend to lie about.

http://gizmodo.com/5586987/the-big-lies-people-tell-in-online-dating