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04-29-2010, 02:08 AM
I don't understand the appeal of high school reunions. I went to the same school as these people because our parents bought homes in the same zip code. Nothing magical, just zoning.
I went to school with some of the people in my class for 12 years. We were friends, but I come from an area where probably at least half the class lives in other provinces now. I went to my 10 year reunion as a last minute whim (couldn't go to the banquet though) and had so much fun that I didn't think twice about going to my 25th.

I think a higher percentage attended from those who had to come from afar, and many of the local people stayed away.

The "guys in the band" even got back together and rehearsed 3 songs to perform for us, and we made them do the whole set twice.

My class was 152 people. I think that is the right size to have enough people spread out to want to reunite, and yet small enough to mostly all know and remember each other.

04-29-2010, 02:36 AM
DH's 40th class reunion is being planned by the woman who introduced us in high school (yeah, we were high school sweethearts and will be married for 37 years in August). I suppose we will attend just because she is planning it. I don't know that I am looking forward to it.

04-29-2010, 02:42 AM
Oh hellz to the no!! :scream: Couldn't pay me to attend. I attend two high schools ... went K-10th grade in one school system then moved to Connecticut for 11-12. I completely and totally despise anything and everything about that "other" high school I was forced to attend my last two years of high school and graduated from. Biggest bunch of arrogant, elitist, snobby, selfish, rude, stuck up bunch of people I've ever met in my life. There's not enough money in the world to make me ever attend a reunion with those people.

We moved back to the same city I spent K-10 grade 3 months after I graduated high school. I've gotten invites to that one (because I consider myself a graduate of my real high school and put my name on the alumni lists rather than the one I actually graduated from), but I've never attended any of those either. It had its fair share of snobs as well, and really ... I deal with enough bytches at work every day that are even more clique-ish than high school was, I don't need to deal with the real high school ones as well. :lol:

04-29-2010, 03:13 AM
I'm going to say yay.

My 50th anniversary reunion is on May 21-23 about 1/2 mile from where I lived during my Senior year in high school. This was the 2nd high school I attended and, of course, the one I graduated from. I had a few friends there, many from the junior class behind me. From what I gather many of the people I did know will be attending. Oddly, I believe that the best friend I had from the 1st High School I attended now live in the same County as the school I graduated from.

I am attending the reunion. It's a 4 to 5 hour 1 way trip from my home, but I am curious about some of the people that will be attending. I'm also going to try to contact the people from the class behind me that I hear still live there. And, I'm going to try to find that other person from my 1st school, too.

It may or may not be fun, but I think that it has to be interesting.

NJL (Hopefully, driving over The Sunshine Skyway bridge won't be the highlight of the trip...;)...)

ETA: Got word that 140+ grads will be attending, of some 400 or so in the graduating class. There is a rather extensive list of grads that are on the "In Memorium" list. The hotel it is in is sold out with all rooms going to the class of '60, as is the closest hotel to the high school itself, which has been built on the site of the high school's former football stadium....:D...The EMail I got also promised a grand time for all that attend. I hope so. We'll see.

04-29-2010, 03:15 AM
My reunions were cancelled due to lack of interest, but even if they were not, there isn't enough booze in the world to get me to sit with those rednecks.

04-29-2010, 03:24 AM
I might have forgotten to mention that I went to the same school my entire 12 years. I mean in the same town, and so did probably the majority of the class. And for what it's worth, as much as I've been pushing the class reunion thing, I might have a harder time going, both financially and emotionally, if I had to travel a long way, but since I still live in the town where I graduated, I'm all for it! :) We don't have a lot of options for nice places to have the grownups only night, but I'm sure we'll think of something. My biggest issue is what to wear for the more dressy night!?

Moto Guzzi
04-29-2010, 06:34 PM
My class reunion is coming up in another week, and I plan to attend. Our last one was 10 years ago. It's always interesting for me to go to one of our reunions because I've stayed in touch with only a few of my classmates. I went to a small high school where everybody knew everybody else. Many of my classmates stayed in the same state.

I always get asked a lot of questions because people think my life is exciting, and I suppose it is to somebody who has never traveled and has worked a boring job since graduation. I was rather shy all through high school, and it amuses me to be thought to be so worldly now.

I've never gone to a college reunion, though. I don't feel the same connection to my college friends as I do to my high school friends.

04-29-2010, 09:07 PM
I went to one high school until the end of Grade 10, and then went to a different school for Grades 11 and 12, but the first school is where all my friends from elementary and junior high went - so I get invited to grad reunions for both.

Both grad classes had their 30th anniv. reunion two years ago. The school I actually graduated from had its reunion at a frickin' yacht club that was two hours drive from the actual school, and which was formal dress only. What this had to do with the school and the neighbourhood we actually were part of, I have no idea...other than that I think some of the organizers belonged to this club and wanted to show off how much they had "achieved" (which judging from the pictures seemed to involve a lot of Botox at this point). So I refused to go.

The class that I'm informally part of had its reunion at a local pub that they rented out for the evening, casual dress was fine, and everyone had a blast.

So I think whether a reunion is good or not depends on what the organizers' motivations are.

04-30-2010, 12:37 AM
My high school was split into two cliques, and at prom, one clique ruled the prom and the other clique ran the anti-prom. I went to the anti-prom, although I didn't belong to that clique, because you could go as a single and I had no interest in dating. The "real" prom required a date.

Reunions have always been planned by the prom clique. They have been recreations of the prom night, and are always held at the same place as the original prom. Sorry, I don't want to relive any of that night because I, and half the class wasn't there. I would be interested in going back there, and have a tour of the school and smell the gym ! and see if the initials I put into the fresh cement are still there. The whole school is having a 50th anniversary, for all former students and I'll probably go to that one.

04-30-2010, 03:27 PM
I went to my 20th. It was okay, not great. I was very quiet and overweight in high school. Didn't have many friends and didn't keep in touch with the ones I had. I figure, if I didn't care enough to stay in touch, why bother. but I went out of curiosity. No one had a clue who I was :lol:, I'm thin now. What they did was make copies of the yearbook photos and as each person came in, they were given a yearbook photo of someone. They were, then, supposed to find the person in the photo. At the end of the night, the person who had mine finally gave up and they asked me to step forward. :lol:

The funny thing was that all of the "hot" cheer leader types from high school looked awful. They were kind of stuck in their "high school look", had gained weight, and seemed like they just never moved forward. The ones, like me, who were either late bloomers physically, or nerdy types, all seemed to get better. I heard, through a former neighbor's mother, that lots of people who went to the reunion were commenting on my "transformation". I'd "transformed" 18 years before and it seemed so odd. I'm now 57, so my 40th would be coming up. Didn't go to the 30th and won't go to the 40th. Going to the 20th was a curiosity thing, not worth doing again.

04-30-2010, 08:23 PM
The best part of my high school graduation was the fact that I knew that I'd never have to see the people in my class ever again.

So that'd be a nay.

04-30-2010, 11:50 PM
I might consider at some point heading to my UNIVERSITY homecoming (we're very small and close-knit even when we don't actually know each other. W&L tends to create rather pathological devotion among alumni.)

So true.

My daughter is graduating from W&L in less than a month. She has loved her time there. One of the things that decided her on the school was the enthusiasm of its alums, one of whom is a very good friend of ours.

As for me, I didn't go to my 5 year reunion, as I had a promising date that night. The date became my fiance 6 months later. I went to my 10th, and then to my 20th, and then said "Enough" when it came to the 30th.

05-01-2010, 12:01 AM
Why do people go to those?

Self-harm I guess. :P

05-01-2010, 05:22 PM
Why do people go to those?

Self-harm I guess. :P

Ummm, not always.

For me, after living a certain number of years, and losing people close to me over the last few years, I hear the clock ticking a bit. So maybe for me, it's a bit of life coming full circle and seeing where the wandering paths in all of our lives have taken us.

Growing up gay in a small Southern town in the early 1970s wasn't exactly a picnic, but I still had a tight group of friends to hold on to, did a lot of school activities, particularly band, and by senior year was having pretty much of a fun time - senior class trip to DC, senior night show where I entered a skit about reunions with 5 ladies on my arm (we were all spoofing our current reputations), and knowing/hoping that everything would change after that year.

The 2 public high schools in my hometown (later merged into 1 after full desegregation - I am from SE Virginia, after all :rolleyes:) are having a combined reunion of all the classes from 1970 through 1980. This would technically be my 37th year reunion. :eek: I think my class of 1973 will have the most attendees, based on the list on the event website.

There has been an organizing effort, largely on Facebook, and a lot of people has reconnected through that and learned what has been going on in each other lives. Both my younger brother's class and his wife's are part of the group, so they will both be there, and my older brother is class of 1969 and lives less than a mile from where the main party will be held, so I imagine that he and a few members of that class may show up as well.

Some irony - the main employer for the area, existing over 100 years, will have just closed completely on June 30 (the reunion is August 11 -12). A lot of people at the reunion, including me and both my brothers, either work there now or have worked there at some point in our lives (in fact, both my parents, several uncles, a sister-in-law and cousins all did at some point, and the younger brother whom I mentioned earlier is losing his job when the plant finally shuts down). :(

For a lot of people, this reunion, right at this time, is going to bring back a lot of memories of our hometown and the way our lives used to be, probably even more so than usual. I'm not sure that is such a bad thing, at this point in our lives, with enough separation from both the good and bad of our high school years.

One more evidence of ironic timing - the Saturday event is 2 years to the day since my roommate and companion of 20 years died. I wonder if I could have talked him into going to it for shits and giggles - he might have finally seen part of why I am as nuts as I am. ;)

05-01-2010, 06:50 PM
I went to my 10-year reunion and had a blast. Several people who I was good friends with in high school were there, so I knew that at least I'd be able to see them. I was surprised at how un-cliquey it actually was. Sure, people still hung out in groups, but a lot of people that I was not friends with stopped me with "Hi vesperholly!!" and we had nice chats.