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haribobo
06-29-2010, 05:41 AM
Maybe my next post should be "Things you love about yourself" but I wanted to do this one first. :D So are there things about yourself that drive you freaking insane? I mean aside from physical flaws....more like character things. And how successful have you been at changing the things you don't like?

For me, well there are so many things...I think the main one is my overanalyzing and stressing about how I'm being perceived to the point where I'm almost totally mute around strangers for a while. Or I force myself to make conversation but it often comes out totally dumb-sounding and I make an even worse impression than if I'd said nothing. I feel like I'm blowing opportunities left and right because I just cannot be myself until I get to know someone (which is just more time than most are willing to take) and even then I have trouble sometimes. Of course alcohol helps a whole lot but sometimes I wish I could be the way I am with 2-3 drinks in me all the time without having to drink at all. Some people are just so confident and out there right away and of course to some degree, I like not being annoying and obnoxious but other times its just massively frustrating to be so inside my own head. :wall: Anyone else?

orbitz
06-29-2010, 05:47 AM
I have the same issue that you do, so I share your pain. Sometimes one can't separate one's physical flaw from one's character flaw though, which is a big problem with me. One is a direct reflection of the other.

I wish I could be a type A personality but it's not in me.

RockTheTassel
06-29-2010, 06:53 AM
For me, well there are so many things...I think the main one is my overanalyzing and stressing about how I'm being perceived to the point where I'm almost totally mute around strangers for a while. Or I force myself to make conversation but it often comes out totally dumb-sounding and I make an even worse impression than if I'd said nothing. I feel like I'm blowing opportunities left and right because I just cannot be myself until I get to know someone (which is just more time than most are willing to take) and even then I have trouble sometimes.

I totally relate to this! I'm awkward and easily embarrassed, so whenever I'm in a social situation, I always spend way too much time thinking about what to say and how to act. Just relaxing seems simple enough, but it's so hard.

The worst part is when I'm with my family, especially my sister. It's not her fault, but she's so outgoing and fun to be around that my awkwardness seems much worse when I'm around her. I hate visiting people when she's going to be there because I know I'll either get ignored or asked questions about her.

What helps me the most is trying to find just one or two other people to talk to. It's easy to fade into the background in a large group, but if I'm with just a couple of people it's much easier to talk and open up a bit.

berthesghost
06-29-2010, 07:43 AM
- I have a nervous laugh. It's like the Chuckles the Clown episode of MTM all the time. It's like "Lady Diana just died. Hahahaha" I don't know how to stop.

- I have worked very hard to overcome my shyness, and have mostly succeeded. The one left over is I have trouble looking people in the eye. It's most awkward when meeting new people and shaking hands. I can't shake hands and look in the eyes at the same time. I always look at the hand I'm shaking and often, when I look up I catch the tail end of an odd look from the other person.

- My expectations used to be so great that I'd ruin just about everything. It was most evident in my art work. I'd get so frustrated that it might not come out as I wanted, that I'd just trash it. One day I just decided to treat each piece not as a final product, but as a practice. Finally I could finish things for the first time and actually enjoy the process. Eventually this worked it's way into others aspects of my life, dating, work, etc... Now it's hard for me to listen to people's dating stories because they always start talking about a first date and if this person is "the one". It's so frustrating to watch them ruin new relationships because "he wore the wrong shirt" or "She ordered a wine cooler" etc..

Anita18
06-29-2010, 09:03 AM
I can't seem to fight the terrible habit of being late to everything. I think it mostly stems from the optimistic belief that I don't really take as long to get ready as I think I do, or that things don't take as long as I think they do. :o

I missed a flight last week and spent 12 hours on standby in LAX (and another 6 hours on standby in MKE) because I didn't take "bad traffic" and "slow hotel shuttle service" and "long-ass TSA security lines" enough into account. :shuffle:

That and the typical I'm shy/I stutter/I'm awkward stuff. (RockTheTassel, I totally know what you're talking about since my sister is a forceful, outgoing personality as well, and an overachiever to boot! :lol: But that's okay with me since she makes things interesting and I'm naturally a wallflower anyway. I don't like a lot of attention.) But I consider all those things part of my personality now anyway and I'm pretty okay with that. :lol:

Ozzisk8tr
06-29-2010, 11:09 AM
I hate doubting myself.

immoimeme
06-29-2010, 11:16 AM
Procrastination. I've been meaning to do something about that....

MOIJTO
06-29-2010, 12:26 PM
Haha! That's for young people to be concerned about...I don't have time or want to spend the energy on silliness like that anymore! :)

Holley Calmes
06-29-2010, 12:57 PM
I overcommit. I can't say no. I get asked to do free stuff all the time, and rarely do I refuse. Then I get frustrated and crazy because I can't get it all done.

Wyliefan
06-29-2010, 01:04 PM
Procrastination. I've been meaning to do something about that....

^This.

ETA: Oh, and I forgot to add, my forgetfulness. :D Seriously, it's getting really bad. I used to be bad with names and faces -- now I'm bad with names, faces, and all kinds of other details. I'm starting to embarrass myself on a regular basis. :(

Also, I wish I weren't afraid of/nervous about so many things.

BlueRidge
06-29-2010, 01:58 PM
disorganization :wall:

vesperholly
06-29-2010, 03:19 PM
I can't seem to fight the terrible habit of being late to everything. I think it mostly stems from the optimistic belief that I don't really take as long to get ready as I think I do, or that things don't take as long as I think they do. :o

omg, yes, me too. I can't stand it when people (invariably the always-on-time sort) accuse people who run late of being selfish or self-absorbed. Honestly, that's not it! It's just extreme optimism in my ability to move quickly. :lol:

Angela-Fan
06-29-2010, 03:46 PM
I can totally relate to being shy/awkward. I just never really know what to say, or I'll think of something to say, but the conversation will have already gone to another topic. Or, I will say something, and nobody really seems to have any interest in what i said. Or nobody even hears me because I'm so quiet. I can't stand having to shout or raise my voice to make myself heard.
I hate that I compare myself to other girls and then feel bad about myself- I am too critical of my looks. I'm never satisfied with my hair, I'm not skinny enough, I don't look girly/feminine enough, etc...
Oh, and i'm also pretty disorganized.

Satellitegirl
06-29-2010, 03:52 PM
I get really irritable if my blood sugar is low(haven't eaten breakfast or whatever) or if I haven't had good sleep. I hate being that affected mood-wise by something biological.

ETA: I have had the nervous laughter thing get me in trouble as well before. I once told someone that someone they knew died. It wasn't funny, but I laughed....horrible horrible nervous reflex. Needless to say they were not pleased.

And I procrastinate something awful.

escaflowne9282
06-29-2010, 03:53 PM
I am disorganized. I procrastinate. I am extremely soft-spoken/shy/awkward when I really have no need to be.

I never let things go when I should.

I can relate to the nervous laughter, berthesghost; I giggled throughout the end of Titanic . I also have the worst tendancy to tell jokes at inappropriately sad times